I can't relate to anyone my age.

learn how to enjoy drinking or at the very least give it a try. you never know you might enjoy yourself

That isn't an option.

For one I am not 21.

For 2 that is empty calories

For 3 I look down on the fools that think drinking is cool.

find a friend who enjoys your passion for running. best friend for life.

I can entirely relate dude. Thats why I come to letsrun.

It sounds like you are way way too uptight and judgmental.

Where is your enjoyment in life? I get that running is great and all, but you are like a robot just going through the motions. Let loose. Live it up.

You don't have any friends because you're a boring, miserable, AND condescending person. Work on not being that way.

Just going to be honest wrote:

That isn't an option.

For one I am not 21.

For 2 that is empty calories

For 3 I look down on the fools that think drinking is cool.

You can still drink and think it isn't cool, just don't drink keystone light like all the other slubs. Things will change when you and your peers are 21 and older. Drinking is no longer the cool thing to do because you are not allowed to, and becomes more of a social crutch ( not necessarily a bad thing). Plus, empty calories? Not 21? Learn to relax about trivial details.

Honestly, just be patient and your peers will catch up to you. In the meantime, seek out people similar to yourself who are older than you.

Thank you Virginia runner for your support. I am not going to change WHO I AM. I view drinking as irresponsible and never will drink so if it's a social crutch oh well.

I may be judgmental but so is everybody. People my age are disgusting really. They eat candy and drink soda and late night snack and its just GROSS. The whole concept of being social is completely foreign to me.

I'm sorry if I'm coming off as angry it's just I've been pretty depressed lately.

Just going to be honest wrote:

People my age are stupid, irresponsible, immature... I could go on and on. I thought I would avoid this when I got to college but no it's here too. I swear these kiddies would party every night if given the chance.

I have no friends and never had a relationship with anyone. I blame this on the fact I have zero social skills, no confidence, and on a completely different maturity level.

When is this going to change for me? I'm getting pretty depressed.

My Life Consists of Wake up, Run, Eat, Class, Run, Study, Bed Repeat. I go to bed early and wake up early. This is rare in college.

I am a social outcast and am getting tired of it. My only escape is running. Perhaps people here can relate or offer advice?

Don't blame yourself about having zero social skills etc. It's not you its THEM! There are lots of people like you and I out there. Consider yourself unique. I personally have this same problem and I am out of college so it doesn't get any better and I hate to say it.

I can definitely relate to you as I also feel like a social outcast and am getting depressed and tired of it also. Don't let people make you feel like you have to conform to their standards or society's standards by partying and letting it "all hang out." Be yourself and continue to do what makes you happy. Ultimately you will be successful in your endeavors (career, your running etc). That's what happened to me. Unfortunately, it is lonely at the top. Its the price I had to pay. I use running as a coping strategy. We need to find like minded people like us; of course that's easier said than done. I'd be glad to chat with you more on the matter. You just hang in there, ignore the haters and keep on being you!

Just going to be honest wrote:

Thank you Virginia runner for your support. I am not going to change WHO I AM. I view drinking as irresponsible and never will drink so if it's a social crutch oh well.

I may be judgmental but so is everybody. People my age are disgusting really. They eat candy and drink soda and late night snack and its just GROSS. The whole concept of being social is completely foreign to me.

I'm sorry if I'm coming off as angry it's just I've been pretty depressed lately.

Yes. We can tell, especially going by your posts about sex before marriage.

And to that, I still can't tell if you're just trolling. Seriously, eat candy and drink soda and late night snacking? That's gotta be a joke, right?

Honestly, alcohol is very useful for your personality type. The way you view drinking is quite narrow and naive.

I was once very similar to you, very shy and awkward, and did not connect with people my age because I thought they were stupid and immature. It's apparent you are most likely a freshman in college where the social scene is dominated by beer pong, house parties, and general over consumption. These scenarios can be very intimidating, and can just enhance your social awkwardness. In a few years, drinking will be more of a casual social event where it's not the main facet of interaction, but just a addition to the overall scenario.

Since you run twice a day, I'm assuming you are on a college team. Out of twenty or so distance runners, there is no one who you remotely talk to or even enjoy being around? There are probably people on the team who are also quiet and reserved, and you have common interest with.

If you want to make friends, just be friendly. Ask how people are doing, ask what they did for their run, in general be nice, and at least pretend to be interested in what they say. This may sound insincere or contrived, but other people appreciate the interest.

To the OP - I know it kind of sucks. And I know that you will get lots of negative comments on here (so what else is new?). But the truth is that it probably will get better.

I felt pretty much the same way as you when I was your age. Now I have been happily married for some time, have three great kids, am reasonably successful in business, and generally am enjoying life.

So, what changed from college days to now? First off, what didn't change? Me. I am still very much the same as I ever was (and similar to how you describe yourself). What changed is the environment that you live in during college versus in the real world. Once you have a real job, get married, have kids nobody is going to give a rat's ass if you are a party animal. Indeed, the folks who do not adjust to this reality are seen for what they are - losers.

My advice to you is definitely do NOT try to be someone who you are not - don't try to become the party animal because that's what everyone else is doing. You won't succeed because it is not you. But also, DO try to expand your interests beyond running. Running is cool but it is not everything in life. And even in college (maybe especially in college) there are lots of other options that do not involve alcohol and partying 7 days a week. Try rock climbing, a cappella, ultimate frisbee, debate...there are hundreds of clubs and interest groups in most colleges. Go look for one or two that you might find interesting. You'll meet people who can think of having fun without involving either alcohol or running.

And mostly, no worries. It will get better as a "real" adult. But in the meantime, learn to enjoy things other than running. The opportunities in college are endless.

"Dj_run" God bless you. Atleast I am not alone. Hang in there my friend. We could definitely talk about it. Trust me I will not conform.

"Umm.." I am being completely serious. Candy? Bad for teeth, overall health, Soda? Same thing.

Late night snacking? Has been proven to be unhealthy.

Why would I joke about that stuff? It's disgusting. You can't honestly tell me you recommend partaking in those things?

Don't even get me started on smoking of any kind..

Thank you for your post "Honest Answer". I appreciate it. I do also play basketball and swim. I will try to add things in addition to this.

You describe idiotic debauched fools as the only alternative to your pinched, sterile, lonely existence. Believe it or not, there exists a rather vast middle ground where healthy habits can coexist with conviviality and pleasure. Find it or live out your life condemned to pointless solitude.

Stop running and start doing drugs. You'll become the coolest kid in school.

Or remain a runner and be good at it.

Thanks, Just going to be honest. I really like your threads. I can't believe these people who are trying to make you drink and eat unhealthy. I thought this was a runner's website that is supposed to be supporting a healthy lifestyle. But then again I should believe it cause they say the same thing to me nearly everyday. And then there is this Honest Answer dude telling you to become interested in something other than running and that running shouldn't be the focus of your life. My personal experience is that people who aren't serious about their running or just plain don't like running say those things. And what the heck is this about smoking?....Next they'll be telling you THAT'S okay to do.

Post your twitter right now and reveal yourself. I am willing to bet a handsome sum that you are not successful and work at job like a shoe store.

Actually I am a successful Small Business Owner and am a Nationally and World Ranked Masters Track and Field Runner. I don't do Twitter but you can check out my Facebook page. I have to remind myself that there are people on this site that love to make assumptions and jump to conclusions. I agreed with your post about the drugs and being the best runner but now I'm disappointed in you because I thought you were above all of that.