Thanks for all the replies. My wife and I love each other dearly and there is no chance we would ever leave each other or that I would even want to cheat on her. Only my wife is attractive sexually to me.
I am retired with adult children. But my wife has a nasty habit of dismissing any idea I have that's not of a practical nature.
This other women and I just have great conversations. I do not have one impure thought when I am with her, but knowing this beautiful woman is interested in my ideas feels good. I can't deny her beauty makes a difference. We have only met in group social situations but we tend to focus on each other
Everything is completely innocent but there does seem to be a spark between us so maybe thats why I feel some guilt.
I think it should be okay to talk to your wife about this woman. It might wake her up into trying harder in your relationship. Always compliment your wife, I have a feeling that almost all men neglect this area.
I am in a long distance video chat relationship with a Kenya woman professional marathoner. She is a great listener and has a 6 year old boy who seems wonderful. My only concern is that she does not often start conversations. Does anyone know if that improves over time as she speaks three languages every day and is fluent in a couple other ones.
(I have been conversing seriously with one single gal from either Nigeria or Kenya since 2018. One I dumped and one dumped me, but I have only lost $100. I do not intend to give out money.)
She is critical of me and not interested in my ideas.
You're first mistake was getting married. Bad deal for men. I have no idea how old you are or how long you have been married but this is how it's going to go, most likely. She's going to leave you at some point. The courts will side for her because that's what the courts do. She will take half your money, the house, and if there's kids then them to. She will be a single woman again! That means riding the carousel, vacationing with the girls, shopping, and maybe even a negative word or two about you to the kids. It's not all bad though, if you have money and/or a great job (unlikely) then you will have your pick of women, single and married. Have fun.
I have heard this tons of times. If this is true then how is it not also a bad deal for women?
She is critical of me and not interested in my ideas. I met this beautiful woman, who is also married, who I connected with. The woman appreciates me and gives me the type of smile I haven't seen in years.
I truthfully am not physically attracted to this woman at all because I only want to have sex with my wife whom despite faults ( which we both have) I love dearly.
I text back and forth with this woman with links to life related science lectures or interesting books about life. The times in group situations where I have met her our conversations are amazing. Stuff my wife would probably quickly dismiss at a waste of time.
So when I text with this woman, it includes nothing inappropriate at all, but I don't want my wife to know about the texts. So I went on a trip with my wife and turned off my phone in case a text would pop up.
Thanks for all the replies. My wife and I love each other dearly and there is no chance we would ever leave each other or that I would even want to cheat on her. Only my wife is attractive sexually to me.
I am retired with adult children. But my wife has a nasty habit of dismissing any idea I have that's not of a practical nature.
This other women and I just have great conversations. I do not have one impure thought when I am with her, but knowing this beautiful woman is interested in my ideas feels good. I can't deny her beauty makes a difference. We have only met in group social situations but we tend to focus on each other
Everything is completely innocent but there does seem to be a spark between us so maybe thats why I feel some guilt.
lol you can't follow this: "I do not have one impure thought when I am with her"
up with this: "but knowing this beautiful woman is interested in my ideas feels good. I can't deny her beauty makes a difference. We have only met in group social situations but we tend to focus on each other Everything is completely innocent but there does seem to be a spark between us"
lol you very clearly ARE attracted to her and like her. Either you are trolling or you're in complete denial.
Sounds like you either need to man up and recommit to your wife and cut off communication with this other woman who you clearly have a thing for and are getting emotionally attached to, OR you need to figure out if you're not happy in your marriage and need to either go to get counseling or divorce (though the other woman is married so it's not like divorce let's you be with the other woman). Or you're trolling haha. Either way you need to make some serious changes.
Imagine your wife finding out and filing for divorce. And you didn’t even have sex with the other woman! So, either, stop texting this woman or have sex with her. It sounds like she’s not very hot. If so, don’t lose your marriage for whatever this weird situation is.
