You will find out one day, nothing really matters. Most of us won’t realize that until the very end of your life. Don’t worry…..you are doing just fine.
You will find out one day, nothing really matters. Most of us won’t realize that until the very end of your life. Don’t worry…..you are doing just fine.
Do it.
Now is the time.
It isn't now or never. You've fallen into some kind of false belief where you're putting intense pressure on yourself. Sit back, truly think about it when you're feeling relaxed - and maybe write down what's important to you along with where you'd like to be and what really matters.
Do you really want a wife and kids? If so, go after that. But don't put this kind of intense time pressure on yourself as it's not healthy!
Don't make that kind of choice with someone because it's the "right time". I know plenty who have who are now divorced. Kids won't save the wrong relationship.
Many woman are basically infertile by 37. I know lots who've tried to get pregnant at that age and missed the boat, even with IVF.
One of my friends has sacked his high salary corporate job off to adopt an unwanted kid and be a stay at home dad. He's possibly the happiest person I know.
What a dumb thread. You are a man. There's no rush. Go date a 27 year old and have fun. You are not a woman.
Letmetellyouathingortwo wrote:
Friend had #6 kid last year at 55- wife about 42. I'm the godfather.
Ages 14 down to 1.
Seems to be loving life, fills a pew in church every Sunday. Plenty of energy- maybe live to 100.
That's gross. Poor kid will be dealing with parents that look and act like his peers grandparents. How embarrassing.
Pontoise wrote:
What a dumb thread. You are a man. There's no rush. Go date a 27 year old and have fun. You are not a woman.
The issue is OP wants different results without putting a focus in action on how to change the process. It's lazy thinking.
Millennial man wrote:
I turned 37 last week and had the same conversation with my parents. Any partner would have to be younger.
The thing is, I feel and look much younger than my age. I weigh the same as I did in high school - about 135 lbs.
I spent years sat indoors just playing computer games or playing guitar.
Downvoted by overweight alcoholics...
The Last Time That I Try to Help You wrote:
Here we are again. For how many years have you voiced this dilemma and, yet, never seem to take actions to improve your lot in life?
First thing, how long have you been stuck in this rut? You have been playing the lonely card for over a decade and it’s always the same story. How have you not grown? How have you avoided serious introspection? Why are you doing the same old things (political posting, drinking, chasing validation through running, feckless attitudes, comparison) when those activities clearly don’t make you any happier? If you cannot break those habits nor find self-happiness or self-love, then you cannot create those for others. Kids? Do you feel that you would be a positive and loving role model for them?
The problem is, and always has been, YOU! Not society. Not women being too selective. Not your mayor or your governor. Those are all cheap and easy excuses used to guard your ego from the real culprits: depression, possible alcoholism, and a lack of self-esteem. Until you fix those, this story is going to keep repeating on a loop until you leave this Earth.
What can you do to improve yourself? You really need to address this! Stop living vicariously as a billionaire fan boy. Stop listening to podcasts, watching YouTube videos, and reading books that simply confirm all of your biases and faulty assumptions. If you want to play the long game, then get into some intensive therapy while embracing sobriety. Looking for a hack to jumpstart that healing? Then get down to Central America for an ayahuasca or psilocybin retreat. I’ve seen people in my life partake and return a week later with vastly improved mental health and no desire to drink or toke any longer.
That’s my advice. Do with it as you please. At the very least, examine why you behave as you do and why you believe the things that you do. Determine if it makes you happy or truly enriches your life and wellbeing? You may very well be giving off an uninviting and uninspiring vibe simply by how you think, what you consume, and how you carry yourself. Loneliness is most often the consequence of outwardly manifesting depression and low self-worth.
Gee, Doc, give the man a break.
He didnt ask for the excerpt of your new self help book.
renegade. wrote:
I'm in my late 30s, and my same-age peers who have kids are constantly stressed, broke, and out of time even though they make more than I do.
They're not. People with kids go out of their way to not "brag" about their children in front of the childless and instead gravitate to doing the opposite. It's a "courtesy" thing. "Oh, well Billy needs braces and Sally is now a wild teenager! It's tough out there I tell ya, heh, yeah......."
Matt Walsh talks about this.
Whatever will bewilder me wrote:
If I want to get married and have kids, it's now or never. If not, I need to figure out how to have a fulfilling life as a single person into middle and old age. It's very stressful.
Are you a man or woman? It’s unfair, but if you are a man this is much less true….
If you’re well endowed, flaunt it. Women will come running if they know a man has a sizeable asset. Failing that, try the men’s locker room. That’s a dead cert.
Good luck!