What are your redflags on dating apps that instantly make you swipe left?

MatthewW wrote:

for me:

Smokes

Instagram link

Tattoos

Piercings

Vegan

Into rap

Dyed hair

Any sociology/psychology major/degree

“Entrepreneur”

Political junk

Duck lips pose

Pics with Snapchat filter(s)

They/them

The use of “ciao”

Contrived modeling pics without any sense of reality

The mention of specific physical characteristics

So glad I was getting tail before all these dating apps came out. I seriously feel for you kids.

White

OozmaKappa wrote:

hunter wheres the coke wrote:

My current girl has a few small tattoos and a nose piercing. I like them a lot and find them very attractive. I'm guessing that most of you don't like them because it's usually a sign that the girl is pretty liberal.

No I don't like them because theyre trashy and just objectively look bad. Like a bumper sticker on a nice sports car. It's like deliberately giving your otherwise good skin imperfections that stand out like a sore thumb.

The correlation between having them and being crazy, that's a whole other issue. But even if these girls who ruin their skin weren't typically crazy, I still wouldnt like it simply on the grounds that it just looks bad.

Do you think your standards of beauty are "correct"? Like if other people like tattoos or piercings, they are wrong? I've been in too many objectivity vs subjectivity debates but physical beauty would have to be one of the silliest subjects to do it with. Usually it's about Star Wars movies lol.

hunter wheres the coke wrote:

OozmaKappa wrote:

No I don't like them because theyre trashy and just objectively look bad. Like a bumper sticker on a nice sports car. It's like deliberately giving your otherwise good skin imperfections that stand out like a sore thumb.

The correlation between having them and being crazy, that's a whole other issue. But even if these girls who ruin their skin weren't typically crazy, I still wouldnt like it simply on the grounds that it just looks bad.

Do you think your standards of beauty are "correct"? Like if other people like tattoos or piercings, they are wrong? I've been in too many objectivity vs subjectivity debates but physical beauty would have to be one of the silliest subjects to do it with. Usually it's about Star Wars movies lol.

Nobody has ever looked at a woman and thought, "man, she would look better with some tattoos." I'm not saying they can't turn you on, but that's because they signal something else to the observer beyond aesthetics.

Gentleman Savage wrote:

hunter wheres the coke wrote:

Do you think your standards of beauty are "correct"? Like if other people like tattoos or piercings, they are wrong? I've been in too many objectivity vs subjectivity debates but physical beauty would have to be one of the silliest subjects to do it with. Usually it's about Star Wars movies lol.

Nobody has ever looked at a woman and thought, "man, she would look better with some tattoos." I'm not saying they can't turn you on, but that's because they signal something else to the observer beyond aesthetics.

And you know this for certain how? I think it's weird that you just assume that no one could possibly think this way. There are lots of men who find non-tattooed women to be plain or boring.

One time I saw a woman on a dating site- she looked pretty. We set up a meeting- actually in a parking lot to watch a road race go by (a big race in our area).

I walk up, there's a woman standing there, can't be her.

The woman calls my name.

I'm like- Do I know her?

It's her. She doctored the photo up so much I didn't recognize her AT ALL.

I talked for a few then left.

Looked at the photo and was still shocked that it was the same woman.

She actually messaged and said- you really have to see me all made up, I look better.

I wanted to ask- does make up take 50 lbs off your body?

colored hair, both clown style and even the regular shades painted on black hair. I have a pretty bad disgust reaction to the black eyrbrows and roots on these fake blondes/redheads;

when they show off their excessive love for traveling it just means they're vapid and slutty;

strong manifestos about anything in their bio don't usually end up having a great, stable person behind them;

fatness and showing photos only from angles designed to hide their obesity. yikes.

Bio in English (I'm from a non-English speaking country)

hunter wheres the coke wrote:

Gentleman Savage wrote:

Nobody has ever looked at a woman and thought, "man, she would look better with some tattoos." I'm not saying they can't turn you on, but that's because they signal something else to the observer beyond aesthetics.

And you know this for certain how? I think it's weird that you just assume that no one could possibly think this way. There are lots of men who find non-tattooed women to be plain or boring.

Like I said, and you somehow missed after careful reading, it's because they signal something else to the observer beyond aesthetics. They tell you that she's attainable to a certain class, that she's into a lifestyle, that she's eager to show that she's not conservative despite her roots, that she's up for risky behavior, etc. Are you saying you have no attraction to women without tats? That indicates you've been programmed strongly by deviant mentors and messaging more than anything else. In that case, you're right, I should amend my above statement to include "no well-adjusted man has ever looked at a woman" etc.

Gentleman Savage wrote:

hunter wheres the coke wrote:

And you know this for certain how? I think it's weird that you just assume that no one could possibly think this way. There are lots of men who find non-tattooed women to be plain or boring.

Like I said, and you somehow missed after careful reading, it's because they signal something else to the observer beyond aesthetics. They tell you that she's attainable to a certain class, that she's into a lifestyle, that she's eager to show that she's not conservative despite her roots, that she's up for risky behavior, etc. Are you saying you have no attraction to women without tats? That indicates you've been programmed strongly by deviant mentors and messaging more than anything else. In that case, you're right, I should amend my above statement to include "no well-adjusted man has ever looked at a woman" etc.

I didn't miss that part. I think it's silly and dumb. I like the way some tattoos look. Of course, they don't all look good, and I'm not the guy that thinks non-tattooed women are plain or boring. I just know people who do think that way. You seem to think that your personal preferences are correct and that no one else could reasonably have different preferences. They must be brainwashed. "No other man could possibly like something or prefer something that I don't prefer." It's a very arrogant and self-centered way to think.

General agreement here on the unattractiveness of: tattoos, obesity, smokes, political, Instagram link, single mom. If only this list could be shown to younger women BEFORE they make these mistakes. The biggest problem with dating apps though, is that even the most hideous women get attention (because many men will f anything with a pulse). And those tatted fatties mistake that attention for being desired by a high quality man who might want a long term relationship.

Kobbs Hessler wrote:

General agreement here on the unattractiveness of: tattoos, obesity, smokes, political, Instagram link, single mom. If only this list could be shown to younger women BEFORE they make these mistakes. The biggest problem with dating apps though, is that even the most hideous women get attention (because many men will f anything with a pulse). And those tatted fatties mistake that attention for being desired by a high quality man who might want a long term relationship.

Why do you assume those women are looking for a long term relationship?