Trust is a nice concept until it gets broken. Even the ones you think would never cheat on their partner can fall prey to temptation. That’s the problem with monogamy. We’re not wired for it and people get really hurt. People get bored and desensitized to their partners after a while. It’s simple biology. We crave novelty and the feelings associated with “falling in love” but those feelings don’t last very long.
Not my spouse, but my gf who I am serious about is on a week long trip for a work-related conference, and even though I feel quite secure about our relationship and her, I would be lying if I said the whole thing hasn't been affecting me. She is a good woman, but the idea of her being in a city far away without me, staying in a hotel, being around lots of other people she has things in common with who are also there staying in hotels, is just not a good thought for me and something I really do not like. I realize this is probably mostly a me problem...
For those of you with spouses who travel a fair bit for work, how do you deal with this and keep your sanity? I am trying to stay busy, but it's only so effective...
I am going to call BS on you feeling secure about your relationship if you took time to post this on a message board. Discuss your concerns with your GF. Come to some agreement or something that works for the both of you. Since letsrun men are often transactional---expressing your fears could work to your advantage ;)
Not my spouse, but my gf who I am serious about is on a week long trip for a work-related conference, and even though I feel quite secure about our relationship and her, I would be lying if I said the whole thing hasn't been affecting me. She is a good woman, but the idea of her being in a city far away without me, staying in a hotel, being around lots of other people she has things in common with who are also there staying in hotels, is just not a good thought for me and something I really do not like. I realize this is probably mostly a me problem...
For those of you with spouses who travel a fair bit for work, how do you deal with this and keep your sanity? I am trying to stay busy, but it's only so effective...
Doesn't this setup give you just as much opportunity to cheat as it gives her?
Except that if you cheat in your hometown, what if the fling gets obsessed with you or you run into that person when out? Cheating away from home reduces that to virtually zero.
Not my spouse, but my gf who I am serious about is on a week long trip for a work-related conference, and even though I feel quite secure about our relationship and her, I would be lying if I said the whole thing hasn't been affecting me. She is a good woman, but the idea of her being in a city far away without me, staying in a hotel, being around lots of other people she has things in common with who are also there staying in hotels, is just not a good thought for me and something I really do not like. I realize this is probably mostly a me problem...
For those of you with spouses who travel a fair bit for work, how do you deal with this and keep your sanity? I am trying to stay busy, but it's only so effective...
I am going to call BS on you feeling secure about your relationship if you took time to post this on a message board. Discuss your concerns with your GF. Come to some agreement or something that works for the both of you. Since letsrun men are often transactional---expressing your fears could work to your advantage ;)
Now for my more glib response...There is a radio show (the Jubel) show that does a feature each week "to catch a cheater". I have to admit that I time my drive to work often so I can hear it each week. The premise is that the person being cheated on calls in and gives some context. They get the grocery store the alleged cheater uses. Pretty much everyone has a savings card so the radio show calls up saying they are the customer of the month and won roses and chocolate to be delivered to anyone. The idea here is (of course) the alleged cheater sends them to the side piece and not the wife/GF.
It can be amusing when either the alleged cheater is caught and then tries to "explain" that Tiffany is a friend who is going through a rough patch and just needed something to brighten up the day. Other times it is pretty mundane especially when the flowers go to the GF/wife and then it is just "we are so busy" a lot of the time.
Not proud of myself that I listen...
PS the ghosted after a date segment is solid as well.
PPS In both cases, who answers their phone from an unknown number? I rarely do...
You've already lost it Jealousy will eat you up forever you are not capable of managing life with another. Nobody especially smart professional women are wired to be monogamous
So be constructive and take the problem head on. Get her to cuQ you with the conference bbc and share FaceTime of them getting it on You will find this hot and after the first time, what you now magine is a problem becomes a source of fun. Voila!
Sounds like you are very insecure. Coming to Letsrun.com and asking random strangers how to deal with that is not the route I'd recommend. Therapy might help.
if your wife or partner goes another direction, that is a good thing to find out sooner than later. it is a good test to have her among competitors, and if she stays on she passed the test.
this situation is a benefit.
if you're jealous, that's weak, and it is good to look into that
i was jealous as a very young fellow with a GF, and it was very painful internally generated and delusional. and somehow jealousy went away. the mind adjusted as it was useless pain? like poking your self in the eye constantly.