The struggles of dating as a 30 y/o Frugal man

Try Grindr

This site is really caught up on height. Height alone won't make you either successful or unsuccessful in dating. It is the deciding factor for very few people of either gender.

Living in an apartment at your age is a turnoff. Buy a house.

Become a passport bro. For real.

No...society is really caught up on height.

You're obviously not a really short guy (> 5-6) or if you are - you're Blue pill delusional.

Before we get to the frugality question, you have an empathy/communication problem.

All else being equal:

Would you rather date someone who is interesting or boring?
Would you rather date someone who is poor or rich?
What if you were going to become pregnant and dating someone poor meant you were forced to put your baby in day care immediately as opposed to having the option?
Do you want to date someone who is so cheap/poor they won't every go on a date with you?

The answers should be obvious, then the question is how do you communicate that to potential partners. That you have a 2006 car so that you can spend the money on your future babies/partner instead of yourself.
How do you communicate, that you are someone who will be fun to be with despite being on a budget?
How do you communicate that you are capable of providing despite having a meager lifestyle right now?
How do you communicate that being frugal is really just prioritizing the things which will be most important to both of you if you start a family.

The second problem is you are dating via online dating and not via your social circle. Its hard to communicate those things online, especially because until they know you potential partners are fungible. That means you need to cultivate a social life where you naturally meet lots of women, and then when the question of your car comes up, you can say something like I can have a new car, or can I put that money away for a nursery. Frugal has become provider for future babies and long term thinker.

You sound like a normal guy with a normal budget and lifestyle. The problem is obviously your bitterness, insecurity and that weird, misogynist belief you clearly hold that most women are superficial gold diggers. Your friend sounds like a similarly minded moron.

I agree with some of this but I heard a great explanation of modern dating. If you are going the online route, you need to live an interesting life. Doesn’t have to be an expensive life but a partner wants to see themselves joining your lifestyle and it being better than the way they are currently living.

You can do all kinds of interesting stuff with no money, find some hobbies, show those hobbies. Demonstrate that you are fun. If your weekend are spent only watching Netflix and taking the dog for a walk, anyone can do that

Nothing wrong with career women at all--they are educated, smart and know their way around corporate culture. And are good networkers and leaders. #womenpower

The best thing to do when you're perpetually single is start a business. As Rick always says, "break the cycle Morty, rise above, focus on science." Science being a metaphor for start a business. You'll find running a successful business is more difficult than a relationship (I suppose this depends on the person...) and is always more rewarding.

If you are truly frugal in your 30s, cancel your broadband internet at home and move to the city close to a college campus. Guys in the 30s should have no problems attracting girls in their 20s.

most women are superficial gold diggers is not a myth. LOL.

Nah. If your aim is women quit running. Get in the gym, get some normal friends, put more effort into your career and you’ll get there. The common denominator is running.

Was on dating sites a few years ago and got very little interest. Changed my profile picture to one of me standing in front of a prop plane I was taking lessons in and that night got 30 responses. Same me but in front of a plane and I could date all the women I wanted. Still with one four years later. So even if frugal make yourself look interesting!

TC or GTFO

If your ‘game’ is as poor as your spelling/grammar, then there’s your answer.

I think GD is spot on. Your odds will go up if you send signals that you are willing to be a source of financial stability. Excessive frugalness doesn't address the evolutionary aspect of mate selection, and you might suffer as a result. Refine your frugality to signal willingness to be financially supportive but steadfast.

Talking to some women would be a start.