Post-nuptial shutoff?

True but who 69's these days.

I prefer doggy style : 3 -8

16 years in the making wrote:

At 5 years, I said 'I will never consider outside sex'

At 10 years, I said, 'there are some significant sex drives differences between us'

At 15 years, I said 'I can completely understand why men play around'

At 20 years, who knows what I'll say ...maybe by then I will have played around.

Nicely stated.

gilroy wrote:

OK my college-aged daughter and her boyfriend had been in our house every night for about a month. My wife have some rule about not doing it when one of the kids are home and one is ALWAYS home.

I finally put my foot down, do some talkin, they are in the basement watching some movie so I tell her how quiet we can be.

It worked.

At one point my wife and I just had to bite the bullet and just start to take care of business while the kids occupied themselves in the house in the evening. At some point their not all going to be asleep or out of the house at the same time.

runher wrote:

True but who 69's these days.

69's out. 96's in.

Is sex like baseball? Should anything below a .200 be considered the LR line (like the Mendoza line in BB)?

Will any guy married more than ten years bat .400 ever again? How about a 56 day streak?

My wife talked about this. She said Oprah had an "expert" who told women to treat their husbands like a grandmother would to a grandson caught stealing cookies. "Make him eat the whole plate"

So, the advice is to insist on having sex for about 6 or 7 days in a row.

The logic is, he will want you to leave him alone for a long long time.

My wife tried that. It did not work. I got hornier as the days came along.

11/20, and he was away 2 nights.

any head?

pvs wrote:

My wife talked about this. She said Oprah had an "expert" who told women to treat their husbands like a grandmother would to a grandson caught stealing cookies. "Make him eat the whole plate"

So, the advice is to insist on having sex for about 6 or 7 days in a row.

The logic is, he will want you to leave him alone for a long long time.

My wife tried that. It did not work. I got hornier as the days came along.

Not only would I get hornier, but I'd want more cookies too.

mr 9" wrote:

any head?

All eleven nights.

That reminds me of an x-rated version of The 12 Days of Christmas I came up with several years ago while drinking with some gay friends:

"On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me - oral sex and an STD..."

Needless to say it went downhill from there.

Your a great, great woman/human

I (thankfully) realized this was happening to me before it got to the extreme some of you talk about. We had a long chat about the situation, and while she did express a decrease in the amoung to time she wanted it, she claimed to understand where I was coming from and promised to "work on it." So I took her at her word. Things improved for a time, but several weeks later we were back to square one. I was frustrated, and nothing frustrated me more than the days where she would flirt with me all day long and tease me to death, only to not put out that night.

I wish I could take credit for the following, but a buddy passed this tip on to me and maybe it'll help some of you:

One Friday morning I sent her an email to her work address and told her how nice she looked leaving the house for work that day. About ten minutes later I sent a second email to the same email address telling her that I was thinking about her and how pretty her smile was as she left the house. A little later I emailed her and told her I was still thinking of her and that she should check her private email account in a few minutes (her superiors are allowed to read any employee's email on the office server and I didn't want to get her in trouble).

I switched over to yahoo mail and started getting a little more creative and a little more personal. About every 10 to 20 minutes I sent her something a little more suggestive, eventually telling her exactly what I was going to do to/for her when she got home, starting with a romantic dinner through the backrub and right into the bedroom, going into as much detail as i thought she'd enjoy.

At first, she told me to knock it off playfully, but as the day went on she admitted that she was enjoying it and really looking forward to coming home that night.

When she got home, I had dinner fixed and the table set. After a nice dinner, during which she kept sexually flirting with me constantly, we watched a movie. About half way through the movie I went over and sat on the couch with her and started the backrub. About five minutes later she said, I really don't want to watch the end of this, will you please take me to bed now. I had her in the palm of my hand she was so worked up. She needed it.

I said that she should go ahead and get ready and that I had to use the bathroom but would be right in. I have to admit that I was pretty worked up too at this point but also knew I was right where I wanted to be. I went in the bathroom and relieved all my sexual energy, just to make sure I didn't give in when I got in the bedroom.

So I went to bed, basically gave her a light kiss, and went to sleep. She tried repeatedly to start things with me, was very aggressive for a short time, but I didn't react. I eventually slept like a rock.

The next morning she asked if she had done something wrong or if I had forgotten about all the things I had said on Friday? I asked if she had enjoyed dinner, the backrub, the movie and she said yes, but what about after, why didn't I want to mess around? I asked her if she was frustrated after a long day of flirting and teasing and no payout and of course she said yes. And I then simply said that now she truly did understand how I felt about 28 of 31 days each month.

Childish? Sure it was. A lot of nonsense to prove a point? Of course. Mean? Maybe. Say what you will. And while she was outright pissed at me for a day or two, shortly thereafter we had another talk, and she asked if I really did feel that way so much of the time. I said yes, and said that while I didn't expect her to be in the mood every single time I was, I certainly didn't want to feel that way for most of the rest of our marriage. Things have improved incredibly since then, and if it took that little childish act to make a point, it was worth every minute of it.

Fondling In Bed After 20years of Marriage

One night, after the couple had retired for the night, the woman became aware that her husband was touching her in a most unusual manner.

He started by running his hand across her shoulders and the small of her back. He ran his hand over her breasts, touching them very lightly. Then, he proceeded to run his hand gently down her side, sliding his hand over her stomach, and then down the other side to a point below her waist. He continued on, gently feeling her hips, first one side and the other. His hand ran further down the outside of her thighs. His gentle probing then started up the inside of her left thigh, stopped and the returned to do the same to her right thigh.

By this time the woman was becoming aroused and she squirmed a little to better position herself. The man stopped abruptly and rolled over to his side of the bed.

Why are you stopping darling?" she whispered.

He whispered back, " I found the remote."

My wife and I have not had sex in nearly four months. We had a fight and she has cut me off since then. She has always made me feel like she was doing me a favor whenever we had sex in the past. I have tried to initiate intimacy but she is cold, angry, mean and bitter.

As far as I know she has never had an affair. I work long hours and am often away overnight. She does keep in contact with a few old boyfriends. She is leaving for a business trip this weekend on the other side of the country. Do I have anything to worry about?

I completely understand your situation and sorry you're in it. The whole part about "doing me a favor" rings true for so many guys and that's just wrong.

I would be pretty damn suspicious and to be honest with you, you probably need to address these issues with her, the sooner the better. Do your best to talk to her in a non-combative, non-argumentative way. Let her know how you feel and how she has made you feel about your marriage. If she's that cold toward you, what have you got to lose?

Dr. Cuckold wrote:

Yes, you have something to worry about. Your wife has decided that sex and intimacy with you is not an important part of her life and is not a priority for her.

Is she having an affair? Nobody here has any idea. But clearly she has no interest in being married to you.