Getting Married: Help

buy a nice CZ engagement ring for less than $1K. you can upgrade down the road.

Guys, the big fat wedding is for her - not you. So many nihilistic and negative posts. Give the girl her day.

Marriage has many advantages: Financial, emotional, and having kids that natural way. Good on ya bru!

runnnner wrote:

Maybe you're different, but we didn't see our wedding day as being all about us. It was a big day for our family and friends too. They were all part of the journey that led to us being together.

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UG UG UG!!!!!!!!! I think marriage is a great idea - wahoo, I'm excited for all those getting married. But what makes you think that other people want to be involved?!? Why isn't a weeding between the two making the deal?

Maybe it's because I'm female and have to deal with the bridezillas every wedding but JEEEEEEEZZZZ. Just freaking elope.

This summer will be my 3rd time being made of honor and not looking forward to wearing a GREEN bridesmaid dress with ugly-ass high heels. I also resent that I will have to take TWO days off from work in a job that I can lose any day. Plus the thousand on travel when I cannot afford anything.

I'm married too but I didn't make anyone wear anything when I got married.

OK, I'll answer:

engagement ring - 600

wedding band - him 200, me 0

dress - 0 (great thing about having an awesome body is that you don't have to worry about clothes, haha)

reception - didn't have one

bottle of Dom Perignon - 250

lunch at fancy hotel - 300 (I won the money in a race that morning!)

honeymoon - 2,000

Engagement ring: $3,800

Wedding band - my wife, maybe $500. me - about $50

Dress - $0

Reception - about $200, mostly on beer, the rest on burgers and dogs

Honeymoon - $0.

-and saved a few grand by getting my wife on my health insurance.

As to money that's probably better measured as a proportion of your means you're willing to spend than any absolute number no? Do you really think the letsrun community is your socioeconomic peer group?

and some airlines have airfares to mexico and the caribbean right now for well under 100 bucks. jump on that, and even if you go during hurricane season, as we did, you'll probably not get caught in one. sure, cozumel was destroyed a week or two later. didn't affect us.

Ms. so-not-a-girly-girl wrote:

This summer will be my 3rd time being made of honor and not looking forward to wearing a GREEN bridesmaid dress with ugly-ass high heels. I also resent that I will have to take TWO days off from work in a job that I can lose any day. Plus the thousand on travel when I cannot afford anything.

I'm married too but I didn't make anyone wear anything when I got married.

WOW - a naked wedding! COOL!

I understand how much it sucks for those involved in the bridal party, cost-wise, especially if you're involved in multiple weddings. We had 3 kids in the party (2 flower girls, their own dresses; 1 ring bearer, tux) and best man & man of honor. Simple; no ugly bridesmaid dresses that cost too much.

YOU are the crazy one!$20,000 for the wedding?????And you think you "saved money"???This is dumb, disgusting consumerism and greed.

Why didn't you just say no if it's that horrible for you to be involved?

This is a response from a naive person. If you cannot have a nice event with someone without going over the top for a 100 person wedding, you are the one who needs to grow up

Engagement ring: $2000 (I switched out the diamond in the middle for one from an earring in the store. Always look for backdoors and always try to bargain and drop the price)

Wedding ring: Hers-$450 Mine-$25 online (watch dealcatcher.com for deals once you know your size)

Wedding Dress: $320 (If you live in the city, check out some of the smaller towns nearby for cheaper options. You do only wear the thing once...)

Wedding Price: $4700 (This is where the cost really comes in. You have to rent a place, pay for food if you want, pay the band/dj, pay the preacher, pay the church or location, etc. Just do your best and get married where you want. My local church didn't charge us, and this price is after feeding 350 people. We went to costco and bought a ton of food. Ladies at my church then helped out with serving, so there was our catering. It was much much cheaper! Big wedding too...)

Honeymoom: $2500 (we went to Disneyworld 2 days and stayed on the beach for 9 days in a really nice condo in New Smyrna Beach Florida. We ate out a lot, cooked together some and then just enjoyed the beach and resort the rest of the time. It was the best week I've ever had!)

All in all, set out your budget and see what you can afford. My parents gave us the plane tickets, so that was paid for. A lot of people helped pay for our honeymoon by giving cash or just by paying for certain things. Her mom paid for the rental car, which was $342.57 after charges for 9 days and it was a convertible. Always, always, always shop for deals!

Two of my friends are getting married this summer, it may not be typical as they're both students but they're spending a fraction of most of the costs listed here.

just remember that odds are your first marriage will be a practice run.

you will get to do it all over again sometime within the next 10 years!

The only thing people remember is who was there with them. I think that is the most important part of the wedding, and frankly, for us, that is what it was all about.

Best thing we did was have the maid of honor go around to all the guests with a Polaroid camera & a blank book - each guest couple took a photo, pasted it into the book and wrote something about the day, themselves or us. That was better than any of the pictures or 4K photographer took and is what we saved over the years.