I can't relate to anyone my age.

I've in a sense changed my tune since I said that. Some recent posters have brought up some very good points.

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Just going to be honest wrote:

I don't think I am going to change. I don't think I should have to. To everyone telling me to lighten up... Who are we if we can't stay true to ourselves?

Only doing things you are comfortable with is a horrendously sad way to live a life.

First off, it may have been mentioned before but your attitude towards other people is extremely judgemental. I can totally understand if you personally don't want to participate in activities such as drinking, smoking, late-night snacking, etc; but calling people disgusting because they eat some candy now and again? That seems going a little far to me. As far as drinking goes there is certainly no need to go out and get plastered, but going out with some people and having a drink or two while hanging out with friends is fine (in fact, modest alcohol consumption has been shown to have many positive effects on health). I feel its pretty reasonable that you could remain true to your own values while simultaneously relaxing your attitude about other people. You can certainly learn to not be repulsed by people that eat candy while still holding true to your values and not eating it yourself. To be honest this alone would greatly open up the window of people that you could hang around with comfortably.

Secondly, you talk alot about wanting to stay true to your values. However, it seems like your not that satisfied with your life currently in large part due to the values and ideas you hold. You might want to consider at some point writing down and thinking about your values and why they are values to you. Are there good reasons why you hold them, and are they worth holding as values the way you currently do hold them? Maybe you'll realize some of the value you hold don't make sense or you don't have a good reason for them, or perhaps you'll decide your very happy with your values which will likely give you some closure and be happier knowing you are who you want to be.

By and large I think most of the problem stems from how judgmental you are of others. You can absolutely be you without having to be bothered, repulsed, or annoyed by behaviors you yourself do not support. Doing so is to impose your value system upon others which strikes me as unreasonable and unfair. Is there really a legitimate reason why others should have to live by the values you hold dear?

You already have a sense of this from other posters who have suggested you do things like go out and drink alot, party it up, get laid, etc; Then called you "uptight" and such when you said you weren't interested. This is not too unlike what you are doing to a large segment of the population right now even if you aren't saying it directly to the faces of the people you interact with.

Best of luck man!

candela wrote:

How would I know murder or stealing don't lead to a more fulfilling life if I haven't tried it?

If you're equating premarital sex to murder I don't think there is much hope for you.

chunky chicken wrote:

If you're equating premarital sex to murder I don't think there is much hope for you.

The fact that an argument shocks you does not eliminate the veracity of its claim.

And I'm not "equating" the two. Learn how to read.

Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by a$$holes

Just going to be honest wrote:

I don't have autism or asbergers.

Are you sure about this? I would seriously consider seeing a professional to rule it out. I know it's tough to tell through a internet message board, but you definitely sound like you could have Asperger syndrome.

If you really don't have either, and you're not a troll, then lighten up dude. Life is short. Enjoy it.

Thank you LM. Through this thread I have come to terms with the fact I am too judgmental of others. I need to work on this. I don't think its something I can switch right away as it is maybe a "bad habit" if that makes any sense.

I can work at it though. I'll make the effort.

When I was in college all the socially normal engineering majors drank a ton on the weekends. Most of them did well in school, too. We actually had drinking competitions with the other majors.

Work hard, play hard. The real world kind of sucks, so you might as well enjoy your youth while you can. Since you're being incredibly judgemental, I'm going to judge you right back. You sound very boring. What do you do that's interesting? Have you ever actually turned down sex, or is this premarital sex line just an excuse for why you're not getting laid?

I've turned down advances. Never let it get to the point where sex is imminent. I could get it if I wanted it..

You've turned down advances? What does that mean? Have you ever been in a serious relationship?

No I have not. I have turned down girls asking me out. If they asked me out I figure I could of had sex with them.

If that isn't a fair assumption then I guess I haven't had the opportunity then.

Everybody dies, but not everybody lives

school isn't just about studying the books, its about learning about the real world and learning from your mistakes

and from the evidence of this thread it appears that most people are happier from drinking, etc and not being so uptight so clearly your method ain't working...so loosen up a bit...you don't have to drink or have sex but have fun and relieve some stress

You aren't you without a Snickers.

I can't believe the LRC crowd really bit on this one.

10/10. Very impressive.

perhaps you have mild form of autism. that would explain it.

"I view drinking as irresponsible and never will drink so if it's a social crutch oh well.

you sound way to religious

This guy really is a condescending, arrogant douc he, but for non-assho les that have similar problems, I found it best to just force yourself to be normal occasionally. Get drunk, dance to shit ty music, and have friendly conversation with girls. Don't be afraid to speak up, especially when everyone is drunk and doesn't give a shit if your jokes suck. Nothing with getting outside your comfort zone

I tried to get laid once . However, my stinky yeast infection repulsed my would be lover.