RE: I have a crush on a girl that works at a coffee shop.

Well guys, I called her and apparently things are a little different than I expected. I started by telling her that I had some movie passes laying around and that I would be interested in taking her. She sounded pretty into it actually. But then it took a turn for the worst, she asked me when, and I said this Friday and thats when she seemed a little concerned. She said Friday might not be enough time for her to find a babysitter for her kid. FML

yeah that's like a hot dog down a hallway

This has gone on long enough.

But throwing in the kid is a good curve ball.

We'll see how much longer I stay interested in this.

April Fool!

stuck with match..com wrote:

^^^^ notice how the moniker changed. imposter.

So only one person thinks its a good idea to ask her out on a mid week date because of the group thing we got going on next week. Anybody else agree with this?

stuck with match.com wrote:

So only one person thinks its a good idea to ask her out on a mid week date because of the group thing we got going on next week. Anybody else agree with this?

SUP BRO, you out there?

I've been doing some thinking and I'm pretty desperate, I'm 23 yrs old now and I think my luck is done. I have drained all my effort on this coffee shop wonder. I think I shall introduce her to this thread so she can see my manliness, then I will ask her to marry me. I'm getting old and I have used up all my energy asking this girl for a number. Are adoption papers hard to fill out? Because I think I'm ready to be her babies papa.

Just make up your own mind and take some initiative.

And yes, definitely get together midweek before the group thing.

If you are a troll, you are a master. The way you have strung people along throught these last two weeks or so (longer?) shows you to be a virtuoso in the art of message board trollism. And the fact that you were able to do it without resorting to an inherently controversial topic speaks volumes for your skill level. Even your adamant denials about being a troll seem wierdly authentic. And like a true master, you make your craft look easy. Well done indeed.

9/10

I can't believe this is still going on??? what a sleeper thread

he literally pwned you guys!

Here's the plan, I will not post again until I have I completed this task or the time of the plan has passed. A.k.a. I wussed out.

I will call her on either Friday or Saturday and ask her if she wants to get a cup of coffee on Tuesday after work. She seems really outgoing so I'm not sure if she's actually interested in me or if shes just like this to everyone, I guess we will find out. I didn't create this thread to wuss out. I realize now that I have to do something. If anybody has any tips or advice as to what to say to her when I call her they will be appreciated. Again I will not post again until something has happened.

Since you have her number, send her text message with one of these jokes.

http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?board=1&id=2790082&thread=2790082

You're asking a girl that works in a coffee shop if she wants to go get coffee with you. Really? Are you really that clueless? Not ice cream, not a smoothie, not A BEER..... ....coffee. You do not deserve to further your gene pool.

stuck with match.com wrote:. She seems really outgoing so I'm not sure if she's actually interested in me or if shes just like this to everyone, I guess we will find out.

I think you know the answer to your question.

stuck with match.com wrote:

So only one person thinks its a good idea to ask her out on a mid week date because of the group thing we got going on next week. Anybody else agree with this?

I agree with what has been said the last 10 or so posts, coffee? Seriously? You are 23 at college? Sweet Fancy Moses what is wrong with you son?

I was not that great with women (at your age) but by 23 I had already had at least 5 girlfriends that I had slept with 40 times each.

If you want a relationship with a girl, this girl or ANY GIRL, it is going to be an awkward obstacle course the entire time if it is ANYTHING like what you have put yourself through to just ASK HER OUT.

If you are not fat, and you don't have bad skin, and you don't have the lamest clothes in the world ... then go out and get some. It AIN'T THAT HARD SON ... it is college and if you have to stalk som epoor coffee shop girl for two months you should probably aim lower and go out with some other girls first to get more confidence. Right now you have almost ZERO.

And to answer your constant stupid questions about what normal people do when they like a girl ... they ask her out. It has happened to me about 10 times in the last two years. I meet a girl, she has no ring, I strike up conversation with her and then say, "Hey, how is it that you aren't married?" If she says, "I am." then I move on and forget about it. If she blushes and starts talking to me then I know she is at least somewhat interested. I go from there ... sometimes it means we go to the blues club, sometimes rollerblading or mountain biking or rowing, sometimes it means we go to dinner.

Little things you can do are ... well, one girl I asked out's last name was Alaimo (Italian -- but I didn't know). I took her to an Italian restaurant (an authentic one run by Italians). So when we are there there is a map of Italy on the placemat, she starts talking about where she has been in Italy. I tell her that out of all the Euro countries, I would like to go to Italy the most (the art, the culture, the mountains, the beach, the ocean, the food, I love the language, la la la). I tell her that between track and cycling I feel that I visit Italy a little every year. She smiles and says "I'm Italian."

I honestly didn't know, but she felt something good from that. So then we had a little connection that was not fake and it was a little more than just some other guy taht was about her age that asked her out.

You can do these things with sports or pets or hobbies or whatever ... just don't obsess over whether they will say YES of NOT.

It is like people who overthink RUNNING races. My friend was Age-35 National Champ in the indoor mile a couple yrs ago and a super-OCD type. He was stressing hard over trying to break 15:30 in a 5k. I asked him "Do you remember the taper and warmup you used for your indoor miles?" "No" he said.

"Did they work well?" I asked. "I guess so."

"Yeah, I would say so. You broke 4:30 and 4:10metric and 2:00 for the 800. It worked. It wasn't any special training, taper or warmup ... it just worked and you don't remember what you did because you just did it and it worked out."

Do that with women. Don't obsess over them. Even when it works out it often doesn't work out for very long. You need to date a lot of them because many relationships are going to fail very soon or after a long time. If you wait two months to ask a girl out you are just sitting on the sidelines most of your life.

Believe me, this guy is for real. He's not a troll. cant say the same for guys like SUP BRO but SUP BRO is pretty entertaining.