Serious Inquiry wrote:
I called her this morning and left her a voicemail. I asked her to call back at the office.
Basically, I said, "Hey it is me. Listen, we need to put an end to this for a number of reasons, but not becasue it wasn't fun. Call me and I can explain."
I plan to tell her that my family is my #1 priority and that I do not want to hurt anyone. If she reacts negatively, I will play it by ear.
That certainly sounds better than "Santa can't come down the chimney this year".
Keith,
You cheated on your wife, right? How did you get out of it?
She just called back and I spoke with her on the phone. She sounded pretty upset, but not angry. As weird as it sounds, I feel like an asshole.
I think I may end up getting out of this horrible situation, but I feel like I should tell my wife, even though I know it is selfish. Not right now, but someday. Maybe when the kids are in college.
The kicker is that the woman is going to be at a party we are also attending on the 23rd. That might be weird.
Be a man and accept whatever happens to you because of what you did in your past. Take resonsibility and don't try to hide anything. Your wife is probably screwing around on the side behind your back too if you are. P.s. rot in hell, n00b.
do not go to that party. get sick. break your leg. i dont care but do not go to that party. she will come up and start some kind of shit...something...anything to get your wife suspicious.
do
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party!
Serious Inquiry wrote:
I think I may end up getting out of this horrible situation, but I feel like I should tell my wife, even though I know it is selfish. Not right now, but someday. Maybe when the kids are in college.
That is the dumbest idea you've had in this entire thread, including having an affair in the first place.
I don't think that you need to tell her at all if you've really decided not to cheat on her ever again. But if you feel that you must tell her, the right time is now - accompanied by giving her your email password. Else what you'll be doing is building up her trust in you, while planning to tear it back down in the future. Even if ten years go by before you tell her - it will be totally new information to her and what she will hear is "I cheated on you" and not "I've been faithful for ten years". Why would you consider doing that to someone you love?
two things
1 tell her you picked up an std, i would be flattered if you mentioned me
2 is she married, if so you can blackmail her back
3 oh and is she hawt?
guess that is three things
Candada wrote:
Keith,
You cheated on your wife, right? How did you get out of it?
Get out of it? I didn't. I got a divorce and ended up persona non grata with the family for a while. I married the gal I cheated with and we've been married 26 years. If I cheat again she's go to my workroom and grab a pair of rusty pliers and solve the problem once and for all.
Keith, I was only kidding in my post, I had no idea that really happened. I am sorry if it offended you.
This is exactly how Keith Stone handles it:
Candada wrote:
Keith, I was only kidding in my post, I had no idea that really happened. I am sorry if it offended you.
It wasn't a secret, so no offense taken.
This is much better than the squirter thread. A few more pages and it could approach legendary troll status. I don't think it is too late to make a run for thread of the year.
try the butt
It's a win-win: either you get it or she leaves and never comes back.
The best idea is to call the brother squad.
We'll handle it.
He doesn't REALLY love his wife. Otherwise, he wouldn't have cheated on her for 10 years. If you call that love, then I feel sorry for you. I wonder how YOU would feel yetanotherchick if your husband was cheating behind YOUR back and never told you. I suppose ignorance is bliss, but living a lie isn't any better.
MessedupMan wrote:
He doesn't REALLY love his wife. Otherwise, he wouldn't have cheated on her for 10 years. If you call that love, then I feel sorry for you. I wonder how YOU would feel yetanotherchick if your husband was cheating behind YOUR back and never told you. I suppose ignorance is bliss, but living a lie isn't any better.
No, man. A WOMAN couldn't cheat on her husband for 10 years and love him, or even respect him. Her love would switch to the new guy. But men can stay in love with their main women while keeping another one on the side - we just have that much love to give.
Do you really believe the crap you spew? It's not even remotely funny. Get some balls and grow up.
Serious Inquiry wrote:
I called her this morning and left her a voicemail. I asked her to call back at the office.
Basically, I said, "Hey it is me. Listen, we need to put an end to this for a number of reasons, but not becasue it wasn't fun. Call me and I can explain."
I plan to tell her that my family is my #1 priority and that I do not want to hurt anyone. If she reacts negatively, I will play it by ear.
I hope you're a troll because otherwise, you're one of the biggest morons I've ever come across. Did you read any of the Tiger Woods news? Aren't you aware that his voicemails were kept by his mistresses and used against him?
I'm so glad I have never stooped to all this ridiculous behavior. It sounds like you're in hell.
I can't wait until she tells your wife-which she will! It will expose you as the fraud that you are.
MessedupMan wrote:
He doesn't REALLY love his wife. Otherwise, he wouldn't have cheated on her for 10 years. If you call that love, then I feel sorry for you. I wonder how YOU would feel yetanotherchick if your husband was cheating behind YOUR back and never told you. I suppose ignorance is bliss, but living a lie isn't any better.
Love isn't an either-or situation in which one must have perfect love at all times in a relationship or else does not have love at all.
I wouldn't approve of him actively continuing to cheat behind his wife's back. But if the situation is that he wronged her in the past, ended his affair, is taking steps to make sure the other woman knows he doesn't want to get involved again, and is not going to put himself in a position to be tempted to cheat again, then I do call that love. I feel sorry for whoever you're with if your standard of love is that they can never make up for a wrong they've done.
And the OP was the one who said he was going to wait to tell his wife, maybe until his kids were grown. Now that IMO is living a lie, because he's just waiting to drop the other shoe on her. I did say that if he thinks it's best to tell her, he needs to tell her NOW.