There's a lot of really, really bad advice in this thread. The first response, which has overwhelmingly positive feedback, is to just find a male friend...? Seems like most people are unneccessarily dismissive and/or don't understand the situation. What's a partner for if you can't discuss what you're passionate about or interested in with them? What's the attraction if that person just dismisses what you're interested in as stupid or a waste of time?! I dated someone like this and it was extremely frustrating, so I can sympathize. To OP, you're married to this person, so it's probably best to have a serious conversation to express your concerns about her attitude toward your interests. If things don't seem to change, then it's time to reassess.
There's a lot of really, really bad advice in this thread. The first response, which has overwhelmingly positive feedback, is to just find a male friend...? Seems like most people are unneccessarily dismissive and/or don't understand the situation. What's a partner for if you can't discuss what you're passionate about or interested in with them? What's the attraction if that person just dismisses what you're interested in as stupid or a waste of time?! I dated someone like this and it was extremely frustrating, so I can sympathize. To OP, you're married to this person, so it's probably best to have a serious conversation to express your concerns about her attitude toward your interests. If things don't seem to change, then it's time to reassess.
I'd say you are actually being overly dismissive about the first response's proposal. Explain why finding a friend that your wife (chosen "life" partner) wouldn't have much issue or worry with is a bad idea? Or, rather, put yourself in her position. Imagine her texting a dude at work she feels like understands her better. Hanging out with him, and just feeling like he is just a better match in general. What do you think the logical conclusion of that process would be?
It will not matter if you did or didn't do any thing wrong. It is called a sin of omission. Your wife will no longer trust you if she finds out on her own about this women. You need to tell your wife about talking to this other women and probably what you two talk about. It is the only way you can control the narrative. You have alot to loose. Honest and fourth coming is the only way to go if you want to keep your wife happy.
Some marriages can be awful for women. Unfortunately the courts remain a challenging forum for men, making marriage an unbalanced proposition. There are exceptions and there is a sense outcomes are changing but marriage is a risky enterprise for men. Yes, most every action involves risk but it is not an even playing field.
Your LIFE PARTNER should not be dismissive of your ideas/interests or tell you that you're wasting your time thinking about, talking about, or pursuing certain things. They should be supportive. Your LIFE PARTNER isn't just someone you have sex with and then go about your own way. You shouldn't have to find a male friend to be able to talk discuss your ideas/passions/interests with.
OP is missing something in his marriage and they need to have a serious discussion about things
It will not matter if you did or didn't do any thing wrong. It is called a sin of omission. Your wife will no longer trust you if she finds out on her own about this women. You need to tell your wife about talking to this other women and probably what you two talk about. It is the only way you can control the narrative. You have alot to loose. Honest and fourth coming is the only way to go if you want to keep your wife happy.
Woman - 1 female
women - more than 1 female
loose - not tight
lose - mislay or suffer defeat
forthcoming - willingly share
fourth coming - not a thing
it's not that hard
"Fourth coming" IS a thing for those of us able to get it up multiple times in one night.
Emotional affair. You are posting because you know it’s wrong
What’s wrong with a married man having a platonic female friend?
What's wrong is that it will make you love your wife less. I've literally had three of my good friends plus two family members mess up their marriages because of this in the past 3-4 years.
Find a man who has the same interests and hang out with them. If you're just looking for someone with the same interests, just find that in a friendship.
There's a lot of really, really bad advice in this thread. The first response, which has overwhelmingly positive feedback, is to just find a male friend...? Seems like most people are unneccessarily dismissive and/or don't understand the situation. What's a partner for if you can't discuss what you're passionate about or interested in with them? What's the attraction if that person just dismisses what you're interested in as stupid or a waste of time?! I dated someone like this and it was extremely frustrating, so I can sympathize. To OP, you're married to this person, so it's probably best to have a serious conversation to express your concerns about her attitude toward your interests. If things don't seem to change, then it's time to reassess.
Yet another anonymous ballless loser keyboard jockey posting their rants. Post a real name with links to your profile and you will gain credibility. Otherwise, disappear.
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