Post-nuptial shutoff?

I'm 0/54 in 2009.

My streak goes back to 9/10/2008. I'm in an 0/135 slump.

I'm pretty sure I'm only around here to produce children every couple of years, get the bills paid in a timely manner, and to get yelled at everytime her hormones go crazy.

look at me wrote:

look at me wrote:

Im currently 6 for 53(if thats what day we are on) tonight should be 7

keep me at 6. I spoke too soon.

At least your post got a laugh out of me. And make no mistake, I'm not laughing AT you, I'm laughing WITH you.

Dr. Cuckold wrote:

not so bitter divorced guy wrote:

Wake up. Who cars what she is looking for. Why are you putting up with a bitter, angry woman who has no interest in being married to you?

I'm just not ready to give up on her. Maybe I am just being paranoid. How will I know for sure?

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The only true test is to ask her to accept anal sex with you. If she says no, then it's time to move on. If she says yes, ask for 2/3 female threesome next week. Maybe these are the things she is looking for.

I'm 0'fer '09!!! That is unless you count whackin' off....Then I'm battin' a THOUSAND!!!! Not that I've done it everyday....but I'm sure I've made up for those "off" days.....

I have to say I enjoy keeping up with this age old thread. It gives me a boost and makes me realize how lucky I am.

I've been married over 20 years and I admit that while we got off to a slow start, I told my wife in the early days we have sex "once per week whether we need it or not", things have picked up over the last half. We once had a streak of 21 days straight, just for fun. Now I get it pretty much as much as I want, all I have to do is ask! I'll say current average is 3 x per week.

I cringe whenever I read this thread. Without any exaggeration, my wife and I have sex at least 4-5 times a week. We frequently have sex every night of the week. Two months ago we went 4 nights without having sex. She was studying for a college final late at night and I needed to get some sleep for work the next morning. On the 4th night I was awaken around midnight to her giving me a bj. She said it wasn't right to make me go "so" long without getting any.

We have been married almost 12 years and we have three kids. We are in our very early 30's (we got married very young). I have been truly blessed with an awesome wife. Oh and she's super hot and recently qualified for Boston.

I think Dr. Laura is on to something. I would never in a million years cheat on my wife.

Bitter Party of One wrote:

I'm 0'fer '09!!! That is unless you count whackin' off....Then I'm battin' a THOUSAND!!!! Not that I've done it everyday....but I'm sure I've made up for those "off" days.....

HOLY CRAP.....went 2 fer 3 this weekend!!!!!! Woke up to the wife doin' a little oral....didn't see that one coming!

streaker wrote:

I'm 0/54 in 2009.

My streak goes back to 9/10/2008. I'm in an 0/135 slump.

I'm pretty sure I'm only around here to produce children every couple of years, get the bills paid in a timely manner, and to get yelled at everytime her hormones go crazy.

I hear ya buddy..... wondering if we should form a support group or something??

Bitter Party of One wrote:

HOLY CRAP.....went 2 fer 3 this weekend!!!!!! Woke up to the wife doin' a little oral....didn't see that one coming!

What did you buy her?

I'm 0 for 61 this year.

Oh wait, I'm a virgin.

Geez this thread is depressing. I used to be you guys. Was married for 10 years, never getting any.

Got divorced 3 years ago and i get laid all the time now.

I'm 39 and the current girlfriend is 28.

She's 5'7" and 111 pounds and hot.

I banged her 4 times starting 9PM on friday night and ending at 2PM saturday.

All the girls i have been with postdivorce have been hornier than i am. I started to think that maybe my ex-wife was the outlier. But after reading this thread i now realize that my ex-wife was a typical wife. All my current girlfriends would become non-horny if i put a ring on their finger! That is NOT going to happen!

I hit number 7 This weekend..

Beer Connoisseur wrote:

What did you buy her?

Absolutely NOTHING.....I have learned....Do not question the B******* out of the BLUE.....Just go with it, and good thing will come.....

Just wondering, do you feel you treat your partner well? My significant other puts me down frequently and belittles me. This makes me not like him and not want to have sex with him, even though I like sex A LOT--- honestly, I wake up at night from dreams about getting my doors blown off. So, just a thought, maybe you're hurting your partner's feelings somehow so she doesn't want to have sex with you...

sex wrote:

Just wondering, do you feel you treat your partner well? My significant other puts me down frequently and belittles me. This makes me not like him and not want to have sex with him, even though I like sex A LOT--- honestly, I wake up at night from dreams about getting my doors blown off. So, just a thought, maybe you're hurting your partner's feelings somehow so she doesn't want to have sex with you...

Shouldnt you be cooking?

[quote]sex wrote:

Just wondering, do you feel you treat your partner well?/quote]

I do all the cooking and the majority of the childcare. I frequently compliment her, give backrubs, enjoy quality time together, not just to get a piece either. Flowers sometimes for no reason, drop in at work just to say hi. Yeah, I'd have to say I treat her well, because I do love her.

We're just on a totally different planet when it comes to sexual drive and needs.

Dude, I feel soo sorry for the most of you married idiots.

I get more ass than I know what to do with. In fact, I am currently juggling 4 amazingly hot women right now--and keeping it a big secret is the biggest problem.

Everyone here is complaining about how to just "get some" and I am to the point where I am getting way too much and need to trim some fat. The only problem is that each one of the girls are drop deap beautiful with their own set of AMAZING qualities...if you know what I mean.

Life is rough....and my weiner is going to be sore after the abuse it will take this weekend.

Life is good....single.

My wife and I completed a couple of marriage-prep workbooks before getting hitched. We'd both answer the same questionnaire then compare results and talk about what the book considered right and wrong answers and why. On one of the sex questionnaires, she got one of the answers wrong: It is the wife's duty to be available and willing whenever the husband desires intimacy, or something like that. She explained that she knew nowadays that people think that's wrong, but she said she thought it was right anyway. Things have been great ever since. And if I try the moves in the morning, and she denies me for whatever reason, I know I better take it easy on that day's run, because the night's going to be EXTRA special.

OK, so I know I'm late jumping on this bandwagon, but it took me forever to read this whole thing. I've been married for about 2 years now, and our marriage is great. However, I feel like I want it a lot more than my husband does. It's frustrating. I know some of it is related to stress at work, etc. and I know he finds me attractive. However, he usually just asks for a BJ. Although it is not my favorite, I realize that it is just something I have to do for him and it makes him happy.

But, I feel like it is not reciprocated. I want more actual sex and I'm not getting as much as I want. I totally love my husband and I don't want to make him feel bad or hurt his ego. Any suggestions of how I can put this to him?

Also, he's really stopped working out, which is one of the first things we had in common before we were married. We used to run together all the time, but not anymore. He'll do weights, but that's about it. I can't even get him to go play golf! He's a great husband otherwise, but I like being active with my partner. I don't want to push him too hard or make him think that he needs to work out because he looks bad. He doesn't. I just enjoy running with him and having that connection.

I know most of you will say that I'm the exception to the rule of wives. But, there's truth to all of these posts. Women do need a lot of reinforcement and emotional "coddling" in order to want to have sex. It may seem ridiculous most of the time, but doing special things for your wife will really help your sex life. But, there's no excuse for these women who don't have sex. Honestly. I understand a drop in frequency, but sex is just as important in a relationship as anything else. Sure, a woman might not feel like it sometimes, but it's not always about you. I'm not saying you should force or beg women to have sex, but I would sit down and really talk to them about it. It's not fair to you, and also, is a recipe for a lack of intimacy and closesness that will lead to a lot of trouble down the road.