I went on a first date tonight. The woman wore loafers. Major turnoff for me.

"Dress yourself" for what? Does dating have a dress code, or did the girl turn up suitably dressed for a date, other than with a Dallas/Dynasty fan or incel who likes his women unable to run away? Or does your tortured phrasing mean that you think the man should wear high heels?

Hopefully she'll ram those loafers right up your bunghole, pegging style, you disgusting pig of a human being.

Ph*ck you OP.

Aren't millennials and, to a certain extent, Gen Z known for just throwing on a bunch of random pieces of clothing in order to be different just like everyone else? Maybe you should be happy that she didn't show up with a tube top on one foot and a bow tie on the other. Maybe she's as normal as you can expect and should hang onto this frumpy weirdo for dear life.

so girls can get the ick from what guys wear but a guy can't make a comment about a girl's shoes for a date?? I'm a girl and all these posts trolling OP is giving me the ick

OP here. I just text the loafer lady and let her know it was a nice meeting, but I have a few more dates this week so tied up for a bit. She responded, “thanks. doing my taxes this week so also busy. chat soon”. This is the exact thing that turns me off. Loafers, talking about taxes….boring.

When a girl's on her back and her bare feet are in the air, the last thing I'm thinking about is what shoes she was wearing earlier in the evening.

I agree with OP 100% - the way a woman dresses / wears accessories says a lot about her

The loafers are a still a long way away from the giant circular hat/cowboy boot combination some women wear (which just scream I am annoying and will only talk about the Netflix shows I am watching), but to me I can anticipate that Loafergirl wont have anything interesting to say. She talk a lot about the minutiae of her incredibly boring career, how she is working on ”being her best self”, how she is trying to strike “work life balance”, her dogs (or even worse her “dog children”), or her latest vacation to some boring overplayed destination

Unless a girl is coming straight from work (even then for me this choice of footwear is suspect) and pulling the outfit off incredibly well and is super hot, I’m having two drinks and telling her I need to wake up early tomorrow

don’t hate on OP for being detail oriented

Didn’t even see this post when I made my reply. Tax talk is totally to be expected. OP knows the truth

She’d rather do her taxes than go out with you again. Sounds like you knocked it out of the park, champ.

“Jerry Seinfeld-ass behavior”

Don't worry she wasn't very impressed by you.

Nonsense. A number of the wealthiest and best dressed girls in my HS ('66-'67) wore Bass Weejuns or similar loafers. It was a very preppy look.

"I'll just tell her I have a few other dates." . . . I hate to break it to you pal, but you're the turn off. :D

I totally agree with OP. No one should wear loafers in bed.

Posting to acknowledge I was the 110th downvote

That's hilarious. This thread is comedy, but I want to know what percent of that 110 (now 111) were triggered because insensitive.

Unless she’s from Baltimore you probably shouldn’t be so quick to judge

i am inamerivan, but i've been seriously studying American language, so i'd have to correct you: they are not food, they're the people that make bread!

Better than my last date. She sniffed the snow every 15 minutes in the washroom or outside at the five-star restaurant and ran up the bill with no shame. Expensive champagne. I don't think she took more than two bites of her $100+ dollar food but then again she looks like a bulimic VC model. I ghosted that 304 faster than Casper.

I have been chatting/texting some more respectable women as usual, but they're more difficult for me to follow through with as they rightfully have high expectations. I don't want to disappoint them too much if they expect to do marriage or start a family. I won't waste a woman's time. But if the high value woman exclusively wants to have fun, then I'll humor her desires to the fullest extent. Nothing better than a 9 or a 10 on the rebound from a broken relationship.