Reasons to Not Have Kids

no kids wrote:

6. US will become a Third World Spanish-Speaking Country in the next 50-100 years.

Of course, if you and a bunch of other people like you keep up with your "i don't want kids" thinking, this will become true faster than you think. Look at Europe. Europeans are not breeding. Immigrants are...rapidly!

I relate to all of your reasons you described but mostly to the simplicty of: I just don't want to raise kids.

I never wanted kids as long ss I can remember - grade school. All I kept hearing is: "Well, you might reconsider someday" or "You'll never find a girl who feels the same way".

Well, I'm turning 40 this year and I only found this feeling to grow with age, not reverse. Every woman I've dated, I made it very clear about my position on children and reminded them over and over that I'm not undecided on this in any way. It's the life I want and I know it.

The great thing is: I've found a number of women who feel as I do and many of them are still childless today.

I have a woman now who is a highly educated, really athletic, ealy thirties, who grew up in a large family of older siblings. She spent most of her growing years baby-sitting and caring for her siblings kids and found herself burnt out by the time she reached college.

She wanted a man who loved her, to work out and travel and have a little money to go live a nice adventurous life together.

She found me and I am the luckiest guy ever.

The kids in our lives are our sibling's kids and they love that we can help out from time to time, but we enjoy our lives. We are so happy. We are the fun Uncles and Aunts of our families.

I don't judge others either. I see those who have kids and that is exactly what they wanted and are equally as happy and live every day for those kids. There's this guy I know who is super Dad. He absolutely loves being one.

I just want to be super free and I am.

I've got kids and love it, even though they are expensive, and limit some freedoms (see expensive). They also open up realms that are not there without kids.

One possibility for you is what my brothers have done -- be awesome uncles. They enjoy the kids almost as much as I do, but they don't have the responsibilities.

All a man needs is a good loyal dog.

Heres a way to make kids less expensive: don't pay for their college. Have them take out loans.

rolo wrote:

Surprise! wrote:

7. I'm too selfish to sacrifice my own time.

I've never understood the mindset that not having children is selfish. Many parents I know have children for selfish reasons (I want a baby!). Anyone who considers having children a "sacrifice" should not have children.

It was a "sacrifice" for me and the Mrs. We were having a little fertility trouble. Doctors couldn't help, so we ended up sacrificing a goat to Aphrodite. Worked like a charm!

Here are a few more reasons not to have kids:

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1. You don't want to experience things from a new perspective every day

2. You don't want to read bedtime stories to someone who looks up to you more than you feel you deserve.

3. You don't want to receive heartfelt handmade gifts for your birthdays or father/mother's day

4. You don't want to watch or(worse yet) coach youth sports teams on weekends

5. You don't want to watch a person you raised grow up, achieve independence, and become an adult that you admire

Yeah, we regret having you, too.

Well.... wrote:

Here are a few more reasons not to have kids:

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1. You don't want to experience things from a new perspective every day

2. You don't want to read bedtime stories to someone who looks up to you more than you feel you deserve.

3. You don't want to receive heartfelt handmade gifts for your birthdays or father/mother's day

4. You don't want to watch or(worse yet) coach youth sports teams on weekends

5. You don't want to watch a person you raised grow up, achieve independence, and become an adult that you admire

You can do 1 and 4 (coach) with or without kids. And something tells me you have kids, which based on the OP's request you have no reason to reply.

The Stache wrote:

Of course, if you and a bunch of other people like you keep up with your "i don't want kids" thinking, this will become true faster than you think. Look at Europe. Europeans are not breeding. Immigrants are...rapidly!

Yeah, and look at the way the relative proportion of global net wealth has shifted along with that population shift... oh, wait, it hasn't.

Why hasn't anyone talked about adoption? How selfish is it to live in an overpopulated world & bring more kids into it? If you want a kid or kids, adopt & help the world out!

Impossible Dream wrote:

Mr. Obvious wrote:

Why do you need any reasons beyond the first two? Kids are expensive and limit your free time (and money to do things in that free time). Some people find that this is a worthwhile trade-off. Other people don't. If you don't want to have kids then there is no reason to justify that decision to anybody but yourself.

+1000

Spot on. If you don't want kids, you SHOULDN'T have kids.

Wrong. If you don't want kids, you shouldn't have sex. If you have sex, and create a child, you shouldn't murder, in womb or out.

Well.... wrote:

Here are a few more reasons not to have kids:

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1. You don't want to experience things from a new perspective every day

2. You don't want to read bedtime stories to someone who looks up to you more than you feel you deserve.

3. You don't want to receive heartfelt handmade gifts for your birthdays or father/mother's day

4. You don't want to watch or(worse yet) coach youth sports teams on weekends

5. You don't want to watch a person you raised grow up, achieve independence, and become an adult that you admire

6. You don't want to watch your kid potentially become a drugged out loser or a stripper.

laughingostrich wrote:

6. You don't want to watch your kid potentially become a drugged out loser or a stripper.

Or any other sub-species of Democrat.

Always assumed I'd be a lousy father.

Not Quite Right wrote:

Wrong. If you don't want kids, you shouldn't have sex. If you have sex, and create a child, you shouldn't murder, in womb or out.

Oh dear God. Please.

Or greedy rich Republican bastard who disowns you for most of your life then shows up to collect his inheritance anyway.

1) Because you can't find a woman to have your babies.

Well.... wrote:

Here are a few more reasons not to have kids:

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1. You don't want to experience things from a new perspective every day

2. You don't want to read bedtime stories to someone who looks up to you more than you feel you deserve.

3. You don't want to receive heartfelt handmade gifts for your birthdays or father/mother's day

4. You don't want to watch or(worse yet) coach youth sports teams on weekends

5. You don't want to watch a person you raised grow up, achieve independence, and become an adult that you admire

It's awfully sad for you that you couldn't experience things from a new perspective before you had kids.

I don't want to read bedtime stories, I don't want to receive handmade gifts for mother's day, and I don't want to bring a new person into the world in order to help them grow up. Thanks for helping confirm my decision to be childfree :)

I can still coach youth sports and be involved in other people's lives in a positive way. I don't understand why it would be any better to create a new life to raise rather than spending my time and energy on helping people who are already in existence.