Congrats good 1st step
Congrats good 1st step
stuck with match.com wrote:
i know im a dick wrote:so swm.c, details of the encounter? or are you still trying to write the script?
As noted yesterday I will not give the specifics because I am beginning to creep myself out by posting all the details.
In summary:
I went in, got a coffee she we talked about a little bit about what she was doing next weekend. She said I'm going to such and place and suggested that I go with her. I used that to get her number.
Dude, you go on an on about your sorry life, lack of confidence, Facebook strategies, ex-girlfriend, etc and then you totally gloss over the only good thing you had to say.
Come on.
PS Props for sacking up and getting the digits.
Wow she suggested you go with her? She isn't messing around. Sounds like you didn't have to do any work except smile at her.
Hope it goes well. Can u call her in like 2days maybe? Not sure what the proper time length is but I learned its usually good not to do it right away...maybe some "sup bro" experts can shed some light here...
watch the movie swingers. that is actually not a joke. watch swingers.
in one scene from the movie you see what you absolutely do not do:
Thank you. I didn't plan on calling her right away, I was going to wait 2 to 3 days. I don't want her to forget about me. Agreed, I'm also hoping that Alpha male, sup bro due chimes in on this one. I like their commentary.
SUP BRO IS ALWAYS HERE TO OFFER ADVICE. SUP BRO WASN'T CO-CAPTAIN OF THE DEFENSIVE SQUAD HIS SENIOR YEAR FOR NOTHIN'.
SUP BRO USUALLY AVOIDS DATES AND JUST GETS STRAIGHT TO BUSINESS, BUT THERE ARE THOSE RARE OCCASIONS WHERE SUP BRO NEEDS TO SETTLE DOWN AND GO ON A DATE ONCE IN A BLUE MOON.
FOR A FIRST DATE SUP BRO USUALLY LIKES TO COORDINATE TWO OR MORE DIFFERENT GIRLS SO THAT THEY ALL FALL ON THE SAME DAY AND TIME FOR A DATE. ONCE THEY ALL START TO ARRIVE AND REALIZE THEY ARE GOING TO HAVE TO COMPETE AGAINST EACH OTHER FOR THE CHANCE TO WIN A WILD RIDE ON SUP BRO'S MONSTROUS COCK, THE REAL FUN STARTS TO BEGIN.
THIS ELIMINATES ALL THE BORING STUFF YOU'D HAVE TO DO NORMALLY, LIKE TALKING ABOUT LIFE AND ALL THAT BORING BULLSHIT. IT GOES STRAIGHT INTO THE WOMEN FIGHTING AGAINST EACH OTHER, AND THEY INSTANTLY BECOME MORE SLUTTY AND WILL TRY TO OUTDO THE OTHER IN TERMS OF HOW FAR THEY WILL GO TO PLEASE SUP BRO.
THE GREAT PART ABOUT THIS IS THAT EVERYONE'S A WINNER IN THE END BECAUSE SUP BRO USUALLY ENDS UP BANGING THEM ALL THAT SAME NIGHT. SUP BRO SUGGESTS YOU FOLLOW A SIMILAR PLAN OF ATTACK IF YOU WANT TO GET THE MOST OUT OF YOUR NIGHT.
WELL IT'S BEEN REAL, BUT SUP BRO HAS SOME INCLINED BENCH PRESS TO GET BACK TO, AND THAT MET-RX PROTEIN SHAKE ISN'T GOING TO JUST DRINK ITSELF.
Oh Jesus, just call her tomorrow! Next day is not desperate, it shows you're interested. 2-3 days you're into Easter break and it also shows you're playing games. Don't.
This is correct. If you wait the specified days, you signal to her that you are juevenile and playing games. Call.
Mrs. M wrote:
Oh Jesus, just call her tomorrow! Next day is not desperate, it shows you're interested. 2-3 days you're into Easter break and it also shows you're playing games. Don't.
I was like you about 10 years ago. But first off, congrats to finally have the courage and get a number. Good luck with that date.
You seem to be a bit unconfident and shy, I am not saying this with a bad intent or to put you down, just my observation. That's cool though, like everything in life "the women thing" is a learning curve that you go through.
I guess my advice is to just relax and don't panic. Don't get your expectations up, aka: I'll hook up with the coffee shop bunny at the end of the night, etc. Don't even expect a kiss. Be happy about what you have, and not more, which is her invitation to hang out and a potential date lined up. I repeat: do not stress out, you are just harming yourself. Go with the flow and learn to trust your gut feeling.
Actually I have my 2 cent on all the alpha male talk that is going around. Primary Alpha male characteristics are NOT cockiness, muscles and a big d##ck.
