What you need to do is date the woman you eventually marry long enough to know if she's a reasonable person or not. My wife is NEVER irrational and NEVER doesn't make sense. So, to answer your question, the way I deal with that is I married a woman who isn't that way. Do that.
Your advice is solid. But I’m calling BS on your statement that your wife is never irrational.
Never met any woman that does not get emotional. And when we are emotional we are irrational.
1) My wife is never irrational.
2) I reject big time that we (humans) must get irrational when we are emotional. Just BS. Saw my wife get emotional when both of our kids were born, when one of them got married, when both graduated from college and both won races in high school and college (one a HS individual state championship and HS All American), when her grandparents died. She was never irrational during any of that.
You're around the wrong people if the ALWAYS get irrational when they are emotional. Emotions are a normal part of life. Irrationality is not.
Your advice is solid. But I’m calling BS on your statement that your wife is never irrational.
Never met any woman that does not get emotional. And when we are emotional we are irrational.
All people (men and women) will at some point show some irrationality. Hopefully you find the type of person that isn't irrational too often at all.
Unless you are talking about advanced dementia or some other ILLNESS that affects congnitive function, then no, that's not true. You do not need to accept people behaving irrationally in your life. Reasonable, healthy people don't act in irrational ways.
Your advice is solid. But I’m calling BS on your statement that your wife is never irrational.
Never met any woman that does not get emotional. And when we are emotional we are irrational.
You're around the wrong people if the ALWAYS get irrational when they are emotional. Emotions are a normal part of life. Irrationality is not.
Notice here that you say ALWAYS. You have relocated the goal posts. You previously said that your wife has NEVER acted irrationally based on emotion. There is a huge difference between never and always.
To make a claim that a person has never acted irrationally is stating they are a perfect human being that perfectly reads events and calmly and rationally has the correct take on a situation at all times. And always displays the correct response at all times.
All people (men and women) will at some point show some irrationality. Hopefully you find the type of person that isn't irrational too often at all.
Unless you are talking about advanced dementia or some other ILLNESS that affects congnitive function, then no, that's not true. You do not need to accept people behaving irrationally in your life. Reasonable, healthy people don't act in irrational ways.
Have you ever been angry or emotionally hurt at any point of your life? Angry or emotional people often will say something that isn't the most rational thing.
I will humbly admit that I am mistaken about this if unbeknownst to me you and your wife are both Vulcan.
2) I reject big time that we (humans) must get irrational when we are emotional. Just BS. Saw my wife get emotional when both of our kids were born, when one of them got married, when both graduated from college and both won races in high school and college (one a HS individual state championship and HS All American), when her grandparents died. She was never irrational during any of that.
You're around the wrong people if the ALWAYS get irrational when they are emotional. Emotions are a normal part of life. Irrationality is not.
She married an LRC meme. That's highly irrational.
She stays with you. That's due to the sunken cost fallacy, another exhibition of irrational behavior.
Your advice is solid. But I’m calling BS on your statement that your wife is never irrational.
Never met any woman that does not get emotional. And when we are emotional we are irrational.
1) My wife is never irrational.
2) I reject big time that we (humans) must get irrational when we are emotional. Just BS. Saw my wife get emotional when both of our kids were born, when one of them got married, when both graduated from college and both won races in high school and college (one a HS individual state championship and HS All American), when her grandparents died. She was never irrational during any of that.
You're around the wrong people if the ALWAYS get irrational when they are emotional. Emotions are a normal part of life. Irrationality is not.
It depends on what you mean by "emotional" and "irrational". What may be seen as emotional by one person can be seen as irrational by another. Anything taken to extremes can be irrational. Whether we go such such extremes may also depend on our environment and what kind of pressures and stresses we are subject to.
Irrationality that is habitual is unwell; if it is rare or only occasional it is merely human. Perfection is not a human trait; believing one possesses it is a flaw and dare I say it - irrational?
2) I reject big time that we (humans) must get irrational when we are emotional. Just BS. Saw my wife get emotional when both of our kids were born, when one of them got married, when both graduated from college and both won races in high school and college (one a HS individual state championship and HS All American), when her grandparents died. She was never irrational during any of that.
You're around the wrong people if the ALWAYS get irrational when they are emotional. Emotions are a normal part of life. Irrationality is not.
It depends on what you mean by "emotional" and "irrational". What may be seen as emotional by one person can be seen as irrational by another. Anything taken to extremes can be irrational. Whether we go such such extremes may also depend on our environment and what kind of pressures and stresses we are subject to.
Irrationality that is habitual is unwell; if it is rare or only occasional it is merely human. Perfection is not a human trait; believing one possesses it is a flaw and dare I say it - irrational?
But you are never wrong! You believe you are perfect! So you are irrational.
OP, I give her space. I make sure she knows I am there for her whenever she needs or wants to talk to me, but I don't pry her with questions or put any pressure on her. But that's what works between us. It is different with other people.
It depends on what you mean by "emotional" and "irrational". What may be seen as emotional by one person can be seen as irrational by another. Anything taken to extremes can be irrational. Whether we go such such extremes may also depend on our environment and what kind of pressures and stresses we are subject to.
Irrationality that is habitual is unwell; if it is rare or only occasional it is merely human. Perfection is not a human trait; believing one possesses it is a flaw and dare I say it - irrational?
But you are never wrong! You believe you are perfect! So you are irrational.
I don't believe that. But you apparently do. I suppose with your flaws is must appear anyone is better than you.
Any thread that begins "how do you deal with your wife ..." implies a relationship of ownership - which doesn't surprise me amongst many males here - and also that she is a problem to be fixed. With such an attitude - and one so unself-aware - I'm not surprised the relationship has its issues.
I'm not married but have had a few long term relationships now. Something I've really struggled with is when my gf is mad and upset but isn't really making sense or being rational and isn't responding to reason. I don't feel like I ever really worked out what to do or how to handle these situations very well.
Longtime married men, how do you deal with this? Is there a good solution? Does your lady ever comeback later on and recognize she wasn't making sense?
Just explain to her calmly and slowly that she's being irrational. That should give her pause and defuse the situation.
The key is to make sure you explain this to her like you're talking to a 4 year old.
Nope, I think jokes about domestic violence trivialize something that painfully affects a lot of people, and I don’t think they’re funny or necessary! Especially on a message board that’s supposed to be about running!
Jokes about domestic violence go undeleted on this message board?
amazing, your very first word admits it is a joke yet you still call for censorship.
Censorship? You think you should be able to make offensive jokes whenever you want wherever you want without someone else having a negative opinion about it? FYI, the concept of free speech applies specifically to speech about the government, but that idea is lost on most people.