My opinion, as a former progressive who voted for people like Ralph Nader and Bernie Sanders, is that people are overly focused on Trump's personality defects and not enough on general political corruption across the spectrum or the fact that the two major parties are undergoing a realignment.
The Democrats are increasingly captured by educated coastal elites, who are terribly out-of-touch with regular people who do regular jobs and can't afford to live in a postmodern la-la land. The gender stuff is just one example. Unregulated immigration is another. White collar professionals aren't going to be fighting for decent wages or public programs because migrants aren't going to settle in their neighborhoods and outstrip the available resources. America hasn't taken care of its own citizens for a long time, and the working class is frankly sick of being scolded for not putting the needs of immigrants above their own. It's not that they lack compassion; its that they have to live with the tradeoff that comes when our social policies lean too heavily towards globalization versus looking after the national interest and citizens.
I don't see how anybody could think that the Democrats are better for women than the Republicans at this point. Defining women out of existence essentially undoes a lot of the legal protections we won since the 60s. Likewise, normal people see boys in girls sports and see people defending these policies as being out of their minds. To be fair, people who think that boys are girls and vice versa are out of their minds on that issue.
Similarly, I find it hard to get worked up about Trump's "threat to democracy," when the Democratic party just staged a massive cover-up to keep Biden in office, even though he thought he was the president of NATO. Then, when the first presidental debate happened and the gig was finally up, they forced Harris on people instead of allowing party members to choose a new candidate. How can a party claim to defend democracy when they won't let the people vote, when they hide the fact that the president has dementia, and nobody knows who actually was filling the role of the executive branch for several years?
Trump is a narcissist and a blabbermouth, but let's not pretend that there's any political party looking after the average, politically-moderate American.