Dating a bad kisser - what to do?

I feel compelled to close the loop on this.

We had our 2nd date last night, and as we're getting ready to go home she requests I get in her car (as the script went on date #1). Upon doing so, we started kissing and again, the next thing I know I'm being inhaled. A few times I pulled away, hoping that would send a message. When I snuck a peek at her though, what I saw was a woman leaning in toward me, with her mouth wide open and her toungue sticking out. Who kisses like that!?!? I didn't know whether to be disgusted or amused. I changed tactics and started kissing her neck instead. She started getting all hot and bothered, but then announced she had to go home. I said I did too, gave her a polite kiss and got out of the car.

Bottom line is I pulled the plug on this thing with her tonight. There were other things about her that just weren't jiving with me (like repeatedly slapping your pool cue on the table while I'm lining up my shot - you're HOW old??), but trying to fit my head into your mouth while kissing is a big one too. I can't date someone who thinks that is the norm. Bash away...

Thanks, I can go to sleep now.

Is it just me or do girls seem to get super strength while making-out? I am always stronger than the girls I go out with and have no problem picking them up and throwing them around in bed. I notice that when I make-out with a girl and I try to pull back I can't break free of their grip. They sort of make me feel like I'm the bitch.

Mr. Tactful wrote: When I snuck a peek at her though, what I saw was a woman leaning in toward me, with her mouth wide open and her toungue sticking out. ... She started getting all hot and bothered, but then announced she had to go home.

I'm retracting my stance....nobody in their right mind kisses like that. Perhaps she was trying to scare you off with it which is why she seemed to get "hot and bothered" then skedaddled.

Mr. Tactful wrote: When I snuck a peek at her though, what I saw was a woman leaning in toward me, with her mouth wide open and her toungue sticking out. ... She started getting all hot and bothered, but then announced she had to go home.

I suppose, next her lower jaw split open and she tried to bite you...

broncogirl wrote:

Back in the day, I dated the PERFECT guy....respectful, great job, sweet, funny....but he was a horrible kisser! He was a press his lips firmly against mine kind of guy, yuck. I was very young and broke it off. Several years later I ran into him again and went out with him. I was wondering why I had stopped seeing him the firt time until he kissed me again...and then aha! I remembered. If you like this girl, see if you can teach her how to kiss better. If you don't, you will either be grossed out or break up with her.

And that guy is STILL single 30 years later.

So you're like 50? I think it's time to drop the 'girl' in your moniker and become a woman...

broncogirl wrote:

Back in the day, I dated the PERFECT guy....respectful, great job, sweet, funny....but he was a horrible kisser! He was a press his lips firmly against mine kind of guy, yuck. I was very young and broke it off. Several years later I ran into him again and went out with him. I was wondering why I had stopped seeing him the firt time until he kissed me again...and then aha! I remembered. If you like this girl, see if you can teach her how to kiss better. If you don't, you will either be grossed out or break up with her.

And that guy is STILL single 30 years later.

Similar situation but worse, I once broke up with a guy who had a tiny you-know-what (size of my pinky finger, no kidding!) Yeah, I know that was bad and mean but seriously, I couldn't get over that part. He too was very nice, good looking and seemed perfect. I tried to date him a few more times but when it hot and heavy again, I had to cut it off (no pun intended or was it?)

To answer OP's question, you can teach someone to kiss, it is a skilled art. Good Luck.

You made the right decision. Better luck next time!