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So it sounds like Lauren is bi and has decided to betray the traditional marital vows and this thing is pitched as an evolution of their relationship? At least the hubby didn't stay around and allow himself to exposed as a cuckold like Mr. Begley.
I've never understood how these women who say they are bi - like anyone remember that BYU girl a few years back - act like it's some huge sacrifice to not be allowed to act on it. There are plenty of men in the world that I still objectively find attractive and I'm sure there are way more women my husband would love to shag. We don't as we are married to each other and made vows to each other.
Why does it matter if the person I'm committing adultery with is a man or a woman? If she left her husband for a man, most would condemn it. For some reason, if she acts like she's super evolved and leaves for a woman, we are supposed to clap and tell her she's courageous?
So she found out she's attracted to women as well as men. What's the big deal? When you get married, you are saying, "I'm only going to be with my spouse." The fact that she thinks simply because she's discovered she's bi makes it acceptable to betray her vows troubles me.
Why do so many people think it's good to only worry about yourself - not anyone else. I'm sure her kids would prefer they stay married and her husband the same. So three people lose out and one person wins out.
Bravo.
Maybe you should worry about yourself?
If you think divorce is morally wrong....don't do it.
"We are so proud of us" is the most ridiculous statement I have read so far this year
I mean...how much of the statement do you think was written by the husband here. Obviously whoever is running his social media co-signed this, but it doesn't strike me as something that was penned by a dude in any way.
That makes me sad to hear. It also makes me wonder what is going on. If you write all that positive stuff, then why are you even getting divorced?
I get it that she is bi, but don't people who are gay and bi also willingly exist inside monogamous relationships? Of course they do! It is called fidelity. Literally billions of people are doing it even though it "comes at the cost of self-fulfillment" on some personal level. When you are in a relationship, family, community, etc. you willingly give up some amount of personal freedom for the sake of something bigger than yourself. Right?
p.s. Most people would love to be in a relationship with a soul-mate that they've loved since college and who is a great parent and a handsome/beautiful, smart, kind person who is also their "best friend."
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That makes me sad to hear. It also makes me wonder what is going on. If you write all that positive stuff, then why are you even getting divorced?
I get it that she is bi, but don't people who are gay and bi also willingly exist inside monogamous relationships? Of course they do! It is called fidelity.
literally this.
I am a man. If I was married, just becuase I “identify” as straight doesn’t mean that I should be Championed for having sex with other women.
or maybe I should be? Sounds great!
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does anyone else think the thread title seems like something rojo wrote? the syntax seems like his writing
First thing I thought. Rojo 100% started the thread under an anonymous handle then like 1 minute later added the disclaimer and made it registered users only
I was surprised to see the announcement made shortly after the book coming out bc she’s likely going to get asked about the divorce while doing publicity for the book & it may take attention away from the book. I read her book & in her story it seems like outside Jesse she hadn’t been in any other relationships before marriage. Maybe there’s some regret on both sides for not dating more in their youth. And I don’t mean this bad but it wouldn’t shock me at all if her next partner is a woman
Funny . . . was thinking the same thing . . . not that there's anything wrong with that!
"We are so proud of us" is the most ridiculous statement I have read so far this year
I mean...how much of the statement do you think was written by the husband here. Obviously whoever is running his social media co-signed this, but it doesn't strike me as something that was penned by a dude in any way.
Yeah too much info to be written by a man. If I'm him I'd be like, you post whatever.. "Imma be spending time with my friends, and hooking up with much hotter much younger women. peace!"
That makes me sad to hear. It also makes me wonder what is going on. If you write all that positive stuff, then why are you even getting divorced?
I get it that she is bi, but don't people who are gay and bi also willingly exist inside monogamous relationships? Of course they do! It is called fidelity. Literally billions of people are doing it even though it "comes at the cost of self-fulfillment" on some personal level. When you are in a relationship, family, community, etc. you willingly give up some amount of personal freedom for the sake of something bigger than yourself. Right?
p.s. Most people would love to be in a relationship with a soul-mate that they've loved since college and who is a great parent and a handsome/beautiful, smart, kind person who is also their "best friend."
People in this thread are making really weird connections about being bi. Yeah, you can be bi and be in a monogamous relationship with an opposite partner (As evidenced by this 20 + year relationship).
I feel like people are confusing being bisexual with polyamory or something, and 1) this couple hasn't said anything like that is what happened and it's wrong to assign that to them and 2) more broadly the two are not the same and shouldn't be equated
Finally, just generally, while yes, monogamy/marriage come at some costs and you are speaking to fidelity, that doesn't override the human need for autonomy, and the ability to make decisions that best suit their needs and happiness. Staying married for the sake of an arbitrary, societally constructed form of "commitment" at the cost of personal autonomy is not healthy.
hmmm. wrote: +People in this thread are making really weird connections about being bi. Yeah, you can be bi and be in a monogamous relationship with an opposite partner (As evidenced by this 20 + year relationship).
I feel like people are confusing being bisexual with polyamory or something, and 1) this couple hasn't said anything like that is what happened and it's wrong to assign that to them and 2) more broadly the two are not the same and shouldn't be equated
Finally, just generally, while yes, monogamy/marriage come at some costs and you are speaking to fidelity, that doesn't override the human need for autonomy, and the ability to make decisions that best suit their needs and happiness. Staying married for the sake of an arbitrary, societally constructed form of "commitment" at the cost of personal autonomy is not healthy.
+1. Very well said, hmmm. I suspect many here may not have a lot of life experience.
Usually lesbian women come out as bi as sort of a transition/justification for having heterosexual relationships before.
Can you provide statistical facts for this comment, or some sort of citation, because right now it just looks like an opinion that is based out of a stereotype/trope and the back of your burrito truck.
Finally, just generally, while yes, monogamy/marriage come at some costs and you are speaking to fidelity, that doesn't override the human need for autonomy, and the ability to make decisions that best suit their needs and happiness. Staying married for the sake of an arbitrary, societally constructed form of "commitment" at the cost of personal autonomy is not healthy.
I'm sure people would agree with this IF they didn't have 7- and 9-year-old kids, but if you start a family you take on a bit more responsibility beyond your personal autonomy
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