A lot of times your woman does not want to listen to "reason." For women, there is a time to be rational and a time to be upset. The latter is when you, as her man, are supposed to listen and be supportive. The time for rational discussion comes later.
Many women are delusional and will believe false things to the bitter end. Argue with them and they will blame you, and accuse of you "always having to be right."
If you fall for it, and compromise that you're maybe wrong, then you've not only fed their delusional behavior, but also granted permission to be blamed and manipulated.
Any thread that begins "how do you deal with your wife ..." implies a relationship of ownership - which doesn't surprise me amongst many males here - and also that she is a problem to be fixed. With such an attitude - and one so unself-aware - I'm not surprised the relationship has its issues.
How do you deal with an aggressive dog during your run? Does it imply that you own the dog? You are too quick to judge others. You are always looking to attack them. Be better.
J*sus Chr*st, you compare a female spouse with an aggressive dog. This place is truly loathsome - and you've just shown why.
Listen carefully, have an open posture (don't cross your arms), focus on her face. When you finally do say something, try to add a feeling in there. For example "Those things must have really hurt, I'm sorry you had to go through that."
Some women just want to know that you hear them and you're there for them. They don't want you to solve their problem in the moment, and if you do they might feel dumb.
It depends on what you mean by "emotional" and "irrational". What may be seen as emotional by one person can be seen as irrational by another. Anything taken to extremes can be irrational. Whether we go such such extremes may also depend on our environment and what kind of pressures and stresses we are subject to.
Irrationality that is habitual is unwell; if it is rare or only occasional it is merely human. Perfection is not a human trait; believing one possesses it is a flaw and dare I say it - irrational?
I never said anyone was pefect. You can be imperfect and yet still never behave irrationally.
I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
Lots of people do things they shouldn't. They smoke. The use drugs legally and illegally to get high. They drink too much. They lie. They cheat on their spouse. They act irrationally when they get emotional. I don't do any of those things. You can accuse me of being straight-laced if you want, but I don't fall into the flawed activities mentioned above.
We are in charge of the things we do. Too many people rationalize their bad behavior by thinking and SAYING that everyone does it. Well, no, not everyone engages in bad behavior.
And no one ALWAYS or NEVER does something irrational, although I suppose some people who aren't very self aware might think they do.*
* Not necessarily a shot at you, FP, but you're choosing an odd hill to die on. Just take the L and move on.
Nope! No L for me. I'm sorry to hear that you don't have control over your actions. I do, and yes, I ALWAYS do.
I never said anyone was pefect. You can be imperfect and yet still never behave irrationally.
Sorry, that's a contradiction in terms.
Nope! Not at all. A perfect person doesn't like okra, but it is not irrational to like okra. I don't think you know either the definition of "perfect" or "irrational" or both.
I know a woman who thinks she looks good in yellow. She doesn't. She's not irrational there. She's just wrong. Some people think Craig Biggio doesn't belong in the Hall of Fame. There's a point to be made there, so it's not an irrational thought. It's just wrong.
Here the definition of Irrational for you:
Irrational: lacking usual or normal mental clarity or coherence. (2) : not endowed with reason or understanding.
it's understandable that people will act a certain way within a moment, but if there is never a walking back, apology, etc. on the other side, you are probably correct in abstaining from marriage so far. There has to be some give and take on both sides. Maybe the next one will be the one.
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A lot of times your woman does not want to listen to "reason." For women, there is a time to be rational and a time to be upset. The latter is when you, as her man, are supposed to listen and be supportive. The time for rational discussion comes later.
A lot of times your woman does not want to listen to "reason." For women, there is a time to be rational and a time to be upset. The latter is when you, as her man, are supposed to listen and be supportive. The time for rational discussion comes later.
Lots of responses similar to this one on here. I guess I was meaning more when your woman is upset WITH YOU but isn't making sense. I am pretty fine at listening to women not make sense when they're talking about whatever or are upset about something at work, etc. It's a bit harder when they're directing it at you but what they're saying doesn't actually make sense or is super hypocritical or something like that.
For me, it would be really nice to have a woman who lived in the world of reality and was okay with dealing with facts and not have her thinking be ruled by her own personal feelings... I've met a few in my life who could do that but have pretty much given up on pairing with one as very few women are like that. Cannot tell you how many times I've had women deny outright objective facts/statistics just because they didn't like them... Kind of hard for me to understand how a grown adult can be like that, but it seems to be almost universal with women.
I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
Men don’t marry women for their ability to reason.
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