You are from a completely different generation and your advice is most likely not applicable to someone who is 35 and dealing with feminist who are brainwashed.
Then you missed the good parts and made it easy to make fun of you and him. He gets dates, so I'm going to assume he doesn't care, but you didn't read the part of his post where he has one piece of simple advice that has more layers to it than the bean dip you bring to a party...and apparently leave with a much younger woman at.
You are right to skip the advice, because I've never, in my life, met man who said "I used to have a lot of failures romantically, but then I got some advice that turned it all around!" It is bizarre than men here won't stop giving advice in light of that claim, which might not be true, but does align with my experience.
To return to the question OP posed, dating does seem impossible to everyone, men and women. We don't like risk and we don't tolerate failure aka, "things didn't work out the way I had hoped." But both are ingredients to a happy love life. As is being alone without frustration.
"Honey, did I ever tell you about the time I posted in that one thread? I was on a roll, then I started to question my life choices...Honey? Wait...where are going? What? He's 66! I didn't need to know that. Well, at least I still have all those Taylor Swift songs stuck in my head..."
To anyone out there who thinks you are the biggest loser in the world: you are not. You will find someone. It's gonna happen.
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You are from a completely different generation and your advice is most likely not applicable to someone who is 35 and dealing with feminist who are brainwashed.
Then you missed the good parts and made it easy to make fun of you and him.
It's 2025.
No one who is 66 can even understand the hellscape that is the dating scene of 2025.
These posts have given me a lot to think about, thank you for that.
Part of the problem with the "100 first dates" is that though I like a conventionally attractive women, I'm often attracted to more masculine, tomboy style women. They can be hard to find. In fact, during a trip to Thailand, I often found myself attracted to ladybois without even realizing they were men.
Then you missed the good parts and made it easy to make fun of you and him.
It's 2025.
No one who is 66 can even understand the hellscape that is the dating scene of 2025.
Unless you're a widow, dating at 66 or even 57 is just pathetic. And yes, having 100 first dates and no relationship to show for it is also just pathetic.
Can't believe it took this long for LRC to smack you down on your salary. Most of us make more than that in annual dividends alone. Our dog walkers make over $100,000 in cash each year.
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.
You were able to get 100 different first dates and zero or few 2nd dates. Either you are terrible at picking people to go on dates with or you are a terrible date.
I said most of the women I've known have had a lot of issues and/or aren't attractive as long term partners, not that I couldn't get a second date. Are you stupid? I've been the one not wanting to continue things 90+ percent of the time. Learn to read.
It's 80th percentile for individuals in the US. It's funny to me that people here are acting like it's embarrassing or something when literally half of the US makes half that amount.
Most people here are college educated. I assume you are too. This is low for college educated. The average or media includes people who work in retail and other menial jobs.
Median income figures also include students and millions of elderly living mostly on social security.
For a college educated professional, what most women in the OP's dating pool are looking for, 110K on the low side in any major metro.
Any 70 something guy would choose a nap over a date after 8pm any day
Too funny 😆😆😆 That's probably true for old bucks not on TRT/HRT.
Take 72 yr old Bill Bilichick & his twentysomething GF. I don't see how he can be burning the candle at both ends between keeping up with his GF & the head coaching responsibilities at NC, without TRT/HRT & who knows what else. Lol.
I'm a guy. Mid 30s, 5'11, fit, income about $110,000/year, get told often I am handsome. I have gone out on more than 100 first dates in my life. Finding a woman who is faithful, level-headed, agreeable, and without major baggage (children, mental illness) seems to be damn hear impossible. For the first time in my life I am starting to think marriage and kids really might just not be possible, or I might have to go abroad, something I always thought was crazy before.
Anyone else experiencing this? Dating seems like such a disaster these days.
You are gay. You sound very gay. Classic in the closet even for yourself.
Christian....doing the "girl thing for jesus"
Buddy, dating isnt hard, you're just gay and girls can tell
Any 70 something guy would choose a nap over a date after 8pm any day
Too funny 😆😆😆 That's probably true for old bucks not on TRT/HRT.
