I see what your saying, but the facebook thing did work for my ex. I pretty much wooed her on facebook and had a date set up that way. So why not try things that have worked in the past? The problem with asking her at the coffee shop is that she's at work. There are other people there that will be listening. So if I get rejected its not only I got rejected by her, I got rejected in front of other people, ouch!
No, No, No. This is a bad idea. That is a passive-aggressive act, and one that will define you as a wimp. Do not do it. It is neither romantic nor cool.
Dude, people ask people out every day. Go in, order your coffee, ask her if she has eaten at (insert good restaurant). If you are in the South, you may be at Chapel Hill. Ask her if she has eaten at Crook's Corner or Panzanella or something... If she says no, ask her if she would like to go. You have been wanting to go and would love to take her.
She is going to lie to you if she rejects you, she isn't just going to say no in front of everyone. She will tell you she is seeing someone back home, etc. Do not worry about it.
JUST ASK HER. BE A F***ING MAN FOR ONCE!!! (I mean that nicely. I am rooting for you.)
Are you interested in this girl? Then just f*cking ask her out. No reason to wait, and no reason to strategize and over think it.
Just f*cking ask her out.
I'm not saying it's polite or right, but it happens rather often.
stuck with match.com wrote:
I pretty much wooed her on facebook and had a date set up that way.
Lame
Hey, I'm checking back in after a couple of more days. Has the guy asked her out yet? What's keeping him? God Almighty.
god damn you are the biggest pussy ive ever encountered.
or you are the greatest troll of ALL TIIIIIIME!!!!!!!!!!!!
if the 2nd fvcking great job sir.
if the 1st:
you met her in person on many occasions but in that kind of impersonal way of barista-customer. youre interested in asking her out. so your solution is to find her on facebook?! you fvcking stalker! does she even know your name?!
she will think you are a stalker first and foremost. there is no question. imagine her sitting there thinking who the hell is this friend requesting me? i dont know this guy. oh wait...is that...is that the guy who comes into the coffee shop all the time? oh i didnt know his name was {yourname}. i wonder how long it took him to find me on fb? why would he search for my fb page if he doesnt even know me?
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if you want to ever have a shot, ask her out in person you pussy. use the line mrs m gave above. its pretty much damn perfect based on your description of your previous interactions. pull your undescended testicles down out of your vag and ask the girl out for chrissakes!
Just wanted to be the 130th poster on this thread.
Troll is doing well.
The second day I went in she asked me what my name was. Since then everytime I walk in she says hey there so and so, replace so and so with my name. I know I'm not the most confident man in the world or even the most confident man in a coffee shop full barista's. But I really appreciate all the advice. I will not use the facebook approach. I will just build something up and ask her to do something later this week.
she asked your name the 2nd time you went in there? how many times you been in and seen her? all semester?
you have no shot. you are done. you are in the friend zone now but not even the cool friend zone where you actually get to hang out. you are in the acquaintance zone. she opened the door for you and you did not make your move. she has lost interest now since you are not man enough to make your move.
unless shes actually really fat and ugly and has no prospects and is desperate. then shell take your offer if you ever get the god damn balls to go for it.
I've seen her about 7 times since then
Be careful. There was a barista that I thought was cute for like 3 months, and then I went in and she was refilling the condiment bar and she had a HUGE ass. Never would have known from behind the counter.
Beware of the HUGE ASS lurking under the counter.
stuck with match.com wrote:
The second day I went in she asked me what my name was. Since then everytime I walk in she says hey there so and so, replace so and so with my name. I know I'm not the most confident man in the world or even the most confident man in a coffee shop full barista's. But I really appreciate all the advice. I will not use the facebook approach. I will just build something up and ask her to do something later this week.
There is nothing wrong with the facebook approach. Honestly there is nothing wrong with almost any approach...it comes down to one thing, which is, is she interested. If she is she'll be excited no matter how you approach it.
People often over analyze...i did this wrong, or that wrong. If she likes you, it'll work almost no matter what you do. If she doesn't it doesnt' matter how you ask her, you're doomed for failure. There is a little gray area, but for the most part your fate is already decided regardless of how you ask.
thats not true at all. she can like you and then be creeped out by some facebook stalking for sure. or she can be unsure about you and then you can be suave and ask her out smoothly.
dont go with the facebook approach. you will come off as stalking or desperate. at least wait until she tells you her name or you ask her out to add her on facebook.
So I went in today to get a cup of coffee, despite the fact that I was jittery from the 2 large cups I already had during the day. We talked a little, I was definitely more confident today then in days past. I told myself that I was worthy and I am someone special, it seemed to work. I really wasn't nervous, the conversation just seemed to flow.
Agreed
You have to ask her now. Pretty soon you will have reached the point where she begins to wonder "what the heck is up with that guy?". It's now or never my friend.
stuck with match.com wrote:
The second day I went in she asked me what my name was. Since then everytime I walk in she says hey there so and so, replace so and so with my name. I know I'm not the most confident man in the world or even the most confident man in a coffee shop full barista's. But I really appreciate all the advice. I will not use the facebook approach. I will just build something up and ask her to do something later this week.
Don't they ask you for your name so they can write it on the coffee cup? Someone sounds a little delusional.
When you told yourself you were worthy and someone special, how do we know you weren't lying?
trolling with a purpose wrote:
stuck with match.com wrote:I pretty much wooed her on facebook and had a date set up that way.
Lame
Yeah, and it DIDN'T work in the past. She's your EX. Relationship started on lameness.