What does it mean when a girl says you are too good for her?

I am none of those things.

The only women who keep saying this to me are POOR women. I never have this experience with wealthy women. Wealthy women except me for who I am and view me as an equal and don't tell me I'm too good for them.

It means she isn't interested in you and doesn't want to say it outright. Women will often say things such as "I like you too much" or "I don't want to lose our friendship" where the subtext is "I am not attracted to you and you do not hold any interest for me".

some dudes get hung up on the message, try to debate the label with them, or claim they'll fix the label -- and in either case, try and force continued interaction. you're being brushed off. take the hint. on to the next one. the label being applied doesn't really matter.

and you want to move to the next one because you "want to actually be wanted." someone who appreciates you for you and doesn't think your natural ways are a problem.

if you are repeatedly meeting the same response then my advice is get some new interests and try meeting people someplace new. fishing in the same pond may catch similar fish over and over. IMO if you're geting "too nice," then do church mixers or nerd groups. seek out people like you who will appreciate someone nice.

Go away, David.

Then you're probably just ugly.

Like others have said, they are trying not to hurt your feelings.

But it's a red flag that this has happened "several" times. How many dates / how long has the relationship lasted before they break up with you? How many times is several?

You might want to politely push back and try to get at least one ex to tell you the real reason, in case it's something you can fix (for future relationships). Eg bad hygiene, talk too much about yourself, stingy tipper, who knows.

Let ne reiterate.

Wealthy women WANT me, but they do not NEED me.

I am extremely attracted to poor women because they NEED me.

The poor women that I interact with all very very long legal jackets. They all tell me that I am too good for them.

So, I am asking all of you again.....

If you were the poor woman with the long legal jacket, and someone like me came your way and worshipped you and offered you and your son a nice life, why not take it? I know that if I was in their shoes and someone came my way and offered me free life long love and free life long housing, I would jump all over it.

Dating down or dating your equal just doesn't make any "psychological" sense.

I’m blessed with an older brother who is wise. Early on he told me this: ALWAYS be the one who got away. If you find a chick you are into, if she’s not equally or more into you, walk away and fast. Why?

1) you’re wasting time, a girl is going to like you or not and will select or ignore whatever characteristics or behavior needed to support that narrative. The opportunity cost is time finding or hanging out with the right chick.

2) YOU need to understand your worth. By holding on and ‘trying to work it out’, it’s a message to the world and also you that are not worthy of a great relationship. Walking away shows that you have the control. A sad situation exists in 2024 - mental illness and disordered thinking seems almost more common than not.

3) It’s 100% ok to devote a good portion of your resources into making yourself appealing to the opposite sex, which often helps with #1. Find the right partner and really whatever else happens, life the ok. All the other stuff ($, status, stuff, friends, trips) can be perfect, but if you’re in a busted relationship it’s going to suck.

4) As to 3, what I observed is that women basically sort on competence. So ask yourself ‘who’s the most competent person I know’, then pattern yourself after that. My observation is that attractiveness only helps when the guy is also competent. So you need to be put together but not like the level of a gay dude who’s all primped and perfect. I think a guy who’s well rounded (can fix stuff, is good at, but not obsessed with job/sports/hobbies, good relationships with friends and family), is going to attract QUALITY women. In my book quality is: attractive, reasonable to deal with, emotionally intelligent, resilient, family oriented, no chips on her shoulder, fun, kind. In 2024, stay the hell away from the 10/10 hotties, it’s a losing battle, even if you ‘win’..

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Still. Great work, mods.

My sister was dating a guy who was athletic, had a successful career
and literally was a Rhodes scholar. She broke it off, and I’m sure
she tossed a throwaway line or two at him. She later told me she was
looking for someone more “edgy” and she ended up with just what
she wanted, a total piece of garbage. They got married and had a kid.
I recently went to my niece’s Christmas performance at their
church. The new edgy guy went outside to smoke a cigarette and got in
a fight with an old man. Classy! I guess my point is, sometimes when
you don’t really feel like you’re winning, you actually are.

To the person who said women also use the excuse of I'm working on myself, they use that excuse because the woman's psychologist or psychiatrist is TELLING HER not to date anyone until her own mental health issues are resolved. They actually tell women this.

So women who say this are not lying. They are just doing what doctors are telling them to do.

There is a chance that it has some meaning. If it does have meaning it could mean that she feels like the way you act around her is show-offy or pretentious or you put her down. Its actually an insult, "you're too good for me" means "the way you act around me makes me feel like I'm less worthy than you." In otherwords the way you act makes her feel bad. This is possible.

But as others have said it could just be a lie to be nice. It's none of your business what she thinks of you. You are not owed a real explanation. She doesn't want you reacting badly or arguing with her. She is concerned about her comfort and sfety, not you. So she has given you a generic answer that makes no sense, thats hard to argue with so she can just leave.

Uh.....yes. actually she does owe me an explanation.

Anytime someone invests money and kisses and emotions and heartbeats into a relationship, then they are owed a FULL AND HONEST answer for why someone is leaving the relationship. And even then, leaving the relationship should be ILLEGAL unless someone is actually being PHYSICALLY tortured and abused.

Even 1 partner moving away for school or joining the military is not, in my opinion, an acceptable excuse for breaking up with your lover. There has to be PHYSICAL abuse and PHYSICAL injury involved.

It is possible it is money related, but its likely because of the way you act/make her feel about it. If you like nice things, and spending a lot of money, she may not like that she doesn't feel like your equal. That is a legit reason to break up with someone. If they like going on free picnics, hikes, walks on the beach, getting take out, etc and you like nice restaurants, shows, hotels, buying expensive gifts etc, then you are not a match and saying "you are too good for me" is a nice way of saying "I feel like you show off, and control the relationship with your money, and I don't like it." Its really important that you at least have the same attitude about money.

Holly cow ... your true side has been revealed ... its definitely you, you sound like a psycho!

Nobody is putting anyone down. You would be surprised how much low class behavior and unprofessional love behavior from her that I just let roll off my shoulder. It's obvious that she is NOT a professional lover.

If anything, she should be grateful that I'm interacting with someone of a different socioeconomic status. 99 percent of folks, both men and women (moreso women than men) blatantly refuse to interact with someone of a different socioeconomic status.

If I was a woman, I would intentionally choose to run in the slow heat. I would choose to run in the faster heat. Same as men coming my way. I would choose to date up, as that would only make my life better.

Wouldn't run in the slow heat*

Just means you aren’t willing to do some of the nasty things she enjoys: psychedelic drugs, having her face smashed in the pillow while you take her from behind, etc. You’re too vanilla for her tastes. Some girls like the bad boy.

She is just trying to soften the blow.