Grey hairs = death sentence (for dating)?

I'm not a "self-proclaimed bodybuilder" nor a "pencil neck" - that's a cheap shot. I actually competed in bodybuilding & powerlifting back in the 80's winning a bodybuilding regional title in 1988.

In the 90's, I transition to running & triathlon doing that for about 27 yrs before having to quit because of chronic injuries & post-traumatic OA.

I'm now back to non-competitive bodybuilding working out everyday (I go into more details on my workouts, diet, etc. in the healthy BF% for master athletes thread that was active last week).

Some of those old guys at the gym that I called out that are always bragging about dating young, hot women said they would bring their hotties to the gym but they never did (these guys claimed that their hotties also work out at another gym, so it would no problem for them to bring them in). And when I confronted them, they would make excuses that the timing is not right, or that she's going to be out of town for months - all kinds of BS like that.

The funniest situation was involving a very dimutitive 53 yr old guy - "Mark" (he was 5'5" & probably a buck 40 soaking wet. Lol), "Mark", who constantly bragged that his GF was a "super hot 25 yr fitness model" that he was dating for over a year now. He said his ripped, lean physique, maturity, and "charm" & "confidence" is what made her attracted to him. Lol. I'm naturally called him out on it & challenge him to bring her in to the gym. He basically gave me the finger & said he's not going bring her in just because I don't believe him.

Well one day after a gym workout, I needed to stop at Home Depot. I'm heading up to the self-checkout when I see Mark holding hands with some old woman with long, gray hair. I approach him & say "what's up dude...surprised to see you here on Saturday night." He says, "yeah...I shop here a lot...I just live down the street." He then proceeds to introduce me to his GF, "Gina," who had to be at least in her 60's. Though she was slender & looked in good shape, she was all gray, her face very wrinkly with a little saggy neck & her voice had that raspy, old-lady tone.

About week later, I see this Mark at the gym & start teasing him; "nice super model you had there." He gives me a dirty look & just walks off. 🤣 He no longer talks to me anymore at the gym & pretty much avoids me (imagine that...Lol).

I swear most of the posts on this site are just trolls from some sort of idiotic AI. No real person would ask something this dumb. This is up with there with “sexiest job” and “my fiancé wants to post something about her dead ex”, etc.

Yeah, what's with that, anyways?!

Let's put this bad boy to bed. Shall we?

Here, this should do it:

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From the moment you were born, your life has been a death sentence...

The person who said that it is a turn off for women does not know women. You know what’s a turn off? A bad dye job. Turn on? Confidence and being yourself.

I'm north of 40 and don't have any grey in my hair. My beard is another story, but I eschew facial hair so it doesn't matter.

I get it from my dad who was 65 when he started greying.

Not that People magazine is a scientific study, but I saw an article talking about the men included on their list of sexiest men alive that have grey hair. Richard Gere, Sean Connery, George Clooney, and Patrick Dempsey come to mind.

Sean isn't with us anymore. But I'm sure he has grey hair in that Scottish whiskey distillery in the sky.

Worrying about greying or thinning hair is classic beta male behavior. Countless celebrities have been considered sexiest man alive with gray or very little hair. Age with pride. Show people that you aren't a metrosexual weakling. And when that 15 year old high school female division 1 prospect tries to kick past you at the end of your local 5k, sweep the leg and catch her in the ribs with a friendly elbow as you break the tape.

Bro, it's "you're"

Only metrosexual men due their hair.

Dye. Fcking spell check.

Gray hair can be quite attractive. Dyed hair? Usually not. It’s hard for men especially to pull this off. I’d stick with the grays for sure.
Obvious point others have also made: no one is dating you for your hair. Be wonderful in other ways! Once I dated a guy I didn’t find especially cute. As time passed and I got to know him, I began to think he was cute - his personality highlighted his smile, his mannerisms, his expressions. Girls can fall in love with a personality, and once they love you, you’ll be attractive to them.

Dude, just dye it.

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Both are correct.

"Grey" is British.

I feel bad for you.

I have been balding since 30, greying since 40, and at 45 I am in my prime at work.

Yea a friend of mine was short, had some grey in his hair at age 25 and always had no problem dating great women. Now married. He just had that confidence. Also could ski like nobody's business.

Cool story bro. 3/10

Lots of mentions of confidence, and as someone that didn't understand what that meant for a long time but eventually figured it out, it might be worth it to better explain.

For a long time, I thought confidence meant being cocky, loud, assertive, outgoing, etc. I wasn't naturally any of those things (or good at them when I tried to be), so my self-image suffered, and I also feared how others perceived me relative to this false stereotype.

I eventually realized that confidence was simply being comfortable with who I naturally am as a person combined with the knowledge of what I do to make myself a better/best version of that person. It combines keen self-awareness with acceptance of strengths, weaknesses, and everything in between.

As others have mentioned, "owning it" is the way to go, and fits perfectly with genuine confidence. When it comes to the grey hair, I think that means to rock it. Find the way to best present it (go to a real hair stylist and have them run through some options that will look best with how/where the grey is coming in). I wouldn't dye it. Artificially covering up something because you think it is a weakness undermines the confident, "owning it" vibe.