does having overweight friends hurt you?

No, not a troll, the reply from some posters is just b.s. to be honest--although obviously not a surprise given the forum but still, I will dish out what is received. I was trying to get feedback from other runners about truly how they have dealt with this type of situation. I do not WANT to end my friendship with these people. I just feel more and more like I'm losing myself. Anyway, to the people who said that they deserve better friends and I'm a horrible mean person or whatever . . . look in the mirror, only someone who is actually mean would say those things, whether on a running forum or not. But whatever. Obviously I have to make my own decisions. FYI I'm not competitive in my 20s. More like in my 30s trying to maintain a healthy lifestyle, which includes a lot of running. And thank you to those who repied seriously . . . I have had the same thing--pressure to stay out late is one of them--when I want to start earlier and finish earlier so that I can run in the morning. Only so many hours in life to get in workouts and I can't do them on 4 hours of sleep.

I support you, girl!

I once was friends with a heel-striker, who was otherwise a nice person. But, I managed to get a shin splints and ITBS just from hanging out with him. One day, I told him that I didn't approve of his running form and felt he had issues to deal with that I couldn't help him with. We didn't hang out much after that... I assume because of my candor in confronting him about his habits. Either that, or because I boned his little sister.

Meant to say thanks for this reply.

NY TIMES

Obesity can spread from person to person, much like a virus, according to researchers. When one person gains weight, close friends tend to gain weight too.

Their study, published Thursday in the New England Journal of Medicine, involved a detailed analysis of a large social network of 12,067 people who had been closely followed for 32 years, from 1971 until 2003. The investigators knew who was friends with whom, as well as who was a spouse or sibling or neighbor, and they knew how much each person weighed at various times over three decades.

That let them watch what happened over the years as people became obese. Did their friends also become obese? Did family members? Or neighbors?

The answer, the researchers report, was that people were most likely to become obese when a friend became obese. That increased one's chances of becoming obese by 57 percent.

There was no effect when a neighbor gained or lost weight, however, and family members had less of an influence than friends. It did not even matter if the friend was hundreds of miles away - the influence remained. And the greatest influence of all was between mutual close friends. There, if one became obese, the other had a 171 percent increased chance of becoming obese too.

The same effect seemed to occur for weight loss, the investigators say, but since most people were gaining, not losing, over the 32 years, the result was an obesity epidemic.

Dr. Nicholas Christakis, a physician and professor of medical sociology at Harvard Medical School and a principal investigator in the new study, says one explanation is that friends affect each others' perception of fatness. When a close friend becomes obese, obesity may not look so bad.

"You change your idea of what is an acceptable body type by looking at the people around you," Christakis said.

The investigators say their findings can help explain why Americans became fatter in recent years: Persons who became obese were likely to drag some friends with them.

Their analysis was unique, Christakis said, because it moved beyond a simple analysis of one person and his or her social contacts, and instead examined an entire social network at once, looking at how a friend's friends' friends, or a spouse's siblings' friends, could have an influence on a person's weight. The effects, Christakis said, "highlight the importance of a spreading process, a kind of social contagion, that spreads through the network."

Of course, the investigators say, social networks are not the only factors that affect body weight. There is a strong genetic component at work too.

Science has shown that individuals have genetically determined ranges of weights, spanning perhaps 30 or so pounds, or 13.5 kilograms, for each person. But that leaves a large role for the environment in determining whether a person's weight is near the top of his or her range or near the bottom. As people have gotten fatter, it appears that many are edging toward the top of their ranges. The question has been why.

If the new research is correct, it might mean that something in the environment seeded what many call an obesity epidemic, making a few people gain weight. Then social networks let the obesity spread rapidly.

It also might mean that the way to avoid becoming fat is to avoid having fat friends.

That is not the message they meant to convey, say the study investigators, Christakis and his colleague James Fowler, an associate professor of political science at the University of California in San Diego. You don't want to lose a friend who becomes obese, Christakis said. Friends are good for your overall health, he explains.

So why not make friends with a thin person, he suggests, and let the thin person's behavior influence you and your obese friend?

That answer does not satisfy obesity researchers like Kelly Brownell, director of the Rudd Center for Food Policy and Obesity at Yale University.

"I think there's a great risk here in blaming obese people even more for things that are caused by a terrible environment," Brownell said.

On average, the investigators said, their rough calculations show that a person who became obese gained 17 pounds, and the newly obese person's friend gained 5 pounds. But some gained less or did not gain at all, while others gained much more.

Those extra pounds were added onto the natural increases in weight that occur when people get older. What usually happened was that peoples' weights got high enough to push them over the boundary, a body mass index of 30, that divides overweight and obese. (For example, a man 6 feet, or 1.8 meters, tall who went from 220 pounds to 225 would go from being overweight to obese.)

While other researchers were surprised by the findings, the big surprise for Christakis was that he could do the study at all. He got the idea for it from all the talk of an obesity epidemic.

"One day I said, 'Maybe it really is an epidemic. Maybe it spreads from person to person,' " Christakis recalled.

It was only by chance that he discovered a way to find out. He learned that the data he needed were contained in a large U.S. federal study of heart disease that had followed the population of Framingham, Massachusetts, for decades, keeping track of nearly every one of its participants.

The study's records included each participant's address and the names of family members. In order for the researchers to be sure they did not lose track of their subjects, all were asked to name close friends who would know where they were at the time of their next exam, in roughly four years. Since much of the town and most of the subjects' relatives were participating, the data contained all that Christakis and his colleagues needed to reconstruct the social network and follow it for 32 years.

Their research has taken obesity specialists and social scientists aback. But many say the finding is path-breaking and can shed new light on how and why people have gotten so fat so fast.

"It is an extraordinarily subtle and sophisticated way of getting a handle on aspects of the environment that are not normally considered," said Dr. Rudolph Leibel, an obesity researcher at Columbia University in New York.

Dr. Richard Suzman, who directs the office of behavioral and social research programs at the U.S. National Institute on Aging, called it "one of the most exciting studies to come out of medical sociology in decades." The National Institute on Aging funded the study.

But Dr. Stephen O'Rahilly, an obesity researcher at the University of Cambridge in England, says the very uniqueness of the Framingham data is going to make it hard to try to replicate the new findings. No other study he knows of has the same sort of long term and detailed data on social interactions.

"When you come upon things that inherently look a bit implausible, you raise the bar for standards of proof," O'Rahilly said. "Good science is all about replication, but it is hard to see how science will ever replicate this."

I read a book that said something similar based on similar data, but I thought it said that it's actually more likely that you will be fat if a friend of a friend of a friend is fat than if just a friend is (three degrees of separation rather than one). I could be mistaken, since it's been a while since I read it.

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