Just be glad that she isn't secretly addicted to hard drugs and turning tricks on the side to support her habit. Women who act super normal to the point that it gets a bit boring are keepers. Marry the "basic" girl and date strippers behind her back.
this ain't /r/runningcirclejerk buddy
OP, what do you mean by "basic"? Unglamorous, salt of the earth, girl next door type?
I'd be estatic to find a woman like that.
What are you looking for?
If you find her to not be "basic" normally then you are likely exposing your own jealously in how easily she found common ground during the run. She is not as awkward as you and you didn't expect that. I get this from the fact that you thought the male runners were basic too.
On the other hand if you realize she is "basic" after 8 months then you are probably not in that much of a real relationship.
I reckon we all get programmed to consume and socialize along well-worn arcs. Pretty much.
I try to spend time away from my damn phone!
Basic Betches wrote:
Ok, I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months and she's suggested for a while that we go to a local run club that is all over her social media. She doesn't run but stays active at the gym and stuff while I run on my own, nothing crazy but I race and do workouts and try to stay in decent shape. Well, we went to the run club and it was pretty eye opening to see just how many girls were almost exactly like my girlfriend, lined up in head to toe Lulu/Alo/Vuori with a mix of Alphaflys and Hokas for kicks. I shuffled along with them through 3 miles of talking about coffee shops, their favorite tv shows (Ted Lasso, The Office, Parks & Rec), or celebrity bs gossip. By the end, it felt like I'd done a trail ultra. I was exhausted! It was also a little eye-opening to see just how basic my girlfriend was in her "natural habitat." This has actually made me question my relationship with her and just left me with this weird feeling about it. I'm not some crazy avant-garde dude who has all kinds of niche interests but I did feel a little like that scene in Toy Story where Buzz sees all the other toys just like him on the shelf, except it was a whole run squad of my girlfriend and she just seamlessly mixed in with them. Am I crazy or overreacting? Is it that big of a deal to be with someone who is "basic" in their mid-twenties?
I read all these cute stories on this first page. I just met some girl I hang with out and she introduced me to all her friends, I took too much and we all slayed the night. They were all in their mid to late twenties. Last time we went we all went back to their hot tub.
this type of stuff only happens when you stop running. I quit 3 years ago, and the ladies love me now
sincerely,
the truth is even worse
Basic Betches wrote:
Ok, I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months and she's suggested for a while that we go to a local run club that is all over her social media. She doesn't run but stays active at the gym and stuff while I run on my own, nothing crazy but I race and do workouts and try to stay in decent shape. Well, we went to the run club and it was pretty eye opening to see just how many girls were almost exactly like my girlfriend, lined up in head to toe Lulu/Alo/Vuori with a mix of Alphaflys and Hokas for kicks. I shuffled along with them through 3 miles of talking about coffee shops, their favorite tv shows (Ted Lasso, The Office, Parks & Rec), or celebrity bs gossip. By the end, it felt like I'd done a trail ultra. I was exhausted! It was also a little eye-opening to see just how basic my girlfriend was in her "natural habitat." This has actually made me question my relationship with her and just left me with this weird feeling about it. I'm not some crazy avant-garde dude who has all kinds of niche interests but I did feel a little like that scene in Toy Story where Buzz sees all the other toys just like him on the shelf, except it was a whole run squad of my girlfriend and she just seamlessly mixed in with them. Am I crazy or overreacting? Is it that big of a deal to be with someone who is "basic" in their mid-twenties?
I had asked whether her boobies were runner-flat or juicy but someone deleted it. Why? It’s a pertinent question in response to OP’s post of immense gravitas.
Basic Betches wrote:
Ok, I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months and she's suggested for a while that we go to a local run club that is all over her social media. She doesn't run but stays active at the gym and stuff while I run on my own, nothing crazy but I race and do workouts and try to stay in decent shape. Well, we went to the run club and it was pretty eye opening to see just how many girls were almost exactly like my girlfriend, lined up in head to toe Lulu/Alo/Vuori with a mix of Alphaflys and Hokas for kicks. I shuffled along with them through 3 miles of talking about coffee shops, their favorite tv shows (Ted Lasso, The Office, Parks & Rec), or celebrity bs gossip. By the end, it felt like I'd done a trail ultra. I was exhausted! It was also a little eye-opening to see just how basic my girlfriend was in her "natural habitat." This has actually made me question my relationship with her and just left me with this weird feeling about it. I'm not some crazy avant-garde dude who has all kinds of niche interests but I did feel a little like that scene in Toy Story where Buzz sees all the other toys just like him on the shelf, except it was a whole run squad of my girlfriend and she just seamlessly mixed in with them. Am I crazy or overreacting? Is it that big of a deal to be with someone who is "basic" in their mid-twenties?
