What are your redflags on dating apps that instantly make you swipe left?

hunter wheres the coke wrote:

OozmaKappa wrote:

No I don't like them because theyre trashy and just objectively look bad. Like a bumper sticker on a nice sports car. It's like deliberately giving your otherwise good skin imperfections that stand out like a sore thumb.

The correlation between having them and being crazy, that's a whole other issue. But even if these girls who ruin their skin weren't typically crazy, I still wouldnt like it simply on the grounds that it just looks bad.

Do you think your standards of beauty are "correct"? Like if other people like tattoos or piercings, they are wrong? I've been in too many objectivity vs subjectivity debates but physical beauty would have to be one of the silliest subjects to do it with. Usually it's about Star Wars movies lol.

Yes.

Also The Force Awakens and The Last Jedi are objectively bad films.

OozmaKappa wrote:

hunter wheres the coke wrote:

Do you think your standards of beauty are "correct"? Like if other people like tattoos or piercings, they are wrong? I've been in too many objectivity vs subjectivity debates but physical beauty would have to be one of the silliest subjects to do it with. Usually it's about Star Wars movies lol.

Yes.

Also The Force Awakens and The Last Jedi are objectively bad films.

And what qualifies an opinion to be "correct"? How do you know if something is just your opinion or if it's objective fact?

The crazier Sh*&^ the better. Ur not gonna marry the chick.. 'Crazy in the head Crazy in the Bed'

Shooting guns/posing with game carcass.

Anyone who uses their "preferred pronouns" in the dating profile is an automatic NO.

MeHereYouWhere?! wrote:

Anyone who uses their "preferred pronouns" in the dating profile is an automatic NO.

Agreed, who other than people with "gender issues" would care? And who other than someone else with "gender issues" is going to want to meet them?

MatthewW wrote:

for me:

Smokes

Instagram link

Tattoos

Piercings

Vegan

Into rap

Dyed hair

Any sociology/psychology major/degree

Just if it’s a dude. That’s it.

A dick

I think this question is assuming you're looking to date, not just for sex, so I'll answer it accordingly.

First off, being on Tinder is a red flag itself in my experience.

I've hooked up with 12 women from there, and at best a third of them were dating material.

So many of the women on there are just looking to hook up / rebound. I'm in my twenties, I'd imagine this trend decreases as you get older.

I have not seriously dated anyone from Tinder, despite being on there looking to date and having an abundance of options with over 1000 matches.

IRL social connections have worked much better in my experience.

Enough rambling, my red flags are:

-Excessively sexy / slutty vibe (they're not trying to date)

-No bio (they're just testing the waters, not trying to find someone. Or they're just boring)

-Political positions in bio. They're gonna be dumb.

-They sound like a workaholic. I prefer a successful woman, but career obsession can go too far.

-No interest in having kids

-Non-standard piercings (almost always associated with psychological issues in my experience)

-Weird niche interests that suggest they spend way too much time online

-Any mention of video games or anime. These women are just as lousy as male gamers / weebs

-Extremely puritan vibe. Probably won't relate much to a girl who barely drinks or has never smoked weed

-Height requirement, unless they're a real tall girl, in which case I get it

-Atheist

-Massive social media following, like upwards of 3k on Instagram. Likely to have issues with narcissism. Could make exceptions to this if they're doing something beyond posting thirst traps

-Giving off dark, female sociopath energy

-Goth vibes (gonna be nihilists)

-Legitimately bisexual, not bi in the trendy fake modern way. I have just had too much bad experience with this one, they tend to be indisposed towards monogamy

-Mention depression or ADHD in their bios. They're gonna be a piece of work. I have mental health issues myself but putting this in your bio just generally shows you don't have your act together at all

-Short hair, like shorter than neck length. (Huge negative signal on personality to me, I actually don't mind the look that much)

Green flags:

-Mention art or hobbies. Likely to be interesting, thoughtful person.

-They exercise, without making it their whole personality

-Like the outdoors

-Photos with friends, and the friends look like my sort of people

-They look generally happy

-Their bio is genuinely funny

MeHereYouWhere?! wrote:

Anyone who uses their "preferred pronouns" in the dating profile is an automatic NO.

I'm not sure what's more unatractive, pronouns in bio or tattoos and piercings.

I'm married for 7 years...but if I did use one of these (I probably wouldn't):

-BLM/LGBTQ+/Pronouns/Wokeness nonsense on their profile

-Ugly or Fat

- Polyamorous/open relationship

- Vegan

Honestly, I'm open to pretty much anything else.

OozmaKappa wrote:

MeHereYouWhere?! wrote:

Anyone who uses their "preferred pronouns" in the dating profile is an automatic NO.

I'm not sure what's more unatractive, pronouns in bio or tattoos and piercings.

FWIW, mouth-breather writing style tops them all.

Gentleman Savage wrote:

OozmaKappa wrote:

I'm not sure what's more unatractive, pronouns in bio or tattoos and piercings.

FWIW, mouth-breather writing style tops them all.

Eh, i dont care how she writes. As long as she has a nice voice i'll hear that in my head when i read whatever she sends me via text.

So I have to say that no, pronouns in bio and tattoos or piercings are definitely much worse than any style of writing.

Gentleman Savage wrote:

OozmaKappa wrote:

I'm not sure what's more unatractive, pronouns in bio or tattoos and piercings.

FWIW, mouth-breather writing style tops them all.

What is "mouth-breather writing style" and why is it called that?

OozmaKappa wrote:

Gentleman Savage wrote:

FWIW, mouth-breather writing style tops them all.

Eh, i dont care how she writes. As long as she has a nice voice i'll hear that in my head when i read whatever she sends me via text.

So I have to say that no, pronouns in bio and tattoos or piercings are definitely much worse than any style of writing.

I couldn't have guessed. Cool story, bro.

Do go on. Please tell me more about mouth breathers, Gentleman Savage. You seem to be quite knowledgeable on the matter.

yakobing wrote:

Bio in English (I'm from a non-English speaking country)

Oh, you’re from America!

I dated a vegan and I hated that aspect of it. When I stayed over I had to eat fake butter, avocados and weird spreads. I gave it a go so as not to offend but eating like that for a while, e.g. over the course of a weekend actually made me feel a bit unwell. I think that was more to do with the fact the calories were too low rather than anything else but I missed my normal foods.

Also, when we went out for a meal and I had beef I felt insanely guilty and then weird when we kissed.

“If you voted for ___ swipe left”

Septum piercing

Thirst traps on the profile