if you’re having to ask about dating in a let’s run thread then the issue starts and ends with you, touch grass weirdo and ideally stay away from women
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible.
Imagine the quoted part of your post is your self intro, on a dating site or in real life. What impression will you make? Suppose a woman said the same thing about men, would you consider her a match? Any red flags in your hands? Anything else you offer women besides what you mentioned? Whenever you are stuck in traffic, you too are traffic.
You are still young and plenty of potential. I’m in my late 50s now but with rock hard abs and buns. Hair is jet black like Ted Danson during the late 80s. Life is good when you are patient.
Have you considered therapy? No seriously, you should start therapy and work through your baggage so you can be more accepting of someone else’s baggage. Everyone has major baggage. It sounds like you don’t have any idea of what type of personality you find attractive.
You should be keeping it light on a first date not finding out their life story.
Earning good money is not automatically going to make you successful at dating. You sound like the sort of person who would mention it on a date how else would these dates know.
If 100 dates does not find you the right woman go on 100 more. Well until you meet the right one. Don't right then off straight away. You more time to know someone
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.
I know a lot of people are going to give you a hard time on here, but I’ll assume you’re for real and try to give you some earnest advice fwiw. I’m 43 and married now, but didn’t get married until I was 41. (I.e I have about 25 years of dating experience). I’m not James Bond or anything, but I did learn a few things (mostly through dumb decisions on my part).
The first thing is kind of harsh to hear, but if you’ve been on 100 first dates and haven’t found someone to at least have a short to mid term relationship with, you’re probably the issue.
That could be a lot of different things. Do you choose women based solely on looks? We’re all human and we all want to hook up with hot people, but in the long run that can mean you’re choosing based on factors that aren’t necessarily aligned with the type of person you want to be with. Maybe choose your dates more carefully to make sure that they have a better chance of lining up with you and your personality, in addition to being someone you’d want to get naked with. Go on 10 good dates instead of 100 mediocre ones.
If you’re the one getting rebuffed for second dates, there could be a few things going on. If you’ve got any good female friends, the easiest way to find out is to run through your dates with them and ask what they think. Sometimes women look at things differently.
If you don’t have any female friends to talk to, a few common things I’ve seen guys do (and done when I was younger) to shoot themselves in the foot:
1) Being too eager. At the beginning you can’t be too available. You need to show her that you’re a happy, stable guy who has a lot going on, and you’ll be fine whether she is a part of your life or not. Talk about your hobbies, your friends, good books you’ve read, places you’ve traveled. If you don’t have any hobbies or friends, that’s the first step. You need to have an interesting life outside of a relationship.
Don’t try to be physical on the first date. Ideally let her text first after the date. Never text or call more than once without a response (a non response means she’s not interested. Accept it and move on). The point of the first few weeks and months is for her to get to know you. Don’t start talking about how many kids you want and where you want to get married on the first date. Most people need to feel comfortable first before they start having those types of discussions. Unless she asks, don’t talk about any of that stuff until you’re talking about being exclusive.
2) Not being kind enough. This one can trip guys up when they are trying to do the one I just mentioned. but you can absolutely be kind without being too eager. Ask her about herself, be genuinely interested, ask follow up questions. Pay for the dates. Don’t go off on long political rants. Nothing turns women off more than an angry or mean guy.
3) Bragging. Bragging shows a lack of confidence. There is no need to mention what you make. You can subtly show her by paying for dates, how you dress, etc. Don’t tell her some story where you’re the hero. Quiet confidence beats loud bragging any day.
4) Looks. If you’re a skinny runner, start lifting some weights. No need to be a bodybuilder, but women usually want someone who they can feel protected by. Also, dress and groom well. Going back to the female friend thing, ask for some advice if that’s a problem for you. I would even say it’s worth shelling out for a few sessions with a stylist if you need it. It’s still cheaper than 100 dates.
5) Location. Not sure of this is you, but this is one I had to change. If you feel like the people where you live don’t really line up with your worldview, move. Seriously it can change your friend and dating pool to be a lot better.
Anyway, a few ramblings from an older guy. It sounds like you’ve got the basics down, you’re a good looking guy who makes good money, and has some self motivation since you run and have a great job. You probably just need a few tweaks. Hope it helps a bit.
