Should have passed her a note that said "Do you want to go out with me? Check yes or no."
Should have passed her a note that said "Do you want to go out with me? Check yes or no."
zatopek wrote:
2. Remember if a woman is interested in you, she will give you some sign..she will initiate...then follow up on it.
Good luck
The fact that she pretty much gave me her number, has brought up a few situations where we could hang out and texted me two nights ago after I called her was a pretty good sign I thought.
WTF did you text her? You got all this advice, none of which saying to text her. EVERYBODY is saying to ask her out in person, and then you go and blow it with a text. Thank god, natural selection is weeding your meekness out of the system.
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thedoorsquerry wrote:
You can't hedge your response. Either you think the thread is fake and don't respond or you respond to a fake post like a big idiot.
No, I think we all know it is fake. It is just entertainment, like reading a novel or watching a movie, except it is participatory. I want to see how creative the guy is in adding to and stretching out his story.
A good troll is a thing of beauty. I wish this one was a little better but it is good by the standards of Letsrun.
C Darwin wrote:
WTF did you text her? You got all this advice, none of which saying to text her. EVERYBODY is saying to ask her out in person, and then you go and blow it with a text. Thank god, natural selection is weeding your meekness out of the system.
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Very true, post your text on here so we can critique. And please dear god tell me you didn't type like a 14 year old girl using lots of abbreviations and things like lol.
Also, I really want this to work out so I can go to your wedding.
Just tell her you want "relations" at the coffee shop, and wink. She'll go for it. For the 800th time, be a man and claim your mate.
I didn't ask her out. She made a post on facebook saying I'm going to such and such who wants to come, I have some spots left. I sent a text saying I would go, no response. I really didn't see the big deal, considering the night before when we had texted for a good hour. I felt fine texting is an appropriate form a of communication with her. Also I'm getting something set up today with some of my friends to see a local concert down at a local club. At this point when I walk in tomorrow, I'll say hey I'm going to such and such place with some friends to see such and such, do you want to come. If she says no, thats fine, I did what I could. The semester is almost over, plus I'm going to Boston next week. I think I can live with going to another coffee shop for a few days. If she says yes, then great. I've got a base set up. The frustrating thing is I feel like I did everything right here. I acted confident around, not wishy washy and didn't act desperate. Yet stuff that happened last night, happened. Its really frustrating.
You gotta learn to play the game my friend, play the game. You chase, she withdraws, she chases, you withdraw...the tension builds. This my friend is the dance of love(at least a pretty hot hook up).
stuck with match.com wrote:
Yet stuff that happened last night, happened. Its really frustrating.
What happened last night?
the real sl!m shady wrote:
stuck with match.com wrote:Yet stuff that happened last night, happened. Its really frustrating.
What happened last night?
I guess they must have sent some sext messages?
stuck with match.com wrote:
I felt fine texting is an appropriate form a of communication with her.
If this is the kind of grammar you used when talking to her, no wonder you are in the position you are in.
If you came in and asked me if I wanted to go to a concert with you and some of your friends, I would not consider it a date. I might go if I liked the band, maybe if I liked you. But to stop going to the shop if she "turns you down"? You still have not actually asked her out on a "date", so there's no reason for you to stop showing your face if she says no to the band. Equally, if she says yes, how are you gonna talk to her while a loud band is playing?
Everyone here has told you to ask in person for a one-on-one date...why are you making this so complicated?
Mrs. M wrote:
why are you making this so complicated?
He is drawing out the troll fun. It is one of the objectives, you know......
Mrs. M wrote:
Everyone here has told you to ask in person for a one-on-one date...why are you making this so complicated?
I'm just following the advice that was given earlier. About asking her to a group thing first. This is what I was talking about, it seems like no matter what I do or say somebody is upset with me.
Recent events
A few days ago we texted for an hour about random stuff back and forth
yesterday
she says I saw that you play guitar, you seem pretty good. I just got a guitar, would you mind teaching me how to play
Sure I said. This was part of the conversation that happened yesterday
Last night I see on my facebook newsfeed that theres a post. She says I'm going to such and such event. (I'm not saying which event it is then you will figure out my location) I have two tickets left. I texted her saying I was interested in going and asked if she still had seats left.
No response.
you should have told her to make you coffee (in a stern manner) and, as she prepared it, told her she might be able to go on a date with you if the coffee was extraordinary. naturally, you wont want to compliment her (ever), so throw the coffee on her (not in her face, that's rude) after your first sip. she will cry. the next time you go in there, be pleasant and compliment (pretend compliments are not real compliments) her coffee... then ask her out and you're golden. good luck.
Dude, don't beat yourself up about process. She just doesn't want to date you. She probably thinks you are nice but isn't into you.
Bottom line is if she liked you and was really interested, no matter how you asked she would have made it happen. Chicks (or guys) who like you don't give mixed signals. They say yes, the get gooshy, they go out of their way to talk/see you.
"Mixed signals" is a firm signal: No.
She is trying to avoid confrontation cuz she has to see you everyday, but she doesn't want to see you outside the coffee shop. let it go, spend your efforts on someone else. but don't beat yourself up about what you did or didn't do, she didn't say no to how you asked, she said no to you. Such is life. Happens to the best of us. Shrug your shoulders and move on.
You should read "Maybe he is just not that into you" it actually speaks to your very problem very concisely.
jp is engaged wrote:
You gotta learn to play the game my friend, play the game. You chase, she withdraws, she chases, you withdraw...the tension builds. This my friend is the dance of love(at least a pretty hot hook up).
I'll weigh in. This post is dead on. You played your hand a bit weak w/ that text. If you have her number, call her up and ask her out. If you know where to run into her in person, run into her, be bold, and ask her out in person.
Now that she knows you're interested, you gotta back off. Be unavailable and act like you don't notice her. Hit on the other pretty girl she works w/, etc. Let her be caught off guard by you not paying attention to her. If she's hot, it'll frustrate her that she's not the center of attention and make her more interested. You don't have to be an asshole, just make sure that you are out of her reach.
I once asked an old (very hot IMO) girlfriend what she remembered most about the night we met. She said, without hesitation..."I remember that you wouldn't even look at me."
Me? I remember dancing with every other girl at the club, and having her grab me by the arm as she got off the floor to give me her number. That, my friend, is how you play the game. If you do it right, and are confident, it really doesn't matter who you are, you can get just about any girl.
Once you have them...ha...that's a whole 'nother ball game.
wow, this is a long thread.
all advice can be summed up as: "stop being a little boy and either take it or leave it"
Actually wrote:
You should read "Maybe he is just not that into you" it actually speaks to your very problem very concisely.
yes
Actually wrote:
Dude, don't beat yourself up about process. She just doesn't want to date you. She probably thinks you are nice but isn't into you.
Bottom line is if she liked you and was really interested, no matter how you asked she would have made it happen. Chicks (or guys) who like you don't give mixed signals. They say yes, the get gooshy, they go out of their way to talk/see you.
"Mixed signals" is a firm signal: No.
She is trying to avoid confrontation cuz she has to see you everyday, but she doesn't want to see you outside the coffee shop. let it go, spend your efforts on someone else. but don't beat yourself up about what you did or didn't do, she didn't say no to how you asked, she said no to you. Such is life. Happens to the best of us. Shrug your shoulders and move on.
You should read "Maybe he is just not that into you" it actually speaks to your very problem very concisely.
Oh okay, thanks