Only way to avoid gold diggers when dating Eastern European women is to not date Eastern European women.
No, you just have to test them . LoL
Well, if they aren't then they hit the wall pretty hard by the time they hit their 40s. I live in a HCOL area and I see EE MOBs somewhat frequently around here. I can usually tell from how they dress in designer luxury clothing and thick makeup and hairstyles before they even open their mouths to reveal their accents. Most apparently don't work because they can't, or if they do work it's low level and they aren't that good at it.
Even at my age, I've had multiple women in their 20s tell me straight up that they're very attracted to me but that the age difference is too much and weird for them.
They are probably lying about being attracted to you and letting you down easy, but either way a no is a no. You can try lying by a couple of years about your age, especially if you are fitter than average.
You should be able to find women in their late 20s and early 30s judging by my wife's friend group (although they will likely skew towards less family oriented and less attractive). You need to be going places where you might meet them though.
For those out there reading for unsolicited advice, there is a time for everything in life and the time for marriage and kids is earlier than society tells us.
I am in my late 30s, and even at this age, it seems like 80% of the women roughly in my age bracket on dating apps are single moms. The other 20% are ugly spinsters. I am beginning to think the only real way to find a quality woman who isn't a single mom is to date women 30 or younger, but I'm not sure how realistic that is if you're 40+ years old? Even at my age, I've had multiple women in their 20s tell me straight up that they're very attracted to me but that the age difference is too much and weird for them. I'm not blaming them exactly, just that it seems like the outlook for single guys in their late 30s and 40s is pretty bleak unless you're a multi-millionaire. I live in a somewhat rural area though... Is it any better in big cities?
Single mom's likely are using the dating apps at high rates than childless women because they have a harder time going out to meet people with kids at home
I am in my late 30s, and even at this age, it seems like 80% of the women roughly in my age bracket on dating apps are single moms. The other 20% are ugly spinsters. I am beginning to think the only real way to find a quality woman who isn't a single mom is to date women 30 or younger, but I'm not sure how realistic that is if you're 40+ years old? Even at my age, I've had multiple women in their 20s tell me straight up that they're very attracted to me but that the age difference is too much and weird for them. I'm not blaming them exactly, just that it seems like the outlook for single guys in their late 30s and 40s is pretty bleak unless you're a multi-millionaire. I live in a somewhat rural area though... Is it any better in big cities?
Single mom's likely are using the dating apps at high rates than childless women because they have a harder time going out to meet people with kids at home
I have several forty something single, childless female friends on the apps. Their complaints are mostly the guys on the apps are lying about their age and look ten years older than they state, and that these women think they are better than what’s available to them.
The truth is probably somewhere in between. Men don’t bother with the sunscreen and take horrible pix, and the women think too highly of themselves even tho they are single in their 40s still.
Even at my age, I've had multiple women in their 20s tell me straight up that they're very attracted to me but that the age difference is too much and weird for them.
They are probably lying about being attracted to you and letting you down easy, but either way a no is a no. You can try lying by a couple of years about your age, especially if you are fitter than average.
You should be able to find women in their late 20s and early 30s judging by my wife's friend group (although they will likely skew towards less family oriented and less attractive). You need to be going places where you might meet them though.
For those out there reading for unsolicited advice, there is a time for everything in life and the time for marriage and kids is earlier than society tells us.
No guy at any age is a problem for a woman if they are good looking and/or wealthy. Keanu Reeves is 62 and he’s got every woman from every walk of life after him. Probably the same with Brad Pitt even with his crazy ass baggage.
I am in my late 30s, and even at this age, it seems like 80% of the women roughly in my age bracket on dating apps are single moms. The other 20% are ugly spinsters. I am beginning to think the only real way to find a quality woman who isn't a single mom is to date women 30 or younger, but I'm not sure how realistic that is if you're 40+ years old? Even at my age, I've had multiple women in their 20s tell me straight up that they're very attracted to me but that the age difference is too much and weird for them. I'm not blaming them exactly, just that it seems like the outlook for single guys in their late 30s and 40s is pretty bleak unless you're a multi-millionaire. I live in a somewhat rural area though... Is it any better in big cities?
Age gap guy here.
I was 36 when I started dating my now-wife, who was 26 at the time. About a decade later, we're married with kids, and 10 years is less of a difference when you get to mid-30s and mid-40s.
I'll say from experience that being in your 30s is no barrier to finding a woman in her 20s. Coming across as pathetic, self-pitying, entitled and hypocritical may be a barrier for OP, though.
Most men are aware that most women reproduce before that age.
And yet have this guy saying "the other 20%" are not good enough for him. He even calls them "spinsters" -- which literally means a single woman. I think that is what he is looking for?? (Oh, right, these are the wrong single women for OP.)
If you are in your late 30s, and have not paired off, don't complain about what is left after most "quality" men and women have done so. You are Christmas shopping on December 24. Whether you are still single by choice or by failure, that's on you.
