yetanotherchick - Thank you for your post @ Big Z. Couldn't agree with you more... Plus, his suggestion doesn't even apply to me. I don't want marriage anytime soon. Why should I base my decision on him settling? fckin stupid.
also, you @ J.R. ...yes, there is a difference btwn wanting to sleep with someone and wanting to be with someone for the rest of my life. When I started dating this girl, I did not want to just sleep with her. As I mentioned, I am not the one to date around, I if I like someone after the first couple times we hang out. I liked her, I wanted to date her, I made that commitment.
You're story about the 6-hour marathoner is hilarious. literally laughing out loud.
CanadaRnr - Thanks bud. You may be right about the average-looking nonrunner, but that sounds awful. haha
775 - Thanks for your opinion! I don't feel like an asshole after reading your post. She was totally someone I wanted to date and pursue at the time and now things have changed. You are the first person (of those that agreed "Im not an idiot") to say I haven't led her on at all so far.
Good advice on getting over it. However, it's not over until the fat lady sings. I still owe it to her to sit down and talk. Closure. I know she will still push for us to work things out. So I have to man-up one way or the other. Commit or get out.
On 2 competitve runners dating ... Don't know if I agree. We work on that level. One reason (just one reason!) I want to stay with her is because I know my running/training will go very well.
good for you - that's exactly what I don't want.
long sox - don't know the rule. but i can guess. haha
J.R. - J freakin R... "What kinds of "feelings" were those, feelings of sexual attraction?" ....Yes, but not just that. Everything, I felt connected in every way. Our relationship was not based purely on sexual feelings. Trust me.
"But that would be her choice not yours. It is not your place to make choices for her." ...You're right, but I hate being an Ahole. ughhh
"Then perhaps it's not the time to make a potentially life altering decision. One reason for being in a relationship is to discover the answers to these questions." ... But I haven't found out the answers to these questions so far. Why should I hang on to the idea that I'll find them out later. And even if I do, what if the answer is to move on? Then, I've wasted my time.
"Before moving on, I think it would be a good idea to pursue your concerns with her, to see if they can be resolved in the meantime." ... I plan to pursue my concerns with her. I am going to be completely honest with her and if that is the case, then I think we are over. I don't think she will/should take me back. However, if we call it quits for good tomorrow or the next day and I feel like a total fcking idiot 2 weeks from then, I truly believe I can get her back.
So, what's the harm in ending things now and seeing how it plays out?
I'm heading to bed. I'll post the updated count tomorrow morning.
Thanks everyone!