Take 72 yr old Bill Bilichick & his twentysomething GF. I don't see how he can be burning the candle at both ends between keeping up with his GF & the head coaching responsibilities at NC, without TRT/HRT & who knows what else. Lol.
the bro who thinks Bill Bilichick is on TRT/HRT is such a simple man. Bro this aint 2010
Bill is taking mdma and vyvnase---that mixed with some SARMs and you become her X dealer--thats how you get tail
this 22 year old who thinks TRT---maybe if you are 75 buddy, everyone who is smart and rich and cool def does not do that. catch up. You didnt even mention exstacy so like lmao i own you. catch up you junior here buddy. i will always own you
I just f woman. Who the f in history started this "dating"? concept?
Men f woman that is dating....then if you can deal with talking---you marry them.
if you are on tinder as a man or any social app and talk about dates and go on them
you are a simp and not a man.
I just go out, have a bottle of whiskey, and grab some, bring it back, hit it,
and no its not soulless, i hit it the next weekend, we go to church, hunt, then months later,
we stopped talking, nbd, i go out hit more.
there like frogs, when its raining, i just go out and run emm over
its called being straight
if one more of you so called "men" talk about "dating woman" or "how dating is hard" that a n ffffffffing womans category to complain about "romance" can you seee how fffing femine you are. i have to log off im so pissed this whole thread talking about female subjects. what happened to men. i bet this guy thinks hes cool and all but nah fam, if i found you, you be cute.
There is nothing wrong with refusing to “date.” Dating is a performance ritual invented for people who do not trust their instincts. It is conversation as audition, intimacy as job interview. The man who rejects dating is not broken or immature—he is refusing to negotiate desire in committee format. He knows something most people don’t want to admit: Attraction is decided long before language is used. Either the bodies recognize each other, or they don’t. Everything after that is bureaucracy. The man who doesn’t date lives in the world before explanation. He does not ask why he wants. He does not ask why she comes with him. He trusts that the desire itself is the communication. The rest—long text threads, planned dinners, small talk autobiographies—is theater designed to disguise the absence of real pull. People call him shallow because they cannot fathom being chosen without persuasion. They need courtship rituals to scaffold their insecurity. He doesn’t. If she comes, she comes. If she leaves, she leaves. No self-pitch required. He is not afraid of connection; he is allergic to performative connection. He does not want to explain himself into being liked. He wants to be recognized. He knows what most modern men refuse to face: If you need to convince her, you already lost. This is why he laughs at “dating advice.” Advice is just instructions for acting like a person you aren’t. If becoming someone else is required to get them, then by definition you cannot keep them. The man who refuses to date does not lack emotional depth. He simply refuses to trade instinct for strategy. He does not want a relationship earned by tactics. He wants one that forms in the natural gravity between two people who didn’t have to think first. He is called “nihilistic” because he doesn’t pretend that every woman is a soulmate audition. He knows that most encounters are temporary. He is not frightened by impermanence. He respects it. People will say he uses women. But he is the only one not lying. He doesn’t promise forever. He doesn’t promise meaning. He doesn’t promise transformation. He gives presence. Attention. Intensity. Physicality. The part of love that exists before language got involved and ruined it. He is not trying to be safe. He is not trying to be ideal. He is not trying to be “ready.” He is not waiting for a wife to justify his existence. He is simply living in the domain of wanting, without turning wanting into a contract. Most men are frightened of that kind of honesty. So they call him names to feel protected from the realization that they, too, wish they were free. He doesn't need to justify this stance. Animals don’t date. Kings didn’t date. Warriors didn’t date. Poets didn’t date. They recognized and acted. Dating is what a culture does when it is terrified of immediacy. He is not terrified. He burns.
Isn't where Connor Mantz met his lovely wife? And I think he's only 5'6" & not that wealthy (I think his Nike contact is around $200k to $300k?). They look like a pretty happy couple: