Anyone divorced and happier???

I was married for 4 years. Bad move. We only dated 6 months. She was more concerned with ivy league degrees and status. She was not impressed with my position as teacher and changing lives. She was embarrassed to tell people I went to a state college. She dropped a divorce on me with no warning. She moved in with another guy she worked with, within 6 months of our divorce and wanted me to believe she wasn't fooling around.

Karma is a bitch. He turned out to be a woman hitter :)

LMAO!!!!!

How come divorce costs so much?

--it's worth it

Star wrote:

Here is Louis CK on divorce:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rhn0pgbfzf4

Brilliant.

Yes, I just seperate from my wife about two weeks ago. We have 2 and 4 year old girls. We are all happier. It was mutual. We pegged it as a positive change for the kids, made sure they knew they were well loved, and let them know they would spend time with both of us and could call the other. The kids are thriving and so are the parents. I have slept better than ever every night including the three nights a week I am have with the girls. I feel like a new person. My wife and I are friendly and speak everyday so we know what is going on with the kids. We do the odd thing with the four us. The entire thing so far has been a very positive change for our family.

New wife has a nice big butt.

Jesus so mUch mentioned of verbal abuse...how did you guys not see that coming?????

Well, her tits kept getting in the way and interfered with my hearing. Pretty common cause and how it all begins.... some guys figure out how to shut her up by testing the gag reflex on occasion though... when that doesn't work anymore, then it's time to move on.

Finisher Medal-------- wrote:

[What happened to men being men and keeping their vows? Does the phrase "in sickness and in health, till death do you part" mean anything to you?

You apparently didn't get the memo: It doesn't work that way. Bitches change after they say the words, "I do".

I'm going to throw myself out there ... my wife and I are currently separated, and I hate it. Obviously it's her idea and not mine. For all you guys who love being divorced, did you like being married, or did you hate it the whole time? Was it a relief to end it, or was it heartbreaking?

Coexisting more or less happily, much more happy than when I thought and hoped some great relationship was ever coming back. It isn't. People don't know what they are getting into at all. I say this even though I have a pretty fair minded spouse. She can usually be brought to that anyway. Not crazy at all. But that is not enough. One thing about me , I don't think getting married again has the slightest bit of appeal. I seriously doubt the grass is greener, not for very long anyway. i could fall for the same damn trick of nature and this thing we call a civilized union. Fool me how many times? Again that's no knock on women, none of us is perfect, people just don't know they are getting into.

Green Eggs and Ham wrote:

I'm going to throw myself out there ... my wife and I are currently separated, and I hate it. Obviously it's her idea and not mine. For all you guys who love being divorced, did you like being married, or did you hate it the whole time? Was it a relief to end it, or was it heartbreaking?

Honestly, I hated it pretty much the entire time. I mean I put in a lot of effort and really attempted to make it work, but it was always, always work. No matter how much effort I put into it, it never made things better. I resisted getting divorced (her idea) but it was great for me. We were just not compatible and should not have been together. Those signs were there from the beginning but whether through inexperience, lack of self-confidence, or just plain stubbornness I believed if I just wanted it to work badly enough and worked hard enough at it I could make it work. I couldn't.

The process of divorce was awful. Lawyers, stress, money, etc. It was also heartbreaking, as I mourned, not for the relationship I actually had, but for the relationship I wanted to have and the idea that I was not going to have that.

Getting divorced is pretty tough. Actually being divorced is great.

Very good sound advice.

Well, I’m in a similar boat. Partner of 9 years, 2 kids, didn’t bother with marriage, rushed into having kids, whoopsie. Anyways, we had a fairly rough trot since we had kids. Bickering etc. I cottoned on a couple of years ago she’d been having an affair for some time. Devastated.

Tried to make it work. It’s inspiring reading these posts. Some women are aholes. I plan to ditch the btch and run a muck. I’ll be a better father without her shortcomings, she’s a feminist btch prioritising her career. Doesn’t want me to be a stay at home dad. Priorities are well off what makes sense. Brainwashed.

Been thinking about leaving almost a year now. Wife essentially closed down all sex after she got pregnant. Post pregnancy, we have sex maybe twice a month if I’m lucky. I’m only 31 and my sex drive seems like it’s skyrocketed since I cut back on running and started lifting.

Had to travel for work and slept with 2 girls in a two week period. Great sex. Felt bad for cheating but can’t only blame myself.

Worst is our fights about where we’ll live. I work online so we can live essentially anywhere but she only wants to live close to her family who I clash with often.

Writing is on the wall to divorce. Do hope for some miracle to return and give us some “love” we had when I proposed. Doubtful though and seeing all these happy dudes that moved on successfully seems to be the only shimmer of light.

Was married for 7. Got divorced. Everyday i wake up now the air tastes sweeter. Divorce is amazing.

I was married for 24 years, split up almost 3 years ago, got divorced, met someone new and now getting married again

I’m much happier

Divorced my husband after four years of marriage. There was no there there. That was 24 years ago. Have not remarried and have been totally happy being single. Been no shortage of opportunities along the way. Have traveled, owned beautiful homes, kept the running and other athletics alive and kicking.

Do it. Don't look back.

I used the Nolo diy divorce forms. It was a helluva lot less work and expense than the lawyer route. But then my kid was grown and there was little property to settle. I basically gave up the farm to keep my teacher retirement. Twenty years later I can say it was a good move and, together with my basically Spartan nature, I am and have been in good shape.

Running has sort of deteriorated but from natural causes. Just no racing.

Well, since I managed self-divorce, I imagine about any other average puke can.

I'll chime in.

I was married for technically three years in my early 30's, we were broken up just prior the third anniversary and decided to divorce. I wanted out, mainly because she was just a terribly selfish and materialistic person with a history of depression and mental illness that she failed to disclose prior to marriage. I did my best to be supportive, but she was just incredibly mean and our sex life was dead less than a year into our marriage. She hated running, hated my hobbies, hated my friends and treated my immediate family like trash. I admittedly fought back a lot which wasn't good either.

Turns out she was texting some rich Executive at her company and they most certainly hooked up prior to our court date. We had no kids, no alimony.

A few months after divorce I was in a pretty bad place after seeing her immediately with the executive guy but I bounced back big and started dating a girl more educated, prettier, who loves to run, and is just a generally better person than my ex-wife. I moved to a town 3 hours away to take a job where I'm well compensated and loving life. We were married two years later and we now have a 2-year old.

I have not seen my ex-wife in person in almost nine years, but I did hear that she married the executive and a recent Facebook photo on my feed indicates that she weighs at least 200 lbs and is nearly unrecognizable.

My advice is to wait to have kids for at least three years and wait until the honeymoon phase is over. Date and cohabitate for as long as you can. Don't get married too young. Don't ever marry someone who isn't 100% on board with you as an individual.