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OP, are you seeing a licensed therapist? It would be really helpful I think. You’re going to see some mean people responding here
Totally on my to-do list. It's not easy to find one that works with my finances but I will. Mean responses mean nothing to me, it's par for the course for posting anything remotely soft on letsrun :) . But yeah, i've gotten plenty of action and had plenty of girls since her, and I still can't get over it after a few years. I think I never will. Sucks to be a guy sometimes- women seem to move on much faster.
Hope this doesn’t come off as one of those mean replies…
It’s not that women move on faster, it’s that she dumped you. You didn’t dump her. And don’t tell us it was mutual. It clearly wasn’t. When you get dumped, you like to think that you’re both suffering. But think about people you’ve dumped over your life. You’re probably thinking you never dumped anyone this significant. Exactly.
Actually, I did dump her. Long story. Can't give too many details because friends are on here. But sometimes people are young and don't understand how to be in a long term relationship even if they love each other. Tommy Caldwell and Beth "cheater" Rodden come to mind.
My ex got engaged the other day and it's tough. We were never going to get back together, but some deep part of my soul always hoped we would. I am the type of guy who would probably laugh at this type of post until i've been in this situation. Life just feels meaningless. I wrote a letter to her I will never send and that helped. Anyone been here? This is the worst pain I have felt in my life. I considered the ultimate choice (not a new thought for me, I just have not felt particularly attatched to this world) but since I love her still I think it would be incredibly selfish to somehow make this life event of hers about me and marred with tradgedy. Also I am slightly drunk. Just lost in the universe.
Time will heal your wounds, friend. It may not seem like it, but just keep doing you and you will move on!
I knew you were trolling but you made it so obvious I almost feel bad for you. You've had several GF's over the past few years???? And you were with Mrs. Right for how long, a few months???? Nice try spanky;)
Lots of good replies here already. Some mean ones, which over time you’ll see to be true.
I’ll add - just wait til she’s in her 30’s. You’ll see a picture of her and realize you were more in love with her younger appearance than you were her “soul” or whatever.
You won’t believe me right now. That’s OK. You’ll see.
Yep, when I found out my ex had eloped within 6 months of our breakup, I just shook my head and laughed.
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Even though you want to let go it may be difficult since you have the memories together stuck in your brain. I've been there. But I can assure you that it was a blessing to get rid of her.
Love really is blind and the brain can play tricks to attach you to a person who is not really the best for you. The fact that she moved on so quickly hurt you because you're emotionally attached but it is a huge red flag on her personality and may have in fact saved you a life of pain if you stayed with this person. Of course they can pretend their life is great on social media and claim that but the reality is likely far from that.
I was with a woman a couple years ago who was my best friend then she left me and ghosted me, which hurt immensely because we had built so much together and it's like it all meant nothing to that phony broad. I just had to accept she was the problem instead of dwelling on what I'd lost.
What you can strive towards now is self compassion and self improvement. Forget all about her and vow that losing her will make you a better man. It's a new calendar year within a week--what an ideal time to start your plan.
I can relate to the "in some part of my mind I assumed we would get back together someday even though we had been apart for a while." I realize I'm paraphrasing wildly. Anyway, it knocked me for a serious loop when I found out my ex-girlfriend was engaged (we had dated more than seven years). On the other hand, I was suddenly a lot more open to reckless behavior and bad decisions, so my sex life improved considerably. You will get over it. Decades later, I can see even more clearly that it wouldn't have worked out. Funny thing though, is how I remember and still relate certain songs to that mopey time.
When my fiancee and I separated, I said I was going to have the year of "YES". Anything someone asked me to do, I did. No matter how much or how little it cost. I was going to do everything I wouldn't have been able to do if I had gone through with the marriage. This was 2016. I would go through periods of regret and the such like everyone else, and did the whole dating app things. Wasn't finding anything meaningful at all. And then I ended up matching with a girl, during the pandemic, who was having surgery and looking for a one night stand. We hit it off so well that she changed her mind about the one night stand (told me months later) and now 2 years later we are married and I've never been happier.
Break ups are never easy. I dealt with this one way better than the one when I was 25 (I was 37 in 2016) but I learned from the year 25 break up as well. In 2016, I also buried myself into working out which I didn't do back then. Turns out that both break ups in hindsight were the best things to happen to me when you trace back the decisions I made because of both of those break ups.
Life is hard. Reflect on why she left you, change that so it doesnt happen again. For long term relationships from a woman's perspective, you probably didnt make enough money, didn't have enough status, or are ugly. Fix all that.
Feel bad for a few days, then get up and keep moving.
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