Girl I'm dating sometimes watches TV for an entire day... Struggling to accept this...

maybe i\'m weird wrote:

It's not even so much that it's boring, which it is. It's that it's total inactivity. She IS overweight, and she doesn't really exercise much at all. I wouldn't say she's "fat," but I would feel better about her health and what she will look like 10 years from now if she was more active. Asking someone to exercise 30min per day and watch 3.5hrs of TV/day instead of 4 solid hours of TV and no exercise doesn't seem like setting the bar very high to me, and the fact she didn't even leave the house on a Saturday and instead chose to watch TV for ~10 hours is kind of alarming to me tbh. I am a very active person, but being outside and getting sunshine is also pretty strongly correlated with good mental health, and the relationship seems to be causal. Someone who can't get of the couch and take a 20min walk outside or something without someone forcing them too seems very unattractive to me... But apparently most people here think it's normal? Was not expecting that from a running forum.

maybe i\'m weird wrote:

Been dating a girl for about 3 months. Overall it's been good, but one of the things I've been really struggling with is the amount of TV she watches. As far as I can tell she watches multiple hours of TV almost every day during the week, and there have been multiple times since I've started dating her that she watched literally 8 hours of TV or more on a day off, even when it was relatively nice weather outside. Like, one time she sat and watched 3 Harry Potter movies in a row, followed by TV, and another time I know of she watched some dating reality tv show the entire day, like literally 8 or 10 hours.

I know we all waste time and occasionally have days where we don't really accomplish anything, but for me, sitting on the couch for that long would be cruel and unusual punishment, and I have honestly never in my life watched a movie and felt like I wanted to immediately put on another movie and watch it all the way through. Also, for me, it's not just a sense of differentness between us, but I honestly feel contempt for this kind of behavior if I'm being honest. It seems like such a waste of life and super unhealthy.

Am I being overreactive? Too judgmental? Please let me know.

BoringBoyfriends wrote:

maybe i'm weird wrote:

Been dating a girl for about 3 months. Overall it's been good, but one of the things I've been really struggling with is the amount of TV she watches. As far as I can tell she watches multiple hours of TV almost every day during the week, and there have been multiple times since I've started dating her that she watched literally 8 hours of TV or more on a day off, even when it was relatively nice weather outside. Like, one time she sat and watched 3 Harry Potter movies in a row, followed by TV, and another time I know of she watched some dating reality tv show the entire day, like literally 8 or 10 hours.

I know we all waste time and occasionally have days where we don't really accomplish anything, but for me, sitting on the couch for that long would be cruel and unusual punishment, and I have honestly never in my life watched a movie and felt like I wanted to immediately put on another movie and watch it all the way through. Also, for me, it's not just a sense of differentness between us, but I honestly feel contempt for this kind of behavior if I'm being honest. It seems like such a waste of life and super unhealthy.

Am I being overreactive? Too judgmental? Please let me know.

How do you know the exact amount of hours she spent watching tv? Where you there with her?

Anyways, I think it's your fault. Maybe you are too boring for her so he needs TV to have fun?

Suggest something fun to do together instead of watching tv the whole day... like running or having s e x

John Wesley Harding wrote:

maybe i\'m weird wrote:

It's not even so much that it's boring, which it is. It's that it's total inactivity. She IS overweight, and she doesn't really exercise much at all. I wouldn't say she's "fat," but I would feel better about her health and what she will look like 10 years from now if she was more active. Asking someone to exercise 30min per day and watch 3.5hrs of TV/day instead of 4 solid hours of TV and no exercise doesn't seem like setting the bar very high to me, and the fact she didn't even leave the house on a Saturday and instead chose to watch TV for ~10 hours is kind of alarming to me tbh. I am a very active person, but being outside and getting sunshine is also pretty strongly correlated with good mental health, and the relationship seems to be causal. Someone who can't get of the couch and take a 20min walk outside or something without someone forcing them too seems very unattractive to me... But apparently most people here think it's normal? Was not expecting that from a running forum.

I don’t see it working out given the feelings you’ve expressed on this thread. Your disgust with her behavior will only fester and grow, and it doesn’t sound like you respect her, which really isn’t fair to her at this point in a relationship—you owe it to her to kindly go your own way. I don’t blame you for feeling the way you do, but I would fault you for staying in the relationship and starting to treat her poorly because you feel that way.

You seem dissatisfied with the responses, but I don’t know what you expect—you want us all to pile on and say “Yeah, your girlfriend is lazy and gross”? Her behavior is pretty normal in contemporary society, and for all I know she’s an all-around better person than you, you’re just not compatible. That’s not merely because she wants to watch way more TV; rather, it’s self-evident in your comments on this thread.