Was She, or were her parents, rich?
Was She, or were her parents, rich?
advice: treat her well... consistently -- not just something extravagant and special once in awhile. act like you don't want IT. reap the benefits. girls/women like a challenge. it's their nature. once the challenge is gone... so is the interest. bitching and moaning about not getting any is just a turn off... and will prolong the suffering. try it and see.
Perhaps I'm naive in suggesting this...
But, why don't all the guys who aren't having sex with their wive's on a regular basis just tell them that it bothers them, and actually have a conversation about it.
A younger guy wrote:
Perhaps I'm naive in suggesting this...
But, why don't all the guys who aren't having sex with their wive's on a regular basis just tell them that it bothers them, and actually have a conversation about it.
Most of us have had that conversation. It's called begging.
How LONG have ya'll gone w/out??
Just asking but wrote:
are you sure it's a woman? See "The Crying Game".
About 20 years ago I was running around Bangkok with a couple of Navy SEALs. We had just finished an exercse with the Thais. Anyway, we were in Pat Pong(?) one night and one of the SEALs starts hitting on this absolutely gorgeous Thai girl. While they're dancing away, our driver comes in and taps me on the shoulder. He says, tell your friend he's dancing with a man. We couldn't believe it, but we decided to let them dance for a while for a laugh. When he got back I told him. He was so pissed he went back to the he-girl and grabbed his crotch. He claims he didn't feel anything but the driver swears it was a guy. Told us he had seen him before. And the he-girl's hands sure did look big.
Moral: You don't know what kind of shit you're gettng into in Thailand.
Why was it the worst mistake? Honestly I am an older guy 46 never married and have had many more attractive girlfriends but in the end all of them were irritating. It seems the prettier they were, the more screwed up or difficult they were... WIth my current girlfriend she is so good to me. She is never demanding, gets up at 6 to run with me, and tells me she loves to pamper me. Last nihgt after my run she gave me a shower and then thanked me for letting her pamper me.
I wish she was cuter but maybe if she were cuter she would be more of a pain in the neck. I have come to the conclusion at this point in my life that the really cute or pretty American girls are not interested in my type. It is the same now as it was 20 years ago. So holding out for a hottie is an impossible dream.
I also try to be very good to her and I think she appreciates it more than the "hotties" I have dated. They just expected it. If I just end up with a great femake friend who I can snuggle up with at night for the next 40 years that might be enough.
What a thread.
It's kind of strange how much of this thread is about sex. I havn't gotten laid in almost three years and I could care less. Who can't take care of themselves sexually?
The scary thing is that it sounds like so many people get married because of mistaking the sexual connection for more than it is.
I've long thought now that a marriage ought to be a 7 year contract. Our lives tend to go in 7-8 year cycles, and if you want to share a cycle with somebody, that's awesome, make the committment. But it's natural for our brains to want maximal stimulation/growth, so to think your growth won't be stunted by being tied to somebody seems unrealistic, and for many that will lead to feelings of resentment, right?
I look at my family members that I resemble most, who are very independent minded and needs lots of time alone, and I just don't think we're built for marriage.
atypical wrote:I havn't gotten laid in almost three years and I could care less. Who can't take care of themselves sexually?
You definitely are atypical.
atypical wrote:
But it's natural for our brains to want maximal stimulation/growth, so to think your growth won't be stunted by being tied to somebody seems unrealistic, and for many that will lead to feelings of resentment, right?
I look at my family members that I resemble most, who are very independent minded and needs lots of time alone, and I just don't think we're built for marriage.
recently married <3 years and i hear you. in my case i made the mistake of equated getting engaged with "well, we are basically married". not the case.
i wonder a lot if i should have bailed and went it alone. seems like it would have been great now. but always hard to say. i have definitely found growth in marriage in a number of areas. but i have also felt constrained and limited in my options (not just talking about in the sack.) the conflict of marriage is tough. now, i might be out with friends and feel like i should get home or i am at home and feel like i should not go out, but stay with my wife. in the past, i might not have particularly cared what i did. but now, i am much more aware of the trade-offs i am making, even if they would not have made a big deal in the past.
perhaps it is just an idea of the limitations rather than the limitations themselves that is what bothers me.
atypical wrote:
The scary thing is that it sounds like so many people get married because of mistaking the sexual connection for more than it is.
...or because they can't wait to start having sex.
I don't think this aspect has been addressed yet. For those of you whose wives realize that they don't have sex with you as often as you'd like, do they at least appreciate that you are understanding about it? (Assuming that you are understanding.)
love = war
multiple dating = territorial expansion
exclusive dating = truce
exclusive relationship= conditional surrender
marriage = unconditional surrender
You married guys crawled out of your foxholes unarmed and waving white flags, then have the nerve to complain about your treatment as a P.O.W.?
TOO LATE.
You could have something and not know it. Not all STD's are visible. You could be a carrier sharing the wealth.
If you've gone 10 years without a condom breaking, then you might just be the luckiest person I have ever heard of.
the long path wrote:
perhaps it is just an idea of the limitations rather than the limitations themselves that is what bothers me.
yeah, i think there is probably something to that.
fwiw, i fully expect to get married at some point in the future. i just get the feeling that eventually we'll grow apart and the inevitable will happen; divorce. of course, divorce shouldn't be looked at as failure, just an agreement that two beings that became one, are now two again.
on a bit of a tangent...it's frustrating that we spend so much tax money on schooling, and yet two of the most important things in our lives, relationships and finances, are not even touched upon, let alone focused on.
Time for an old, but topical joke.
On the eve of their big wedding, a couple indulged in wild, earth shattering, last-time-unmarried sex. The next day, when the groom met with his groomsmen, he couldn't wipe the memory from his mind, or the the smile from face. When his best man asked what was up, the groom responded, "Wedding life is going to be great! Last night, she gave me the BEST BJ I've ever had!"
Meanwhile, as the bride prepared for the ceremony with her bridesmaids, she had a similar big smile on her face. When asked about it by her maid of honor, she responded, "Wedding life is going to be great! Last night, I gave the LAST BJ I'll ever give!"
that pretty much sums it up
A question for any married women out there that don't give it up very easily.
What changes for the woman? Do women enjoy frequent sex the first year or two of a relationship like they act like they do or is it all an act to try and get married? Men pretty much stay the same after marriage as before (always horny) but most women do a dramatic shift. What changes? It seems like false advertising in the worst possible way to me!
In all seriousness though, what changes?? Obviously the newness is gone but if you are in love and attracted to somebody you would think you would still love to have sex more than once or twice a month. Does it all come down to a big power issue? Do you just not enjoy sex as much as you used to?
Another random thought on this topic:
Women are in their sexual prime when they are in their mid thirties or so. This means that their sex drive should be what mens sex drives were when they were sprouting boners in 6th grade math class for no reason. You would think they would be horny and want it all the time even though they were married!?
i honestly could care less if you have a disease or not...but i can tell you with 100% certainty that I am not jealous of you, even if my wife never had sex with mebecause if i was slimy enough to hook up random chicks for one night stands, i certainly wouldn't be gross enough to come onto letsrun.com and brag about it like each conquest was some kind of climbing of mt. everestnews flash, i was young, and i suppose all the other dudes on here were as well... we got around enough to satisfy and chose (ever hear of REVEALED PREFERENCE) to get married and stay marriedso no, I'm not jealous of some pathetic wannebe elite runner who thinks it is the greatest thing in the world everytime he beds a new skank... and I certainly wouldn't be jealous of a someone with a personality who would shout it out to everyone like it was some kind of strong character traitget a life bud
MAYEROFF wrote:
CORN HOLE wrote:You could have something and not know it. Not all STD's are visible. You could be a carrier sharing the wealth.
If you've gone 10 years without a condom breaking, then you might just be the luckiest person I have ever heard of.
Sorry to let you down once again. I get tested for EVERYTHING once a year and it's all negative. Last test was a month ago. I get tested for Herpes, Syphyllis, HIV, HPV, Hepatitis, etc., and never tested positive for anything. I had some swollen lymph nodes and a fever one time, but it was just a good ol' case of the flu.
Jason
18 and life to go wrote:
A question for any married women out there that don't give it up very easily.
What changes for the woman? Do women enjoy frequent sex the first year or two of a relationship like they act like they do or is it all an act to try and get married? Men pretty much stay the same after marriage as before (always horny) but most women do a dramatic shift. What changes? It seems like false advertising in the worst possible way to me!
In all seriousness though, what changes?? Obviously the newness is gone but if you are in love and attracted to somebody you would think you would still love to have sex more than once or twice a month. Does it all come down to a big power issue? Do you just not enjoy sex as much as you used to?
Another random thought on this topic:
Women are in their sexual prime when they are in their mid thirties or so. This means that their sex drive should be what mens sex drives were when they were sprouting boners in 6th grade math class for no reason. You would think they would be horny and want it all the time even though they were married!?
Kid, women never have the same level of need that a young boy has. Never. Not at their "sexual peak". Not even close. Can't say as I blame them either. The object of desire for most men is women. Women are beautiful. Men are...well, not beautiful. I'm not saying I can't recognize a handsome man, but holy crap are women so much more appealing. Kind of why I really don't understand why any man would be gay (not that there's anything wrong with that). Elaine on Seinfeld said as much; men are utilitarian; women are art. I agree with her. I can't believe more women aren't lesbian. If I were a woman, I'd be thinking, "you mean he's got this thing that he wants to poke me with?"