Thread about roommate coming out of the closet, and feeling uncomfortable

Deleting threads - maybe one of the many moderators has a latent homosexual urge and so deletes everything related. Just a thought. But who cares! I believe the main reason for deletions is that they don't want to see a hateful anti-gay thread get started. That is not what letsrun is about.

Wejo told me once that there was just too many deletions and posts for him to monitor - i.e. what was deleted etc. How about Employee #1 and Rojo? Is employee #1 still around?

Do you feel comfortable doing your intervals...thats the only thing that important here

If he asks to get into your strides, he may not be referring to be doing some short sprints with you

If he came out to you, that means he trusts you and thinks you're a good enough friend to handle knowing he's gay. It's still tough for a gay man out there... people don't just come out at random.

The question is: are you worth his trust?

The O.P. is a WOMAN!!!

why discomfort? wrote: News flash: gay men like other gay men. They aren't going to hit on straight men.

Actually, they do hit on straight men, as this news story documents-

What makes you uncomfortable about her?

Remember that just because she is a lesbian does not mean she is going to hit on you. Learning that someone close to you is a lesbian/gay can take time to process; give yourself a week or two. Remember, It Gets Better.

I've had straight male roommates in the past and they didn't care that I was gay; I wasn't interested in any of them.

I had a bisexual female and straight female as roommates; they were friends and slept in the same bed but weren't intimate. They said the thought of being sexual with the other was disgusting, like a sister.

It comes down to why your roommate now makes you uncomfortable whereas before she didn't.

Mr. Obvious wrote:

The O.P. is a WOMAN!!!

Yes. I know. Nowhere was it ever mentioned that her roommate was, though. And people have been referring to 'him' without being corrected so the OP's roommate is probably male.

wqqqqqqqq wrote:

The question is: are you worth his trust?

Such ridiculous BS.

the question is: is having his trust worth anything? and the answer is probably no.

To clarify, my roommate is female this was random rooming so I did not know them before. I am not living with them next year (that was already decided before she came out) and we "get along" but as acquaintances and just make small talk. She didn't come out specifically to me, it was in front of a group of our friends who live in the same dorm. We have not talked much since then but that is standard... I try to get it out of my head, but it keeps coming back...

call me bi*ch wrote:

I understand your concern. My college roommate came out of the closet and soon thereafter expressed she had feelings for me. She and a few of her friends made a pass at me [late] one night and that was the end of that. I had her kicked out of college and lived roommate free for the entire year. It was glorious!

Good luck!

That's great. Well done. Kinda reminds me of when we had the "school f a g" arrested back in high school. Someone claimed they saw him coming out of the basketball locker room whe he shouldn't have been in there. We all naturally claimed to have had money, watches and stuff stolen. He took the blame and was sent to juvenile hall. All these years later and it still makes me laugh.

I don't see any difference in having a gay male roommate than having a fat girl roommate. Both are people who could conceivably have sexual interest in me, but I would have none in them. I don't see the problem. The only problem I could imagine is if you suspect you might do something you don't want to do and then the problem is yours.

My best friend in college came out freshman year, it was a little adjustment at first, not because any of us were bothered by it, but because it's just one facet of his personality that was now out there that we knew about. It's kinda like when your non-running friends find out that you run over an hour a day... takes some getting used to, but whatever (not the best analogy, but you get the idea). Of course, all the connotations that our country puts on that stuff make it a little more serious, but honestly, it's not that big of a deal. Like any situation where you learn something new and important about a friend, it's on your mind a lot at first, then it's just how things are. Offer your support if you're willing (just don't be patronizing) or remain polite and natural if you're struggling with it (just don't be icy) and above all, don't be an ass about it. Enjoy your friendship, and trust me, it only changes things as much as you let it.

themanontherun wrote:

Offer your support if you're willing (just don't be patronizing) or remain polite and natural if you're struggling with it (just don't be icy) and above all, don't be an ass about it. Enjoy your friendship, and trust me, it only changes things as much as you let it.

I for one still believe in right and wrong. I assure you that if I knew someone like this who admitted to being a homosexual, we would no longer be friends. You can call that being an ass or anything else you want. I don't care. People don't need to tolerate that behavior if they don't want to. We have enough of that "acceptance" shit shoved down our throats by the media.

Tommy Justice wrote:

I for one still believe in right and wrong. I assure you that if I knew someone like this who admitted to being a homosexual, we would no longer be friends. You can call that being an ass or anything else you want. I don't care. People don't need to tolerate that behavior if they don't want to. We have enough of that "acceptance" shit shoved down our throats by the media.

I don't call it being an ass, I call it being a f***ing ignorant dipshit. Big difference. I suspect your attitude and aggression towards homosexuals stems from your own repression of urges you have towards the same sex.

Tonight, when I go to bed, I am going to say a special prayer to Jebus that your first born son grows up to look, and act, exactly like Johnny Weir.

Classic response. Anytime a person doesn't agree with going along with the homosexual agenda, accuse that person of also being homosexual. Boy you really showed me.

That's a lot like arguing with someone and one person finally says, "yeah well f*** you". Boy that really scores points. When you don't have facts to back up your side, just throw something stupid out to the other person. C'mon, get a new routine.

Tommy Justice wrote:

I for one still believe in right and wrong. I assure you that if I knew someone like this who admitted to being a homosexual, we would no longer be friends. You can call that being an ass or anything else you want. I don't care. People don't need to tolerate that behavior if they don't want to. We have enough of that "acceptance" shit shoved down our throats by the media.

It's nice to talk in hypotheticals. Can you assure us that if one day your son tells you that he's gay, you'd turn your back on him? Please do report back to us once you do have a good friend or family remember that turns out to be gay.

I do agree that the "acceptance shit", as you so eloquently put it, is a bit over the top. But tolerance is another thing. You don't have to agree with or support anything, but you do have to tolerate it.

Hey man....I can't help it if you're ignorant, and unable to distinguish acceptance vs tolerance vs threat to your masculinity.

Tommy Justice wrote:

themanontherun wrote:

Offer your support if you're willing (just don't be patronizing) or remain polite and natural if you're struggling with it (just don't be icy) and above all, don't be an ass about it. Enjoy your friendship, and trust me, it only changes things as much as you let it.

I for one still believe in right and wrong. I assure you that if I knew someone like this who admitted to being a homosexual, we would no longer be friends. You can call that being an ass or anything else you want. I don't care. People don't need to tolerate that behavior if they don't want to. We have enough of that "acceptance" shit shoved down our throats by the media.

"Anytime a person doesn't agree with going along with the homosexual agenda, accuse that person of also being homosexual."

WTF is a "homosexual agenda"?

And the penile plethysmogrpah doesn't lie, even if people lie to themselves:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/8772014

"Only the homophobic men showed an increase in penile erection to male homosexual stimuli. The groups did not differ in aggression. Homophobia is apparently associated with homosexual arousal that the homophobic individual is either unaware of or denies."