Nope! Not at all. A perfect person doesn't like okra, but it is not irrational to like okra. I don't think you know either the definition of "perfect" or "irrational" or both.
I know a woman who thinks she looks good in yellow. She doesn't. She's not irrational there. She's just wrong. Some people think Craig Biggio doesn't belong in the Hall of Fame. There's a point to be made there, so it's not an irrational thought. It's just wrong.
Here the definition of Irrational for you:
Irrational: lacking usual or normal mental clarity or coherence. (2) : not endowed with reason or understanding.
If you (or your wife) have never been irrational you have never been under stress. To use your definition above - lacking your usual or normal mental clarity. It isn't to say that it is typical or frequent but that someone might say of you, "why did you do/say that?" Or you could reflect later and ask yourself, "why did I do/say that?" Mostly it will be in response to stress of some kind - or tiredness - and you do or say something that you might later regret and think ill-advised, or even out of character. "It isn't me to do that!" Mostly it isn't, but it comes from what Jung described as the shadow, that part of ourselves we suppress. When it comes out we don't know how to control it - because we haven't learned to recognise it as part of who we are.
However this debate has a semantic aspect to it. We are apt to confuse irrational with non-rational - which is somewhat different, like a belief in that which has no basis in fact or is contradicted by fact or reason. Irrational can merely mean we say or do things that lack an appropriate balance, or are disproportionate in the circumstances, that arise chiefly through stress producing acute anxiety or anger, or through fatigue. I don't think I have known an intelligent person who hasn't done that at some point.
I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
Men don’t marry women for their ability to reason.
Then such men apparently marry someone who they think themselves superior to that they can control.
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I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
Most married men have a "hobby" which involves spending a lot of time alone in the basement or the garage working on screwing holes into bits of metal or sanding pieces of odd shaped wood or painting mini-figures. Go to your man-place as much as possible in order to avoid provoking the irrational woman who runs your household. Everyone will be happier.
How do you deal with an aggressive dog during your run? Does it imply that you own the dog? You are too quick to judge others. You are always looking to attack them. Be better.
J*sus Chr*st, you compare a female spouse with an aggressive dog. This place is truly loathsome - and you've just shown why.
This happens on every thread about women/relationships. Even the well meaning advice comes across as manipulative.
Here's a tip for everyone: you'll be a lot more successful with women if you treat them like fully functioning independent humans, not something to be controlled/manipulated.
J*sus Chr*st, you compare a female spouse with an aggressive dog. This place is truly loathsome - and you've just shown why.
This happens on every thread about women/relationships. Even the well meaning advice comes across as manipulative.
Here's a tip for everyone: you'll be a lot more successful with women if you treat them like fully functioning independent humans, not something to be controlled/manipulated.
This, really.
Every relationship thread on here depicts women as some sort of foe or adversary.
I was married and I was a pushover for most of the relationship. always wrong, no matter what, but I didn’t really care - so just went along to get along. then i stopped loving her, then I stopped liking her, then I stopped just caving to everything and she started accusing me of gaslighting her. you can’t win that argument - it’s like a trump card.
just bail. I met someone else and we work great together. I run into the ex- sometimes and she’s still living life in hard mode.
You have no idea how irrational it can get until you have your wife, your 16 y.o. daughter and your 18 y.o. daughter on a similar "cycle" and it happens a week before prom.
There's a very good Irish Whiskey called Quiet Man. I like to keep a bottle on hand.
Nope! Not at all. A perfect person doesn't like okra, but it is not irrational to like okra. I don't think you know either the definition of "perfect" or "irrational" or both.
I know a woman who thinks she looks good in yellow. She doesn't. She's not irrational there. She's just wrong. Some people think Craig Biggio doesn't belong in the Hall of Fame. There's a point to be made there, so it's not an irrational thought. It's just wrong.
Here the definition of Irrational for you:
Irrational: lacking usual or normal mental clarity or coherence. (2) : not endowed with reason or understanding.
If you (or your wife) have never been irrational you have never been under stress.
Simply not true. Sorry to hear that you have bouts of irrationality. Being irrational is not a given, and it doesn't happen for everyone.
keep your mouth shut and don't say something you'll regret. Ask her how she feels about whatever she's being irrational about, and just listen. This goes very far in a marriage. Also- maybe not at that point, but recommend she ask some other women (older) their opinions on it who have "been through" whatever shes being irrational about. Women don't want our opinions unless they ask, so don't give it. Chances are women who are older are mature and have made the mistakes regarding whatever situation and will share insight. This generally works in our house. The big remember is that men and women are different and your wife thinks of you probably the same as being irrational. Accept those differences and dont even get mad about it . I can't tell you how many times my wife does something I just shake my head at and roll with because not everything is a big deal, and we have over a decade of great marriage!
How do you deal with an aggressive dog during your run? Does it imply that you own the dog? You are too quick to judge others. You are always looking to attack them. Be better.
J*sus Chr*st, you compare a female spouse with an aggressive dog. This place is truly loathsome - and you've just shown why.
You are too stupid to understand what an analogy is. Not my fault.
I guess when you here an athlete say their legs are burning you think they are on fire.
Seriously man, you are the loathsome here. Always trying to find fault in others instead of engaging in an honest discussion.
The other day you said you don't have a wife. It's clear why.
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