Serious Inquiry wrote:
She just called back and I spoke with her on the phone. She sounded pretty upset, but not angry. As weird as it sounds, I feel like an asshole.
I think I may end up getting out of this horrible situation, but I feel like I should tell my wife, even though I know it is selfish. Not right now, but someday. Maybe when the kids are in college.
The kicker is that the woman is going to be at a party we are also attending on the 23rd. That might be weird.
I don't condone what you did. However, this is not over. Let me guess, she is single? If she is, I can tell you how this ends. The same saga keeps playing out at my office. A married guy starts sleeping with single woman. Let me stop here and tell all the married men one thing, once you do this, take a moment to realize you are an a** and go start counting the days. It's only a matter of time before your life is ruined.
The affair continues as he thinks it's only physical for both parties. She doesn't, and soon he is stuck lying to her about how he is leaving his wife/family while the whole office gossips about the affair. He ends it. She goes straight to HR and his wife. Always.
OP, you better be a) faking your death or b) packing your bags, planning couples rhinoplasty, changing all your phone numbers, ditching your computers and circulating your resume on the far side of the country if you don't want to be outed. She is scheming a way to out you. Anyone expecting her to act rationally and just move on with her life is wrong. A rational single person does not look forward to an annual affair with a married person. A rational person does not hold out hope for a one night fling after YEARS of rejection.
Be prepared to have a roomful of people hear your latest voicemail if you attend the upcoming party.