"Young people are having less sex"

Statistically that is incorrect.

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An increasingly small number of men are having sex with an increasingly large number of women. They are creating virtual harems, much to the detriment of themselves, the women, the children they inevitably produce, and society at large.

Sounds like you don’t realize you are not actually disagreeing with my precisely worded comment.

No, I’m not.

Actually I can even strengthen my claim to: the sex encounters per capita for men is slightly but systematically higher than those for women.

They simply haven't got the money to spend all their late teens and twenties in bars, not their fault.

I spend my whole early twenties in pubs clubs and had a huge amount of partners.

They live in a online world now, where everyone's sober. I spent my early twenties drunk and banging away, and women did too.

They've just been born into an awful time.

This is true- A few years ago when I was 59 a 27 year old woman asked me out. I was actually shocked, she was HOTTTTT and red headed. She was a local model.

Now, I, like many of you, have been running and fit since I was 12. I have good genes and look younger. I also come from a generation that "knows how to treat" a woman.

She told me that most guys in her age range are overweight and out of shape. They have ungroomed beards and hair. Don't know how to dress and have the emotional security of a middle school boy.

I started paying attention and she was right.

Be a "man". Be a gentleman- polite, assertive without arrogance.

Most guys just can't get a girl and don't know what to do it they do get one.

This is the fakest thing I've read. Your fantasies aren't reality

He's right. If you're a single man in your 40s-50s who has a good job, nice car, house, and take good care of yourself, you can date down into the 20s with no problem if you want to.

I was a college coach for a bit and while not being too much older (10-15 years) than the athletes, their college experience was VASTLY different than mine. Here are a few things that stood out.

1. They seemed to be “younger” some had never gotten a drivers license, almost all had never worked, very few had ever dated. Their parents had a strong strong influence on their life still, knew their grades class schedules, tracked their locations etc. Granted college is so expensive now it is almost impossible to not rely on parents for finances or a place to live.

2. Socially, screen time was their only outlet. We did a fun experiment, what’s more your miles per week or your hours of screen time. Only a few of the higher mileage upperclassmen out ran their phone usage (most likely with a phone on their wrist mind you).

3. Depression and medication. over 60% of the group was on some sort of behavior modification medication from their childhood and even more were on anti depressants.

I could go on but those are three factors that I saw. When I was in school there were no smart phone, social media was young and when you left for school you had to grow up.

Over medicated, over stimulated, and not allowed to be an adult

Reporting is the issue here.

In years past, no man would have admitted to being a failure at sex, much less to a survey of any form.

Today, weakness is a virtue and hence perhaps we are seeing the real numbers finally, i.e., more guys are having sex with with multiple girls than girls having sex with multiple guys.

I'm 63 married and pretty fit. I constantly meet women who, if not for being married, I could hook up with. Most men do not take care of themselves, plenty of women like that too.

If you are fit and have a decent job you single guys should slay

Guys need to stop chasing after the city c@m buckets and get proper cultured rural ladies.As a black African man , the day I decided to get a decent village girl and ignore the hoodrats was one of the best of my life.

Why wouldn't more women be gay?

I am a man. I am attracted to women. I can't look at a man and say, "he is sexually attractive to me."

I find it perplexing that ANYONE, male or female, could find a man sexually attractive. You would think that all men would be heterosexual and all women homosexual based on the overwhelming beauty supremacy held by women, but somehow some people have a brain malfunction that wants to be with a hairy, fat man.

Always funny to see liberal women crap all over liberal men.

Video games, readily accessible online porn, and a long term trend of atomization of young people through the employment opportunities available to them are my top three. I was not at all a social butterfly when I was in my 20s in the 1990s. But I never played video games (except for the occasional nostalgia run at Galaga at my local pizza place). Today, there are guys in their 20s who will come home from work and play video games well into the wee hours. These are both a time suck and a replacement for going to bars or hanging out with friends because they can play games with friends online and have the same sort of social interaction they would have at a bar.

Back in the 1990s, you had to make a trip to the skeevy road by the airport and go in person to buy a video tape for $49.99 if you wanted porn. Now, you can have unlimited free porn of any flavor on your phone at anywhere you are and at any time of day. That certainly affects the motivation to play the whole dating game and deal with rejection, etc.

Finally, young people are generally plucked from college and thrown far and wide geographically into a job world where many are not even going to an office and even among those who do have social interaction with coworkers, they are strictly forbidden from dating and have to resign if they want to date another employee. I met my wife at work. But today, that has become very difficult. So, unless you have a strong group of friends who stay together after college (or from HS that stay close through college), odds are that you will wind up in a different city working a job with a bunch of random people. Your social life is no existent because a lot of people you work with are older and have kids and the younger ones do not want to get involved with coworkers. Unless you are an alpha who can meet some bros at the gym and then go with them to a bar to meet women, you will probably end up socially isolated after college.

If you are waiting until you are done with college and in the workforce to start looking for someone to have sex with you, then you're doing it wrong.

You could have just typed "why don't women want me?" since that's what you really mean. Dude - women aren't obtainable via a 'cheat code', and no PUA or other seminar-selling con man can provide you with the secret to picking up trashy women. I'll give you the secret for free - make yourself into a person who is attractive to other people. Get off the message boards, develop some life experience and a sense of humor, drop the whiny sense of entitlement, and amazingly, you might find a partner in life.

If there is so much porn, then obviously there is a lot of sex going on.

So by that logic, you are against birth control and abortion because you want to control women and think it's preventing men from getting "sex" that they are entitled to? Did I get this correct? That's disgusting. Also, many women do not want to date men right now because they do not want to be forced into a role where they are pressured to cook, clean and take care of that man like she is his Mother, without the added benefit of emotional maturity from that man, and being treated like an equal rather than just someone there who is supposed to give them sex whenever they feel like it in return for "protection". Now that we have the means (education, more equal opportunity) to take care of ourselves and aren't forced to marry in order to "not starve" and be homeless, yeah, our standards for men are going to high, and they include, like I said earlier, respect, emotional maturity, sensitivity etc, things that a lot of men these days lack because they have never been taught how to treat women well as fellow human beings, nor have they been pushed to reflect on their own faults and try to improve themselves as a prospective partner in a romantic/emotional relationship. Woman are not all shallow, it's not all about money and looks, and it's good that they are picky. I hope society changes for the better, BECAUSE more men are finding out that women do not want to date them if they are not emotionally mature, caring/compassionate, empathetic people who are willing to share child/house work chores/responsibilities and are forced to do some much needed self-improvement in those arenas.