West Coast city resident wrote:
I have a buddy who's in his mid-30s, makes $400K/year, 6'3", not ugly, owns a paid-off house, very outgoing, dresses well. He struggles to get dates. His last date was a 32-yr-old, out-of-shape, divorced chick. And people wonder why many men in America are just giving up ..
Speaking as a woman who briefly tried internet dating before my marriage and was horrified by the way most of the men on it behaved, here's some likely possibilities:
- he treats women badly, therefore other in your eyes more suitable women avoid him
- he cheats on women or has multiple women he is dating, therefore other in your eyes more suitable women won't date him
- He doesnt date, but is one of those men who thinks inviting a woman round for sex after a brief conversation is acceptable dating strategy
- He's weird in some way
- He's gropey
- he doesnt want to get married or have children - not all that many women you would probably deem suitable are into casual
- that 32 year old divorcee can get back into shape, what makes you think that a 32 year old woman is unsuitable for a 35 year old man?
- More rarely, he's one of those men who have to be the prettiest one/centre of attention in a relationship and who therefore actively dislike or avoid attractive "suitable" partners. Extreme example, I know of one guy in my running club who married a divorced woman 18 years older than him from a different culture who isn't very attractive. He was then surprised that several women in the same running club he tried to sleaze on for an affair wernt interested! I'm sure he's still annoyed at the unfairness of these women "rejecting" him.
NO men whose lives are organised in the way you describe really struggle to find women unless they are players or are exceptionally unlucky in life.because men can make their own luck in the world of dating and partnering up. I'd put my money on him being a sleaze/cheat. A lot of women now avoid internet dating men because of the above, many of these men come across as cynical and out for casual, and are discounted as marriage material by what you would deem more suitable women because they internet date. These women often don't have to do internet dating to find a partner anyway.