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.
I think change up your social dynamic. Ditch the dating apps, maybe meet someone in a place where you have similar interest and hobbies.
There are plenty of faithful, level-headed, etc. women out there. Why are you dating psychos? The answer to that lies within. Work on yourself first and then you'll be ready for a real and lasting relationship.
You talk about "brainwashed feminists". Women can see you don't like or respect them. That is why your dating life is a "hellscape".
I've been married for a decade to a woman I met before college.
So you don't actually know anything about dating since you never dated anyone after high school. Why are you posting that dating is a "hellscape". Weird.
I've been married for a decade to a woman I met before college.
If she's chained in your soundproof basement, it may not be the kind of marriage the OP is seeking.
No. I think it is exactly what the OP is looking for based on his description of looking for a faithful, agreeable woman. Basically, he wants a woman who does what she is told and never speaks or questions his authority.
You are from a completely different generation and your advice is most likely not applicable to someone who is 35 and dealing with feminist who are brainwashed.
Then you missed the good parts and made it easy to make fun of you and him. He gets dates, so I'm going to assume he doesn't care, but you didn't read the part of his post where he has one piece of simple advice that has more layers to it than the bean dip you bring to a party...and apparently leave with a much younger woman at.
You are right to skip the advice, because I've never, in my life, met man who said "I used to have a lot of failures romantically, but then I got some advice that turned it all around!" It is bizarre than men here won't stop giving advice in light of that claim, which might not be true, but does align with my experience.
To return to the question OP posed, dating does seem impossible to everyone, men and women. We don't like risk and we don't tolerate failure aka, "things didn't work out the way I had hoped." But both are ingredients to a happy love life. As is being alone without frustration.
"Honey, did I ever tell you about the time I posted in that one thread? I was on a roll, then I started to question my life choices...Honey? Wait...where are going? What? He's 66! I didn't need to know that. Well, at least I still have all those Taylor Swift songs stuck in my head..."
To anyone out there who thinks you are the biggest loser in the world: you are not. You will find someone. It's gonna happen.
yeah no. This BOOMER philosophy of "everything is ok" is categorically wrong. People are suffering dying, I literally saw a video of a man the other day on the dark net---of a man that was alive and they cartel skiined his face---ripped out his eye sockets so you could seee the the dangling white optical cords sticking out, and he couldnt even cry or speak as they took out his teth and you could see into his skul--and they were just mocking him, as they didnt kill him--they just ripped off his face so he would experience something worse than death.
SO no---people are ugly, lots will never find love or even someone who thinks they are cute. There are losers out there and people will suffer greatly.
This BOOMEr philosphy of things are ok - you will find love--is a lie and how their generation ruins the world.
To totally be good-and see reality--you must look at what i am talking about. The fact that my wordsa above could be flaggged here--just shows how lost we are. you cant even read words that show truth---how could you ever see God?
"You will find someone" yeah go tell that to all the people with their faces ripped off of their heads being sawed off on videos, and they dont die fast--you realize you can stomp a person heads in and their brains and eyes come out and they still fight for another 20-30 mins choking on own blood, andive seen this ---why do we lie abotu reality.
for every kind video---there are 100 more of murder, the internet is a lie.we promote 99% of the 1% and delet 99% of the 99%. we are lost without optics
Isn't where Connor Mantz met his lovely wife? And I think he's only 5'6" & not that wealthy (I think his Nike contact is around $200k to $300k?). They look like a pretty happy couple:
yeah hes 5"6 and that woman is cheating on him. I'm 6'5" and this candy flip bunny would be light work.
Mantz i like 120 lbs, hes a woman.
Runners are so stuck in their "running" world- at any club---Mantz would be pushed out of the way and we would take his girl.
Momdami Mohammad is right---woman should be able to tell themselves--its the only way they will make money as marriage is not a thing anymore. Any man who is shorter than 6" and think a woman loves you, lmao sure
Have you considered therapy? No seriously, you should start therapy and work through your baggage so you can be more accepting of someone else’s baggage. Everyone has major baggage. It sounds like you don’t have any idea of what type of personality you find attractive.
Bro therapy is the "find jesus" of modern time. People who are insecure and losers--are told to get therapy---its a power thing.
