Christmas is Here, I am expected to chea ton my wife

What is the issue, meet, The truth hurts.

I'm sure you will get along just fine.

My vote is fake, but if you're serious, just ignore. Any communication will just intensify.

Aren't you society? Seems like Russell's paradox to me.

The issue isn't the woman, it's the possibility that she will go beyond her current boundaries, and, start escalating into potential interaction with wifie poo thus bringing down his whole house of cards all at once.

I think that as long as he continues to bang this chick she will keep quiet. She hasn't broken her word for 12 years. I think it would be more risky to ignore her. Why change what works?

Because it no longer works for him and she is not content with that. Too risky to assume she's gonna just drop it based on the email.

This is why he should just f*** her anyway. It is only once a year. I think he can manage it. It seems a lot less risky than ignoring her and risking her getting pissed and ratting him out.

Lucky for you this is one of those rare problems that can actually be solved by poor personal hygiene.

Kanye North wrote:

What 35ish year old woman uses emoticons?

I know a 31 year old man who uses emoticons. He is definitely straight too.

I agree with one of the earlier posters. Catching a serious (but not fatal) STD would possibly deter her. Just make sure it's something people would not talk about so chances of her finding out are minimized.

I am posting from home, which is a no-no, but I figured that if I did not respond, you guys would just write me off as a troll. I am not, I assure you.

Here is the deal... I love my family. This whole thing started 12 years ago when I was immature and stupid (and no kids). I shouldn't have ever kept it up, but it just seemed too safe. Plus, I always thought we would move away and it would take care of itself, so every year I just figured would be the last. Now, the last two years I have realized that our life is here and we will probably be here forever. I want it to be over but she won't let it be over.

I am a good dad and husband, this has always been the only thing that i have done wrong. I know you will not believe me, but it is true. I don't even look at porn very often.

Anyway, to those who are supporting me, thank you. To those who are not, I know that it was an awful thing to do; I know.

I am just terrified of what might happen as a result of my past idiocy.

Anyway, I better get off of here.

Well, posting from home is mistake number 11.

Make sure you delete your history after browsing (if you're not using private browsing).

You can't just decide your actions don't have consequences. You can't erase the parts of your life you don't want.

If you don't tell her, you're being selfish. You must let her know for her own good so that she can decide what happens next. If you love her, then you would let her. Just tell her in the best way you know how. Go into it without expecting anything, but know that once you do it, the air will be cleared, no matter what happens and you can move on with your life. I don't know if you believe in God, but I would suggest praying about it and just letting her know how much you really love her. Otherwise, your love is not complete.

Man up, fess up, get the skeletons out of your closet and you will feel better. I understand that it's different because you're actually in the situation. That's just perspective. But that's all the more reason for you to do it and show that you can be honest when it counts. I'm really sorry you did this, but you need to make it right.

Groinal Flora wrote:

Lucky for you this is one of those rare problems that can actually be solved by poor personal hygiene.

I think this is good advice. Show up to this rendezvous with a full bush of pubic hair and a good funky smell worked up down there. Then, skip the foreplay and come after a maximum of 3 thrusts. Be unable to get it up the rest of the night, and leave ASAP. She won't email you next year.

I agree with the above comment by "someone else."

Also to re state what I already wrote. The last thing you want to do is hook up with this lady because you think it'll be the easy way out & will keep her quiet. That'll lead to more trouble down the road.

one sin leads to another.

the truth will find you out.

Everyone is treating this like it's some radically, new challenge to mankind. It's a break-up. It's been done, and you are not the first guy to cheat. In fact, given how often the wife does find out, you have it pretty good, since she has kept her mouth shut for 12 years, so she has a lot more self-control than the average mistress. Tell her you can't do it any more and never contact her or reply again. If your wife finds out, be a man, fess up and deal with it.

TheTruthHurts wrote:

Everyone is all for cheating and covering it up as long as they are not the ones being cheated on. You have terrible double standards, but that makes sense since no one likes the idea of taking personal responsibility for their poor behavoir. Nevermind, the lives that become affected because of those decisions.

The OP is a coward plain and simple. He knows it, too. Here you are trying to give him a pat on the back for turning his life around. No one seems to care about the family involved here. It's selfishness. He cares more about being EXPOSED than he does about his wife or children's feelings. I'm sorry, but that shouldn't be his motive here.

if he comes clean, chances are he destroys his family. if he continues to "live the lie," he is the only one who is suffering, not his family who know nothing. not telling them is the more difficult but also more loving thing to do.

The "hooking up at a wedding" dude posted pics.

whoot wrote:

The "hooking up at a wedding" dude posted pics.

Links?