It is confidence, yes,(as has been said), but ask yourself where that confidence in alpha males comes from. It comes from a) liking yourself, b) having the inner trust and faith in knowing what you do is right, and C) the ability to take the risk to make a fool out of yourself by knowing that life is just a game. Alpha males don t fear rejection, because they don`t take it personal. They know what they are worth (in a very modest way).
You can`t be confident if you don`t know what you should do. But look at it like that: if taking out a girl is like solving a jigsaw puzzle you have to solve this puzzle by trying. Trying and finding out if pieces match together. You trust yourself. You are not afraid that two pieces don`t match because if they don`t you just move on and try another piece.
That is my advice, kick back and relax.. enjoy the moment. Your life will be so much more simple. Learn to trust your instincts.
Good luck and keep us posted.
I am the Walrus, thank you that was great advice and very well written. Let me clarify something, yes I got her number, yes it appears I'm hanging out with her next weekend. But its definitely not a date. I am not expecting anything, not a dang thing. I very happy with my progress. If you had said to me six weeks ago (when I still very depressed over my ex) you're gonna get the number from a cute girl I would have said hell yeah. Even if nothing happens between us. The sad part is I'm 23 and have only hooked up with 1 girl, my ex. So this itsself is a minor accomplishment for me. I hope I didn't confuse people into thinking that I had a date set up.
stuck with match.com wrote:
I got a number!!!!
You really need to provide proof of this. Post her number, then we will all call her to verify. Your letsrun cred is on the line.
good advice for all, def will try to use myself.
I have been dating for a long time, and had many success/failures with hundreds of different women. To answer your question, my friends and I have found that it is ALWAYS best to wait 5-9 days to call the female. This rule is solid and works under all situations. Also, when you call her for the first time, talk to her for NO MORE than 10 minutes. Set up a date to meet (time & place); make some small talk then get the hell off the phone. If she rambles on, then politely interrupt her and say that you must go to finish something up or to go help your mom, etc. Good Luck.
I have read many books is right don't call the next day
Ask a woman and they will say they don't want to be kept waiting. Ask women how soon their boyfriends actually called them and you might get closer to what actually works
Its not about playing games. If you went out with a friend for a drink you wouldn't ring them up the day & ask them when you are next meeting up
He is also on the money about not yattering for hours on the phone to her
You hardly know here yet, steaming in too quick is just like setting off too fast in a race. You will look good for a while, then crash and burn
A few days prior to getting her number she talked about going out to some event. I asked her yesterday about it and she said she still didn't have the details and thats what I used to get her number. It didn't sound like a date at all infact it sounded more like a group thing. The question is how do I handle it. Do I go to this group thing with her then ask her on a date after, assuming it goes well. Or do I call her, ask her to go on a mid - week date.
stuck with match.com wrote:
A few days prior to getting her number she talked about going out to some event. I asked her yesterday about it and she said she still didn't have the details and thats what I used to get her number. It didn't sound like a date at all infact it sounded more like a group thing. The question is how do I handle it. Do I go to this group thing with her then ask her on a date after, assuming it goes well. Or do I call her, ask her to go on a mid - week date.
your schtick is getting old, my friend
stuck with match.com wrote:
A few days prior to getting her number she talked about going out to some event. I asked her yesterday about it and she said she still didn't have the details and thats what I used to get her number. It didn't sound like a date at all infact it sounded more like a group thing. The question is how do I handle it. Do I go to this group thing with her then ask her on a date after, assuming it goes well. Or do I call her, ask her to go on a mid - week date.
You had a good run, we all know this is fake.
But... to answer the question... You skip this "event" and just ask her out. Call her right now and see if she wants to get dinner this weekend.
Yes, I, much like the girl at the coffee shop, am now totally bored by your wishy-washy-ness. I was interested at first, but now...yawn. Later, dude.
No Mang wrote:
You had a good run, we all know this is fake.
But... to answer the question... You skip this "event" and just ask her out. Call her right now and see if she wants to get dinner this weekend.
This is not fake. I'm new to all of this. I'll admit I've been hesitant, but wishy washy cmon. You guys act like if you see a girl and have a conversation with her then you need to ask her out immediately. How has that strategy worked out for you guys. Considering I'm posting on a thread where most of us are single and have had very little experience I find it appalling that people bash me for being wishy washy. Look in the mirror guys!
stuck with match.com wrote:
This is not fake. I'm new to all of this. I'll admit I've been hesitant, but wishy washy cmon. You guys act like if you see a girl and have a conversation with her then you need to ask her out immediately. How has that strategy worked out for you guys. Considering I'm posting on a thread where most of us are single and have had very little experience I find it appalling that people bash me for being wishy washy. Look in the mirror guys!
That just sealed it.