How important is quality of sex in choosing a long term partner? (Serious)

Lol you are the loud minority.
it’s a beautiful thing discovering new quirks? Hell no. It’s also awful. Sex incorporates all the Good and Bad in a relationship. So you might discover after 15 years that your wife fantasizes about other men, or doing them in front of you, or maybe you find out she’s gay, or maybe she likes to do it in mud or in public. All these things can slowly kill a man and bring him to despair and ruin if it’s not what he wanted.

compatible sex in marriage is like 1/100 chance. Most people usually hide themselves until a few years in. So sure some people it could get better or you could find out your wife is a top and wants to turn you into a cuk. Sex is painful and depressing for the vast majority.

you know I’m right.

Stop. Sex is the relationship. You think your stupid conversations and verbal communication is real? Ahhaahahahha nonverbal aka sex is wayyyy more important. You are lost and your wife does not agree with you. Usually one person who is like you pairs with someone the complete opposite. I feel bad for your wife, she’s probably dreaming of crazy things you couldn’t imagine.

also statistically you make no sense. Most men cheat at 49 and women around the same time - so if anything sex at 55 is very important.

sex is the relationship. Everything else is aesthetic

He didn’t wait too long. What are you like handicapped? He’s mid 30s? Let’s say 35, that’s ideal for marriage. If anything wait until your 40 and pick up all the 25 year olds.

you’re probably someone who was married to your first at 23 and now try’s to tell intelligible to men in their primes they “waited too long”. 😂I’m surprised the guy isn’t waiting longer.

This is your personal decision but I get why you're asking this question, you don't want to feel like you got a bad deal when every other married person is having great sex or something.

First of all, you have no idea where yours or her sex drive will be a year or 5 years from now. Or your attraction to her for that matter. Marriage is a lifelong thing, keep that in mind. Your 10/10 might not want to do anything after marriage and you'll have zero recourse.

In my experience, sex with the average girl after the novelty of the first few times is worse than just doing it yourself. The only ones where it's been better, they were crazy or had zero personality. If you like playing the game, just keep playing it.

I can give you my 40s female perspective. I married my 10/10 and I'm very happy. We're lucky that we're compatible in many ways, but our chemistry in bed has always been off the charts amazing even after 20+ years and a few kids. Overall, it's been great for our marriage. I think it's been our glue. Every marriage goes through ups and downs and it's easy to not hold onto negative feelings when you have that chemistry. It's also fun. I do have friends who've married partners where they didn't have that chemistry and they're generally happy. However, I do think marrying your 10/10 brings it to another level and I am glad I didn't settle for less.

56 here, still married to same person, and few complaints.

But of course there were others around in the years before I met my wife, and I always wonder. Only one still appeals to me visually, or is not clearly crazy, and she's been married/divorced twice, yet holds that Bible high. I have, and would have issues with that. So I made the right choice, right?

But maybe there would have been someone else later on? That's the thing. You never know, and will never know, you just have to jump in if enough stuff is 'right,' and trust you made the right move.

Yes, it is very important, perhaps an 8, but a 7 is something you can work with. With that said, for a normal man, if the woman is reasonably attractive and genuinely likes to have sex, that's all you need as a start. Everything else can be developed.

I don't know, still a virgin. Can't comment.

"Glue" lol

Some women turn out to be men. Vice versa too.

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Well, sad to say our culture has reached such lows of degradation that “freedom” now includes the right to decide what gender you are. Thankfully I suspect that the overwhelming number of married people do not veer off their biological gender.

I’m a few years older than you and my drive hasn’t subsided, 1-2 times most days. Helps that my girlfriend is really hot, but the problem is your marriage not your age.

oh, so you want everyone else to live according your personal religious beliefs.

Your posting history makes more sense now.

Sex is everything! This is what I would do:

dump the 7/10

temporarily return to the 10/10 don’t get pregnant

find a better 10/10 which you eventually will

this is probably the kind of guy that I would guk his wife and she would love it because i am not a cuk 3:30/ 140min HM Cuk... beaty eyed loser low life male.... hahah totally true....

sex is everything, there is nothing else important in life....

You’re not having sex long enough….1% omg no fam. More like 5% +

like chill. Go home and have 1% of the time sex with your wife lol

Yeah wtf is going on with these guys? 35 year olds acting like they 65…like I think it’s an American thing. How do dudes turn 35 and say what the above say? Is it a puritan thing? You will never find a European say sex at 35 is 1/10 maybe 6/10 8/10