I am not a troll, how many times do I have say that. I will give you credit Mr. Obvious, you have stuck to your word, unlike me.
I saw her today and she said I got your message. That means she knows it was me but didn't call back. We talked a little bit about this and that. My question is now, do I call her again tomorrow and ask her out on the date or just let things play out?
Do not call her to ask her out. Got to the coffee shop as usual and just ask if she'd like to _______________ with you.
Just ask. ~ (That's as close as I can get to the Nike symbol)
"Just let things play out" means you pine away for months and never get any satisfaction and become an even more misanthropic runner.
Just man-up and ask her!
I agree, its time to ask her, which I have been trying to do. I want to do it in person, rather than the phone to but if I ask her in front of other people that may not be the best time to do it. She might feel pressured to say yes, or to say no. Plus she's at work, its not exactly the time or place.
Mrs. M wrote:"Just let things play out" means you pine away for months and never get any satisfaction and become an even more misanthropic runner.
This thread is turning me into a misanthrope.
Kill. This. Thread. Now.
Yes, call her tommorow and ask her out. You have zero to gain by waiting any longer. Not to be negative, but if you are going to be rejected (not that necessarily I think you will be)it is better to get it over with now, so that you can move on to greener pastures.
I called her and asked her out. It is over, my friends. She told me she has a boyfriend. Time for me to move on.
Thanks for all the helpful advice. Bye.
OK so I read the first and last page (nothing in between) and ... SERIOUSLY? This thing is 12 pages long and the guy still hasn't asked her out? Come on, dude. Man up. What have you got to lose?
My bad, I posted before hitting refresh. That looked really insensitive what I wrote.
Tough break, guy. Good luck on your next conquest.
Tell her they've found a donor for your testicle transplant and for her to be patient 'cause after thursday you'll be able to ask her out.
Hey, just checking in, I've been away from this thread for about five days. So...did he marry her yet?
stuck with match.com. wrote:
I called her and asked her out. It is over, my friends. She told me she has a boyfriend. Time for me to move on.
Thanks for all the helpful advice. Bye.
Look at the handle... not the OP. Come on, OP! Go for it!
not the OP wrote:
stuck with match.com. wrote:I called her and asked her out. It is over, my friends. She told me she has a boyfriend. Time for me to move on.
Thanks for all the helpful advice. Bye.
Look at the handle... not the OP. Come on, OP! Go for it!
Thank you for pointing that out
Here's the plan for tomorrow. I will try to go in when its not busy and hopefully I get into a conversation where its just me and nobody else can here is. If thats the case I will ask her for some ice cream on wednesday. If not then I will call her after work.
stuck with match.com wrote:
not the OP wrote:Look at the handle... not the OP. Come on, OP! Go for it!
Thank you for pointing that out
Here's the plan for tomorrow. I will try to go in when its not busy and hopefully I get into a conversation where its just me and nobody else can here is. If thats the case I will ask her for some ice cream on wednesday. If not then I will call her after work.
Bad plan.
Better plan, just wait until you are having some conversational banter with her that is fun, that she is enjoying...and then drop in a line like:
"Hey would it be uncool of me to ask you out while you are working?"
That is a side ways asking out, she can slide out of it in a soft way that allows her her dignity.
If she says "yeah, kind of..."
Then you say "then of course I would NEVER do that, do you have a boyfriend?"
If she says "yes." Then you can say "okay, cool, if you ever want to go out, just ping me..."
Keep it casz, and safe, respectful for her at her place of work.
No, don\'t go with that. That is too risky. Seriously, \"can I ask you out at work.\" Here\'s what you are doing, you are letting her know that you want to ask her out, without asking her out. That\'s probably the worse thing you could do. I\'m not going to tell you grow a pair or anything like that OP but realize this, she\'s given you some signs. You have to act now or live with the regret.
Never leave a message
You have made too many mistakes
ice cream? ice cream?! bwaaaaaaaaaaahahahahahahahaha
anyone ever seen the movie half baked?
I hadn't checked this thread in about a week, and I was surprised to still see it on page one. Often when I see a thread sticking around, and get around to clicking on, it turns out to be funny and/or interesting. Sadly, such is not the case here.
I must confess that I have not read all 14 pages, so I hope this isn't just an epic trolling effort. In case it's not, here's my advice to the OP: after some light banter with your prospective honey, tell her that you realize it's hard for her to talk at work, so suggest that you meet someplace where you can relax and chat. Then either meet her for drinks or a light bite to eat. (Has this already been suggested many times? It seems so obvious.) If all else fails, cut your losses and move on. Oh, and start drinking heavily.
I'm so confused. Somebody here mentioned asking her to ice cream was a good idea, now people are laughing at me for it. So which one is it?
They're laughing because they're as clueless as you. Go with the ice cream idea. Unless it's < 50 degrees. It's a sweet gesture and brief thing that can linger longer if things go well. Listen to a female's advice here, not your fellow dateless male runners that post idiocy.