Do the right thing: show her this comment, or tell her now about your thoughts and feelings. Get your ideas about "basic" together and clear before you tell her. Good luck in finding someone as "complex" as you!
You sound like a horrible boyfriend if not a horrible human.
Basic Betches wrote:
Ok, I've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months and she's suggested for a while that we go to a local run club that is all over her social media. She doesn't run but stays active at the gym and stuff while I run on my own, nothing crazy but I race and do workouts and try to stay in decent shape. Well, we went to the run club and it was pretty eye opening to see just how many girls were almost exactly like my girlfriend, lined up in head to toe Lulu/Alo/Vuori with a mix of Alphaflys and Hokas for kicks. I shuffled along with them through 3 miles of talking about coffee shops, their favorite tv shows (Ted Lasso, The Office, Parks & Rec), or celebrity bs gossip. By the end, it felt like I'd done a trail ultra. I was exhausted! It was also a little eye-opening to see just how basic my girlfriend was in her "natural habitat." This has actually made me question my relationship with her and just left me with this weird feeling about it. I'm not some crazy avant-garde dude who has all kinds of niche interests but I did feel a little like that scene in Toy Story where Buzz sees all the other toys just like him on the shelf, except it was a whole run squad of my girlfriend and she just seamlessly mixed in with them. Am I crazy or overreacting? Is it that big of a deal to be with someone who is "basic" in their mid-twenties?
Horrible bf. You probably don’t even go down on her.
Without a doubt, the funniest thing I have read on this board.
Thanks for the laugh. Well done.
Basic Betches wrote:
The bolded part nailed pretty much how I was feeling when I posted this. Not to say my friends and I are really smart and have all these intellectual, esoteric interests but we don't talk exclusively about fantasy football or the latest Marvel movie. It's been pretty similar since I started dating my girlfriend and I wouldn't describe any of her friends I've met so far as "basic" the way I laid it out in the first post. Again, it was our first time at this run club so we didn't really know anybody there so I guess she was going with the flow and talking about lowest common denominator topics. It did make me realize that she is way better at adapting to social situations like that, whereas I just either feel uncomfortable or kind of roll my eyes that we have to talk about this stuff. Hoping some of her skills start to rub off on me.
Okay then. If she is fine in normal daily life and this was more of a new situation, there you are good to go.
It is only a problem if this is all she can talk about all the time... but you said it wasn't.
Nothing to worry about. Go back to having a normal life and be happy she can adapt to social settings well.
this is a joke thread but the correct answer is be glad she's normal.
heheh wrote:
If you find her to not be "basic" normally then you are likely exposing your own jealously in how easily she found common ground during the run. She is not as awkward as you and you didn't expect that. I get this from the fact that you thought the male runners were basic too.
On the other hand if you realize she is "basic" after 8 months then you are probably not in that much of a real relationship.
Sounds like OP was pacing with the girls while they were talking about coffee shops and such (able to hold a conversation at zone 2 jogging pace) while he was running the ultra.
That sounds like a cool girlfriend who is able to mix and rapport more easily with strangers in a new setting. She was also interested enough to go to his hobby, and more likely to go to others after having had a positive experience. I imagine someone like this is a good wing-person and natural complement for a broad range of life activities.
Be glad that she can be a more normal "basic" runner, most runners can't socialize their way out of a paper bag whether that's holding a fake ass boring convo or an actual conversation. As someone in their mid 20s I can only hold normal conversations with runners a decade older OR normal people who just happen to show up to run club to train for some random fun run they signed up for but then leave after they decide everyone is too weird.
Monk Mode Time wrote:
It's time to leave everything behind, find a monastery and enter Monk Mode, my friend.
Channel your inner A-aron too! Surely, you jets, right? :)
You have to really define the word basic. Some of us have no idea what you’re talking about
Sounds like you are unhappy. No woman can live up to the relation you have with yourself. Perhaps you should stick to pouring your own tea.