Does she wear Vibrams?
Does she wear Vibrams?
not true at all...not even close...Sometimes people cheat because their relationship is terrible..Im not saying that makes it ok, but when people claim a cheater will always cheat they are dead wrong.
Always remember this. There is no better revenge(not that you should do this for that reason) then to move on with your life and be happy. That is probably why she is attracted to you again to begin with. but she sounds like one of those types that will get you back, and then tear you down all over again. So, my advice, end it.
Amen. That's the truth, whether you want to hear it or not.
hartbroken get realistic wrote:
This isn't easy to do, as emotional attachments with first loves can be strong. But re-kindling this relationship sounds dubious. This woman sounds like she wants to be the center of attention - all of the time - and with her boyfriend gone - she turns to you for that attention. One way or another you will be suffering with insecurities, and it is you, not her, who will end up being taught a lesson. Have some humility.
I have posted before on this subject, and the dating world for young guys - particularly educated young guys with a lot on the ball - is not what it seems. Yes, the numbers are in your favor, and the numbers situation - if you are an honest guy who works hard - only gets better as you get older. But the picture in reality is far different. For whatever reason, I find only 1 in 20 (maybe subject to argument) of women are ones that guys can grow and develop with without taking on endless emotional baggage and putting in more than will be returned. That 1 in 20 is not riven with insecurities, gets guys and their antics with their friends, is comfortable with them, is secure in her own femininity and self, and doesn't need to be the center of attention to be happy. Moreover, that 1 in 20 also invariably has solid girlfriends, and isn't competitive and catty with them (a sure sign of whether a woman is insecure). The problem is that the 1 in 20 get taken out of the market early - there are guys out there who know them when they see them and intuit how much better life can be with a 1 in 20 type woman (this element far surpasses looks and so on - especially when you factor in just how much work a long term relationship can be) and make sure they keep them. Hartbroken, go out and try and find that 1 in 20 - someone who can grow with, rather than try and teach an old flame a lesson.
hartbroken wrote:
but she needs to get taught a lesson.
one word: ANAL
that'll teach 'er