Poor wrote:
I got slammed with 200 dollars of fees when then bank shuffled all my charges. I know I can't do anything about it, but it is going to be a cold month without heat so some stories would be comforting. Has this happened to you?
A person's words are very revealing about thinking. Despite what you say later about personal responsibility, your initial post is blame shifting, passive and devoid of recognition of that you could have and should have done something active sooner to help yourself. I've never been rich, but I was poor longer than I needed to be. I entered contracts I couldn't keep and took on payments I wasn't making on time. It was a simple but painful error I made of spending more than I made.
Three things helped me greatly. First, I told any salesperson that I encountered that I didn't have the money to afford their product, but I wished them good luck with their sales that day on the people with money. You'll never get pitched again, except for the con artists who tell you it's "free," which just get me to tell them I hate free things because it never is, but the person who tells you that is always lying and I never reward liars. Pitch stops then too. Second, I closed accounts, credit cards and ended automatic withdrawal agreements, till I had one bank, two credit cards and no automatic withdrawals. Third, on one sheet, I wrote down everything I owed and totaled it. Ugliest thing I ever saw, but each paycheck, it became less. Now several years later, it's smaller than ever and will be zero in the next year (zero including paying off mortgage, paying off student loans, no personal loans, no credit card interest, etc, only utilities and property taxes and current month expenses paid now.
Put yourself in charge of your finances. Be the only person you can blame and there will be less going wrong. It's not the bank it's you, for picking the wrong one, not having enough on deposit, spending too much, etc. Till you get to the point of putting yourself in charge, rather than being a passive whiner and complainer, you will have more problems than if you were in charge.
It's also a lot less effort to spend less, have fewer accounts, in the right places, and to pay down your debts than to always be a blamer and whiner.
Good luck.