I am in my late 30s, and even at this age, it seems like 80% of the women roughly in my age bracket on dating apps are single moms. The other 20% are ugly spinsters. I am beginning to think the only real way to find a quality woman who isn't a single mom is to date women 30 or younger, but I'm not sure how realistic that is if you're 40+ years old? Even at my age, I've had multiple women in their 20s tell me straight up that they're very attracted to me but that the age difference is too much and weird for them. I'm not blaming them exactly, just that it seems like the outlook for single guys in their late 30s and 40s is pretty bleak unless you're a multi-millionaire. I live in a somewhat rural area though... Is it any better in big cities?
Bless your heart.
Ever consider that maybe you, also, are an ugly spinster?
The answer is yes, it is possible, but perhaps not for you . . .
I am in my late 30s, and even at this age, it seems like 80% of the women roughly in my age bracket on dating apps are single moms. The other 20% are ugly spinsters. I am beginning to think the only real way to find a quality woman who isn't a single mom is to date women 30 or younger, but I'm not sure how realistic that is if you're 40+ years old? Even at my age, I've had multiple women in their 20s tell me straight up that they're very attracted to me but that the age difference is too much and weird for them. I'm not blaming them exactly, just that it seems like the outlook for single guys in their late 30s and 40s is pretty bleak unless you're a multi-millionaire. I live in a somewhat rural area though... Is it any better in big cities?
Bless your heart.
Ever consider that maybe you, also, are an ugly spinster?
The answer is yes, it is possible, but perhaps not for you . . .
THIS.
OP should accept the fact that he is no different from these women he denigrates; many of them likely think that he is not a "quality" man.
Let me re-write this from the hypothetical perspective of a woman his age. (I'm a 40-something guy with a 30-something wife, a decade younger than me, so through her I know plenty of single 30-something woman and see their successful relationships coming together.)
I am in my late 30s, and even at this age, it seems like 80% of the men roughly in my age bracket on dating apps are single dads. The other 20% are ugly single men. I am beginning to think the only real way to find a quality man who isn't a single dad is to date men 30 or younger, but I'm not sure how realistic that is if you're 40+ years old?
Doesn't exactly sound like a catch, just a miserable misanthrope!
If you are in your late 30s, and have not paired off, don't complain about what is left after most "quality" men and women have done so. You are Christmas shopping on December 24. Whether you are still single by choice or by failure, that's on you.
did my damndest to keep the cancer from killing my wife. But you're right, I failed. Better luck next life.
For your information, I am 5’11” and fit (120lbs). I have plenty of hair on the side/back of my head but I do a buzz cut in the top to hide my receding hairline but I grow it out long in the back so that people think I have a sense of style. I have a walrus mustache and wear thick aviator glasses. I drive a paid off 2007 Toyota Camry. Younger women tell me all the time that if it wasn’t for my age, they’d date me.
So, I thought it would have been extremely obvious, but this wasn't me. If you couldn't immediately tell that, you might want to turn your brain on a bit. No offense.
At least the other guy had a sense of humor. Although a paid off Toyota Camry is 🔥
Ever consider that maybe you, also, are an ugly spinster?
The answer is yes, it is possible, but perhaps not for you . . .
THIS.
OP should accept the fact that he is no different from these women he denigrates; many of them likely think that he is not a "quality" man.
Let me re-write this from the hypothetical perspective of a woman his age. (I'm a 40-something guy with a 30-something wife, a decade younger than me, so through her I know plenty of single 30-something woman and see their successful relationships coming together.)
I am in my late 30s, and even at this age, it seems like 80% of the men roughly in my age bracket on dating apps are single dads. The other 20% are ugly single men. I am beginning to think the only real way to find a quality man who isn't a single dad is to date men 30 or younger, but I'm not sure how realistic that is if you're 40+ years old?
Doesn't exactly sound like a catch, just a miserable misanthrope!
Men in their late 30s and 40s are MUCH higher value than women of this age range. Are you stupid? Ever heard of sexual market value?
For a start, keep dating apps on the side as a pinch of salt, don't invest too much energy into it and just go out there to socialise, clubs, social events, hobby groups, you will meet people from all walks of life.
Frankly speaking, your value as a late 30s guy isn't too shabby especially if you have an established career, relatively sociable and can groom yourself well. You can still bag single women in their early 30s or late 20s if you have that value in you.
Look inwards on what you can improve on and put yourself out there.
Cities and their suburbs have lots of women in their 30s who are neither married, nor single moms. Dating apps are only one way to find women and many good ones don't use them. Good luck.
That is what is hard for me to believe that 57 (or 60 by the time you get this note) actually believe what they hear on Fox News.
'I've had multiple women in their 20s tell me straight up that they're very attracted to me but that the age difference is too much and weird for them.'
I dated a few aged 40 ish & married one they are just being polite
In my 30's went out with ones same age younger and older & am no James Bond!
26-mid 30's you just need to look harder
All this love comes when you are not trying is bs. Does that work for anything else
Get out on loads of dates - internet bars clubs people you meet in daily life
I know people who have been married for years decades me tin all those places