Is it possible to be 40+ years old and date women who AREN'T single moms?

Post more Rojo. You have been killing it lately. Bravo.

It's the Holiday Season so It's a Wonderful Life is on all the time, apparently your local library is filled with old maids.

Dude, go to Latin América or South East Ásia. You can date 18 year olds, find a good girl in her mid twenties that goes to church and won’t be dealing with women whose biological clock is about to stop ticking. Then if you come back you can smile from all the smug looks the crazy cat ladies will give you who’ve dried up and bloodline is dying.

So, I thought it would have been extremely obvious, but this wasn't me. If you couldn't immediately tell that, you might want to turn your brain on a bit. No offense.

This only works if you want something that will provide sex and bear your children and don’t care about love and mutual respect and intellectual chemistry and everything that isn’t blatantly transactional.

I’m not sure you know what “smug” means.

Don't be afraid of being a dad. I had two kids when I met my second wife. She also had two. Still together for over 20 years.

And where exactly, pray tell, would one go to find these ladies that one can approach in person and with confidence?Do you mean bars, group meetings, religious gatherings, dance floors, running clubs, gyms, concerts, parks, etc.? Any other location if one does not frequent any of these?

So a 7 year old should go for a 10 year old and an 80 year old for someone who is 47?

You dont sound like you're happily banging 20 something's

More like a frustrated loner

If you look for Baltics,Slavic Eastern Europe women you will get many options of women around 30 without kids who are interested of a ' normal' 40 + man from US or Western Europe. But of course you will have to watch out for the golddiggers.

Only way to avoid gold diggers when dating Eastern European women is to not date Eastern European women.

No, you just have to test them . LoL

Trump (or daddy) has never not paid for a woman.

You're a few years younger than I am but I'll give it to you straight...you're at quite possibly the worst age to either be starting over or trying to find that "settling down" relationship. Lots of folks get married in their 20s or 30s and have plans to start a family. If for whatever reason that marriage ends and kids had come into the picture they're forever part of the picture.

I think in a rural setting it could indeed be hard to find someone closer to or the same age as us that didn't go the "societally expected" route of "grow up, get married, have kids" that is the general mindset of Small Town, USA...no shade being thrown, but I grew up in such an area and that was all I heard about my future as a kid from adults and family members.

In a metro setting it might be just as hard to find someone single in our age bracket that doesn't have kids, to be honest. There may be a larger dating pool but it's still a general "of a certain age" kind of thing. Not everyone went the "I know for a fact that I don't want to take on the responsibility of being a parent so I'm going to get a vasectomy" route that I did. If gods forbid my wife and I ever split I'm going to be in the same boat as you though...I chose not to have kids but any future partner my same age I'd end up with is more likely to have had kids than not. It's just how it is.

leave the (mostly conservative/traditional) U.S.

I live in Latin America and previously lived in several countries in Europe...people are way less obsessed with getting married and having kids in these places. I'm 40 and I consistently date attractive girls in their 20s and 30s who don't have (and don't want) children

At work - although covid and remote work have not really made this any easier. Work at a big enough site so that there's numbers. Work in a position that puts you in touch with many different people. Do a good job so people respect you.

I forgot to add that I'm poor and no-one cares. and most of these girls I meet on apps

I'm gonna throw this out there: No.

Well, at least the ones you'll be attracted to by looks are likely taken or are single moms. The ones who aren't either are not interested in your type or are fairly driven for the life success they want.

However, that doesn't mean there aren't really great women available. Many have wonderful personalities and would be loyal. BUT, they might be a 4, 5 or 6 on your scale. At 40-ish you might be mature enough to appreciate a good woman who has a wonderful personality. But if you are bringing your early twenties mentality to a hoped-for relationship today, you will likely be disappointed.