Want my girlfriend to get an IUD but she doesn't want to

You’re a distance runner, you don’t need to worry about someone trapping you

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Those who "get some" out of wedlock are much more likely to pursue abortion. In the USA, about 86% of all direct abortions are to single women; of the remaining approximately 14% of women who procure abortion, some are impregnated by a man other than their husband. Direct abortion in the USA is overwhelmingly a consequence of sex between people not married to each other.

Yes, I read your post. Here's what you said in full:

Honestly for a woman to refuse is annoying. I've been in long term relationships with sexual women who had them for years and not once did I hear "oh goodness my IUD is really bothering me today" they don't even feel it once it's in.

I get that it's"her choice" but it's still annoying that she's against it for some reason. Makes no sense, reminds me of the anti vaxx crowd - clear long term benefits and one crummy day immediately after getting it.

In response, I said you don't know what you're talking about.

But unlike you, I didn't base my claim solely on what I've surmised based on second-hand observations of a small number of women I've known personally through LTSRs.

Nor did I base my claim solely on my own personal experience with IUD insertion and the excruciating pain and alarming amount of bleeding and clotting it caused me.

Instead, I posted excerpts from a timely NY Times article - published just yesterday! - which shows that quite a few women apart from me and some women I know personally have and do experience excruciating pain during and after IUD insertion.

Now by likening getting an IUD inserted and having dental work done, you're just making it even more obvious that you don't know what you're talking about.

Pain relief is part and parcel of modern dentistry. Dentists use an array of medications to make sure their patients can't feel any pain during dental procedures.

Even when getting routine procedures like cavities filled, dental patients are given local anesthetic to totally numb the area before the dentist proceeds. If the numbing medication starts to wear off during a procedured, all a patient has to do is raise a hand and the dentist will adminster more medication so that the area being worked on returns to being totally numbed.

Modern gynecology is very different to modern dentistry in this regard. HCPs in gynecology do not customarily offer, recommend or give girls and women any meaningful pain relief when doing a host of invasive procedures that a not insignficant number of us find painful - such as IUD insertion, cervical smear tests (Pap smears), use of a vaginal speculum during pelvic exams, and palpation of the ovaries and uterus.

AFAICT, the main reason there's such a vast difference between the way patients' pain is treated in dentistry and gynecology is that men and boys get dental work done just as much as women and girls do - but gynecological procedures like IUD insertion and smear tests are done only on women and girls.

Instead of being offered the kind of pain relief analogous to the pain relief routinely given in dental procedures, women and girls who undergo gynecological procedures that many of us find painful are routinely told tough shxt, suck it up. We're told these procedures can't really hurt as much as some of us say - and even they do hurt, and hurt a whole lot, who cares, it's not really a big deal since the pain won't kill us and it will go away in time.

Were also told that since pain is supposedly women's lot in life anyways, we have no right to refuse procedures many of us find painful - especially when the men in our lives are demanding that we get such procedures for their convenience and pleasure as in OP's case.

Indeed, men like you have the brass neck and bollocks to whinge that "honestly for a woman to refuse is annoying." Then for the kicker you claim that women who show the human tendency to try to avoid pain in this scenario "makes no sense."

Worse, women and girls are regularly told that the pain many of us feel during these sorts of gynecological procedures - and afterwards - isn't real, that it's all in our heads.

On top of that, we're scolded and derided by men like you who issue orders from on high telling women like me to "stop it" and shut up about pain that only female people can possibly go through. Because you think discussing a health matter in a newspaper like the NYT or in online forums is the same as "sensationalizing it."

You act like getting pregnant is only the woman's responsibility.

Condoms are always an option. They might "suck" but it's not an excuse to make someone else get an IUD inserted when they don't want to.

hes right. women whine about how invasive IUD or the pill is (its messes with my hormones! it hurts to insert! I dont want a foreign object in me etc)

and I get that

well then they get pregnant...and they do not hesitate to get an abortion (which is HIGHLY invasive)

And after sex you take her for a ride in your Space Shuttle, right?

Is that supposed to be an Elon Musk reference or implying that what I said is make believe?

I can see why you have multiple failed relationships behind you.

GA attendant may be the best screen name ever on Let's Run. Well done, poster!!!!

These topics are just a canvas for humor and satire. I suppose RunRagged producing walls of serious responses is part of the fun...

This reminds me of one of my friends' girlfriends complaining to me and another buddy "what is it with guys always wanting to blow loads on a girl's face?". My buddy said "well, if you had a dick, wouldn't you want to do that?". She thought about it for a second and then said "yeah, I guess I would".

half of you mfers need to be castrated

You might not have heard about the woman complaining because she had it put in for her previous partner. The first six months are painful from a lot of women. Of course it varies.

Condoms are not painful, just oh the sex is like 5 percent less sensitive or whatever. Life is sooooo hard. (Pun unintended)

Since a lot of you here think your woman is cheating on you, a condom might be best re. guarding against STDs.

You should do nothing.

do what we did when I was stationed in the Philippines and women didn't want to give themselves up before marriage...

it's called b * * t stuff -- enjoy!!

Birth control pills mess with a womens hormones and can yield a lot of negative side effects. Blood clots, anxiety, depression, high blood pressure, cardiovascular issues....

I got one and don’t regret it even a little bit. it’s great, I can bang my wife with reckless abandon. I got it after I had my kids though. I agree, you should not get one if you ever even remotely want kids. My urologist told it is “really easy to do, really really hard to undo”

Thank you for this brave post. I teared up seeing this here.

IDK. I get that people think they are trolling or its just edgy humour but taking pleasure in the suffering of others changes your insides, before you know it you become a liberal, and the slippery slope means you go swiftly past conservative into some kind of self-punking Qonanist