Red flag? Attractive, fit, 30 year old woman has never been in a relationship

No, it is not a red flag. Given that you are posting a relationship question on this forum, I can only assume that you haven’t been in a relationship either.

I am not but I hate to break it to you, women can be career focused as well. Just because she is attractive doesn't negate that.

Almost made a serious reply, then saw this! I love it!

Nothing 'wrong' with working there, but I doubt a Starbucker and an MD have the same responsibilities, time available, pressure, professional requirements etc.

Or do your Starbuckers now require a doctorate in Barista...maybe you are confusing it with Barrister

Not what I said. An attractive female is much less likely to remain single until 35 because lots of men would pursue her even if she put no effort into relationships, which is why it's different from your situation.

I can't believe you found a painting of myself.

Yeah it's a bright red flag.

I know countless independent, motivated, career oriented women that still squeezed in relationships during med school and residency. It was so common infact that it would be super weird if they didn't.

Pics???

A "relationship" [ semi committed at least] is one thing. But did you instead just have hookups or friends with benefits? I can't imagine zero love life.

[ and the same question concerns OP's new crush]

Without knowing much about her, there could be literally all kinds of reasons she has never dated:

She is asexual, any multitude of religious beliefs, she's decided to wait until she is older so she can focus on her career, she is lying to you because she is not interested in you and feels it's an easy explanation to avoid offending you, she may have a relationship-inhibiting health problem (viral, anatomical, etc.), she may be a sex abuse victim who can't cope with romantic relationships, she may suffer from paranoia, her expectation of an ideal partner may be too high, she may have a false image of herself as being unattractive due to various incorrect unfair criticisms, she may have ugly duckling syndrome, she has to spend extra time taking care of a disabled family member, etc.

That list probably only scratches the surface of all the possibilities. It seems like the OP barely knows this chick and has jumped to shallow vapid conclusions. Our society places way too much pressure on individuals to be romantically involved with others. People choose to not have romantic relationships for all kinds of reasons. Some people would date if they could, but it's not practical for them or their would be partner and they can't.

everyone has red flags, just go for it

I thought this was a running site not Dr Ruth

Yes, an intense career doesn’t make much sense as an excuse to not have relationships. Having a partner actually makes things easier because of responsibility sharing and emotional support. Delaying kids is understandable though.

Wow. A man with breasts.

to me you're acting like a 16 year old obsessing over whether to ask someone out, that he barely knows. just keep chatting at run club and if you get along, let it flow somewhere. if she dislikes you, it'll wither naturally. if she enjoys your company, chat more. if it gets flirty, ask her out. if not, you made a friend. you really don't need to sort out her romantic history and intentions to get that far. just go with the flow.

it's a bit objectified. bunch of surface detail and relationship history. maybe figure out if she's fun to be around before worrying about the rest.

The cope fantasies from the incels and idealists in this thread is laughably sad. You guys are biting on an obvious 1/10 and need to go outside, talk to actual people, touch grass, etc.