To then trash themselves and friends---they say "get therapy" to reinfornce the same hurt htey had on themselves. Also why are you acting like" therapy" is a cure. You realize therapist are evil, they lie, they abuse patints---telling people to get therapy and not jesus--or not say a million others things--you are dumb.
Find allah--more likely to help you than the governments ffing Therapy;
you realize how dumb therapists are--its not math and they dont even know who Lacan is?
Seems to me, now just seems to me that people (incl OP) these days just have their expectations set way too high. I dated less than a dozen girls in my life and yea, looking for a little action, but they always wanted a permanent relationship from me for some reason, so I was the one who bailed out until I felt I could do that. I ended up marrying a girl totally outside what I had in mind and it has worked out for 42 years and counting. The only thing one might assume from this is that girls crave security.
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.
I know a lot of people are going to give you a hard time on here, but I’ll assume you’re for real and try to give you some earnest advice fwiw. I’m 43 and married now, but didn’t get married until I was 41. (I.e I have about 25 years of dating experience). I’m not James Bond or anything, but I did learn a few things (mostly through dumb decisions on my part).
The first thing is kind of harsh to hear, but if you’ve been on 100 first dates and haven’t found someone to at least have a short to mid term relationship with, you’re probably the issue.
That could be a lot of different things. Do you choose women based solely on looks? We’re all human and we all want to hook up with hot people, but in the long run that can mean you’re choosing based on factors that aren’t necessarily aligned with the type of person you want to be with. Maybe choose your dates more carefully to make sure that they have a better chance of lining up with you and your personality, in addition to being someone you’d want to get naked with. Go on 10 good dates instead of 100 mediocre ones.
If you’re the one getting rebuffed for second dates, there could be a few things going on. If you’ve got any good female friends, the easiest way to find out is to run through your dates with them and ask what they think. Sometimes women look at things differently.
If you don’t have any female friends to talk to, a few common things I’ve seen guys do (and done when I was younger) to shoot themselves in the foot:
1) Being too eager. At the beginning you can’t be too available. You need to show her that you’re a happy, stable guy who has a lot going on, and you’ll be fine whether she is a part of your life or not. Talk about your hobbies, your friends, good books you’ve read, places you’ve traveled. If you don’t have any hobbies or friends, that’s the first step. You need to have an interesting life outside of a relationship.
Don’t try to be physical on the first date. Ideally let her text first after the date. Never text or call more than once without a response (a non response means she’s not interested. Accept it and move on). The point of the first few weeks and months is for her to get to know you. Don’t start talking about how many kids you want and where you want to get married on the first date. Most people need to feel comfortable first before they start having those types of discussions. Unless she asks, don’t talk about any of that stuff until you’re talking about being exclusive.
2) Not being kind enough. This one can trip guys up when they are trying to do the one I just mentioned. but you can absolutely be kind without being too eager. Ask her about herself, be genuinely interested, ask follow up questions. Pay for the dates. Don’t go off on long political rants. Nothing turns women off more than an angry or mean guy.
3) Bragging. Bragging shows a lack of confidence. There is no need to mention what you make. You can subtly show her by paying for dates, how you dress, etc. Don’t tell her some story where you’re the hero. Quiet confidence beats loud bragging any day.
4) Looks. If you’re a skinny runner, start lifting some weights. No need to be a bodybuilder, but women usually want someone who they can feel protected by. Also, dress and groom well. Going back to the female friend thing, ask for some advice if that’s a problem for you. I would even say it’s worth shelling out for a few sessions with a stylist if you need it. It’s still cheaper than 100 dates.
5) Location. Not sure of this is you, but this is one I had to change. If you feel like the people where you live don’t really line up with your worldview, move. Seriously it can change your friend and dating pool to be a lot better.
Anyway, a few ramblings from an older guy. It sounds like you’ve got the basics down, you’re a good looking guy who makes good money, and has some self motivation since you run and have a great job. You probably just need a few tweaks. Hope it helps a bit.
This is all good and well-intentioned advice, but his main problem is the salary is too low and if he’s telling women about it on the first date he has a problem from multiple angles. If it impresses a woman, the woman is sad and very poor herself. If it doesn’t impress the woman, he’s out of luck. Elon Musk can have many women and children. Why? Bc he is rich.