Post-nuptial shutoff?

this is probably the most true thing said throughout this entire thread

you learn to use your tongue, and you lose all these problems

It seems that many letsrunners would simply prefer to get something for nothing.

sir crush-a-lot wrote:

this is probably the most true thing said throughout this entire thread

you learn to use your tongue, and you lose all these problems

Problems wrote:

The fact is that if you are a real man your wife will be begging for it. As I have said before, distance runners are undersexed and when their wives find out, it is a real turn-off.

Here is the real deal; M-W train twice a day, too tired for sex; T track workout, again too tired for sex. F rest for long run on S, go to bed early; S too tired for sex from long run; S maybe a quickie, all of three minutes. Wife completely turned off by this ghost of a man she married. Runners appear to have a high degree of feminine traits. Wives quickly pick up on that.

A real man would have his wife begging for it. Sorry runners.

I don't know. When I was running more and faster, I wanted it a lot more. My wife told me to go have an affair if I needed sex that much. When I don't run as much, I don't feel like having sex as much.

To the poster who suggested an "all about her night," I've done that. The problem is that she gets used to it and does nothing in return. She doesn't mind being pleased, but she tries to do as little as possible herself. Part of it is my fault because I don't demand that she put out.

lol, this is the reason she wants it every day. Took me a year to figure it out, during which sex was okay, and maybe as frequent as 2-3 times a week, but now she wants it all the time.

RI runner wrote:

Fellas. I have come in here to solve all your problems. Take notes. Get some pen and paper and write this down:

" use your tongue"

You are welcome.

Oh my gosh, you must be a genius. Are you serious? I don't think anyone who is married ever thought of giving their wife oral sex... how did they all miss that one!

RI runner wrote:

Fellas. I have come in here to solve all your problems. Take notes. Get some pen and paper and write this down:

" use your tongue"

You are welcome.

It's not that simple. Maybe just my experience, but my wife is just not interested in receiving o.s. I know I'm good at it, she always has a great climax when I finally convince her to let me, but it's maybe once every six weeks. I'm sure some on here would see no problem there (less work!), but I'm troubled by it. Either way, the tongue is not the easy answer, sorry.

I was agreeing with you... i'm guessing the poster who made the comment is about 19.

different handle wrote:

It's not that simple. Maybe just my experience, but my wife is just not interested in receiving o.s. I know I'm good at it, she always has a great climax when I finally convince her to let me, but it's maybe once every six weeks. I'm sure some on here would see no problem there (less work!), but I'm troubled by it. Either way, the tongue is not the easy answer, sorry.

Oh I know, I should have hit reply to the other guy instead of you, I'm sure 19 isn't far off the mark.

sir crush-a-lot wrote:

this is probably the most true thing said throughout this entire thread

you learn to use your tongue, and you lose all these problems

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Finally! Someone that get's it!!!

Women want you to lick it!!!

It's that simple.

Do that, and you will never be lonely again.

GUARENTEED!!!!

Last night I didn't even try, by the time I got the kitchen cleaned up it was after ten and I was exhausted. Maybe tonight. So you didn't marry you're true love, neither did I. I met him about a year ago (yes, I was married) and he's haunted me every waking moment since. Of course, I would never have acted on those feelings, we've hardly even spoken- I just figured I was somehow projecting my imaginary passion on to someone else, someone I could never be with- to remind me that I'm human. It doesn't change the fact that I married a great guy, he's everything I could and should ever want but why don't I want to make wild passionate love to him? I guess if someone could answer that question the shutoff would end and we'd have world peace.

♀+♂=♥

Once a week for 15 years! I get it once a MONTH for the last 5 years. I buy a box of condoms at the beginng of January and it last the year. They are like my monthly coupon.

I've tried to convince myself of the same thing, the "grass is always greener" thing, but it doesn't work. There's got to be a way to focus on the things we love about our spouses instead of their shortcomings, I just don't know how. I'm actually considering therapy for myself (the guy who made the effeminate runner comment will have a field day with that). But seriously, after so many years of this, I don't know what else to do besides poison her husband.

The thing that kills me about this other woman is that repeatedly over the years before we married other people, there were opportunities to get back together. We always gravitated towards each other - I could tell and I know she could tell - but I could never open up to her after she broke my heart the first time. I couldn't help feeling like the pull was still there when I saw her the other night. The regret over those lost opportunities...

I've considered therapy too but then decided to confide in my mother- very bad idea. She just looks at me like, what kind of princess of needy love did I raise. She basically said get on with life, love the man that loves you. You picked someone good now make it work. You know all the things a mother would say..so it brings me back to reality and there are just different kinds of love. You have an unrequited love and a true love from your past, say some night something happened and you slept together. I can assure you, you'd both go back to your normal lives with your current partners. You'd look fondly back on that night (with no regrets) but you carry on because that's what people do. Seriously, if your both married there's no way you could ever build a life on so much pain and sadness-at least that's what I try to think to myself. Makes the runs go by fast though.

You've been reading too many Romance novels. Life is to be gotten on with.

Did you sleep with the other guy? You're right about not being able to build a life on that now, though, even if she wanted to. I'm telling you, the only two options are poison or therapy.

You need professional help. It is cruel to your Husband to be with him if you have all of those conflicted feelings.

Since you are so young and already married once and now unhappily married again there is something wrong with YOU.

I am not kidding but my first thought when you mentioned thinking of other women having sex with your Husband is that you are a lesbian in waiting.

For God sake DO NOT have kids with this man.

I think we've got our lines crossed. I've only been married to one man, my current husband. I contributed here because I'm on the other side of the shut-off. I don't think I'm a lesbian, I've never in my life wanted a woman, ever. I've never cheated on my husband but I'm guilty of thinking about it. So, what's wrong with me I posted here because I'm married to a wonderful man who I'm not sexually attracted to anymore. Isn't that what this thread is about, sounds like there's lots of wives just like me.

I have to say this thread is an eye-opener.