Not wrong to date but I would feel weird being with a youngster. This guy I know is 36 dating a 24 year old and they always think he is her dad.
Not wrong to date but I would feel weird being with a youngster. This guy I know is 36 dating a 24 year old and they always think he is her dad.
15 years ago I was 27 and started dating an 18 year old. We're married with three kids.
Was 27 once wrote:
15 years ago I was 27 and started dating an 18 year old. We're married with three kids.
How often do you let her out of her cell? Does feeding her get expensive?
Be VERY careful. I was in the same situation when in college...I was 28 and she 18. One day we're talking while parked in a Home Depot parking lot at around breakfast and police cruisers pull up around us. I had to get out of the car with hands up and tell my story: dating, student at local state college, etc.. Lead cop relents and lets me "go" but not before throwing in the point: "careful liking them young,a-hole." We broke up not too long after that. Just a very traumatic experience for two people sitting in a car and eating donuts and drinking coffee.
A friend of mine when she was 14 had a boyfriend at that time who was in his thirties. There are lots of younger women who like older men as "boyfriends".
Dude this is all really creepy. That is a no go. You do realize she could still be in high school, it may be illegal to do the do based on your state, and is severely looked down upon by others. You do realize that she is not even allowed to drink, less than one year ago she is able to sign legal documents, smoke, and be considered an adult, and only 2 years ago did she start driving! that is ridiculously young for a 27 year old dude. If she is into you it is most likely for the wrong reasons. We are still missing vital info however, 5K pr?
This tells me a lot about your immaturity and that you likely are intimidated by women your age who likely make more money that you do and will have opinions and life experiences.
My guess is she is using you probably because you buy her booze.
I guess enjoy it, but if you have to come onto a message board to talk about, I am guessing you are insecure about it or think everyone will think you are cool because you are banging an 18 year old.
dbsquirt21 wrote:
Dude this is all really creepy. That is a no go. You do realize she could still be in high school, it may be illegal to do the do based on your state, and is severely looked down upon by others. You do realize that she is not even allowed to drink, less than one year ago she is able to sign legal documents, smoke, and be considered an adult, and only 2 years ago did she start driving! that is ridiculously young for a 27 year old dude. If she is into you it is most likely for the wrong reasons. We are still missing vital info however, 5K pr?
She is in college. I am aware the drinking age in America is 21. Thanks for the tip though.
I'm not looking for anything serious or long term. I just figured we could have some fun together for awhile. Not too many 18 year old college freshman are looking for husbands.
The thing that has be thrown off with the whole deal is that I sometimes work at the local high school with girls who are only slightly younger than her, so it definitely would not look good to my supervisors or to my students' parents. Shit happens in life though. I don't do drugs or have kids. There are worse stories out there.
Hard rule's about age and love are generally stupid. If you're not comfortable with it, then it probably won't work out in the long run.
However, there are probably thousands of couples that fit this profile, and I can assure you that not all of them are "morally wrong", or "losers".
The Old Biddies come out to scold you and hit you with their umbrellas!
luv2run wrote:
This tells me a lot about your immaturity and that you likely are intimidated by women your age who likely make more money that you do and will have opinions and life experiences.
My guess is she is using you probably because you buy her booze.
I guess enjoy it, but if you have to come onto a message board to talk about, I am guessing you are insecure about it or think everyone will think you are cool because you are banging an 18 year old.
You can always compare yourself to all varying degrees of what someone might do that would be inappropriate and always be able to say it could be worse.
If you were 40 and she was 31 it would not be so wierd.
At 18 she is one year older than a minor. She is not capable of making mature decisions at that age even though she appears to be able to.
I coach girls that age. I couldn't imagine them dating a 27 year old for fun. Yikes!!!
This is wrong. You asked.
Not a big deal. My 15 yo daughter is dating a 30 yo guy. They aren't having sex, fortunately
Yeah we would NEEEEEEEEEEEEVER have sex until she is 18. Only 3 more years to go!
I am friends with a 39 year old woman and we're getting pizza on Friday, and I don't see anything weird with that. By the way I'm 21. We both enjoy each others company and like to talk about life, religion, physics, psychology, philosophy, et cetera. It's fine, go and date her, have fun and play safe! Age is but a number, if you feel it's right and it's not illegal, do it, f*ck what people think.
oh but it is wrote:
Exacz wrote:Life experience and maturity are not dependent on age.
Oh, but they are. Any responsible 27 year old is way more mature than an 18 year old. Now if the ages were like 27/25 you might have a point.
No, they aren't. There are 30 year olds that have never left small towns. There are 18 year olds that have traveled around the world, worked multiple jobs, and experienced all sorts of social situations. Such an 18 yr old has way more life experience than the 30 yr old.
otter wrote:
At 18 she is one year older than a minor. She is not capable of making mature decisions at that age even though she appears to be able to.
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Just like they're are 27 year olds that can't make mature decisions. People vary.
"Life experience" does not equal maturity. Read the post. "Responsible 27 year old" is a key phrase.
An 18 year old's brain and decision making is not fully developed. Taking advantage of that is ill advised and for some, unethical.
Forgot this link above.
http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=141164708
What is the problem?
Exacz wrote:
oh but it is wrote:Oh, but they are. Any responsible 27 year old is way more mature than an 18 year old. Now if the ages were like 27/25 you might have a point.
No, they aren't. There are 30 year olds that have never left small towns. There are 18 year olds that have traveled around the world. Such an 18 yr old has way more life experience than the 30 yr old.
Lol at the rich white kid from the suburbs who thinks mommy and daddy paying for you to take a gap year and travel to Europe makes you cultured instead of just spoiled. Travel is a privilege of the rich, not a life changing experience.